I have posted here a few times and I always get the best advice from you all! So I just started a new kid yesterday and he took a great nap which was my saving grace for the day. He is a 1 on 1 child. He was turning all my lights on and off all day even after being told not to every time. He broke a toy after being told to stop doing that with it all morning. and then he ended the day by slapping a baby across the face because he wanted to play in the kitchen center with the new child. When mom came for pick up I told her about his day and her response to him slapping another child was "oh, that doesn't surprise me." And I followed up with, "yeah, thats something we are going to have to work on." To be honest I don't even want him to come back tomorrow. I have a 1 week trial period in my contract and I want to use that, but I don't know if I am just being to critical of his first day. But man, he was EXTREMELY comfortable for his first day.
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I wouldn't necessarily term just yet.Tell the child that if he does whatever again that he will be placed into timeout and not allowed to play and if you have a behavior sheet, write a sad face on his sheet and a note explaining what happened and what was done about it. And if the child has a good day,put a happy face on his behavior shioeet
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I'd term. :hug:
The kid I might be able to change with effort and time, but not his mom.
IMPE, mom's who say things like that about their own kid like the fact that their kid is "difficult" because it nets them (mom) attention (histrionic feed). The kid also feeds into it because it nets them attention from mom whether negative or positive (behavior plan rewards).
* I am also assuming the child is over 3 since they can reach light switches.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Originally posted by 284878 View PostGo with your gut. If you have a trial period and you want to end care. Then just say that x is not a good fit for your dc. Depending on your policy, have the refund ready.
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Originally posted by springvalley112 View PostI wouldn't necessarily term just yet.Tell the child that if he does whatever again that he will be placed into timeout and not allowed to play and if you have a behavior sheet, write a sad face on his sheet and a note explaining what happened and what was done about it. And if the child has a good day,put a happy face on his behavior shioeet
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Originally posted by Cat Herder View PostI'd term. :hug:
The kid I might be able to change with effort and time, but not his mom.
IMPE, mom's who say things like that about their own kid like the fact that their kid is "difficult" because it nets them (mom) attention (histrionic feed). The kid also feeds into it because it nets them attention from mom whether negative or positive (behavior plan rewards).
* I am also assuming the child is over 3 since they can reach light switches.
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Originally posted by Cat Herder View PostThe kid I might be able to change with effort and time, but not his mom.
I can fix kid issues that happen at daycare but ONLY if the parent is on the same page as I am.
If not, I won't waste anyone's time.
A physically aggressive child is not a child I am willing to continue caring for all too often and NEVER if the parent simply blows it off like its no big deal or not their problem.
I can also guarantee those types of parents are the type that flip a lid if their child is hit by someone else so..
I vote term.
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Is he not full time? It sounded like he's not there today. I think, IIWM, I'd give it until the end of this week but warn dcm when you see her what the outcome will most likely be. Deciding factors for me would be how well the parents back you up and your incoming infant.
I agree with you when you say for a new child, he seems extremely comfortable. Usually it takes awhile for them to show their true colors before they let you have it with gusto. I wouldn't want to wait around to witness his next performances.
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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View PostThis is always my deciding factor.
I can fix kid issues that happen at daycare but ONLY if the parent is on the same page as I am.
If not, I won't waste anyone's time.
A physically aggressive child is not a child I am willing to continue caring for all too often and NEVER if the parent simply blows it off like its no big deal or not their problem.
I can also guarantee those types of parents are the type that flip a lid if their child is hit by someone else so..
I vote term.
I couldn't agree more! I have been thinking about it nonstop since last night and I think terming is the right choice in this situation.
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Originally posted by Josiegirl View PostIs he not full time? It sounded like he's not there today. I think, IIWM, I'd give it until the end of this week but warn dcm when you see her what the outcome will most likely be. Deciding factors for me would be how well the parents back you up and your incoming infant.
I agree with you when you say for a new child, he seems extremely comfortable. Usually it takes awhile for them to show their true colors before they let you have it with gusto. I wouldn't want to wait around to witness his next performances.
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