What would you do in this situation? I have one boy who arrives between 7:15 and 8. He always says he wants to eat yet as soon as he sits at the table he doesn't eat, he just sits there and plays around with his food or just stares at it, it's stuff he likes, his day says he eats some breakfast before he comes like an hour. This morning he wanted breakfast and I literally put 2 cherrios (no it's not right amount for food program) in his bowl and it took him 15 min to eat. I want to just not even offer him breakfast but he cried last time the others went in there to eat and he didn't yet he didn't want to eat. I even asked if he just wanted to sit there and he still said he wanted to. It's so irritating. Would you just not feed him?
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It depends on your food program rules.
Where I am, you only have to offer it or have enough of it on hand if they do want to eat it. For example, the two Cheerios are fine to give him as long as you have enough left in the cereal box to give him a full serving if he did eat the two Cheerios. If he doesn’t eat the two Cheerios, oh well, it was still available.
I give them smaller amounts than the recommended servings, too, because they drop and throw stuff on the floor. They don’t need to throw a whole serving of peas on the floor. Five peas is enough for me to pick up, as long as there’s enough peas in the pan to meet their serving requirements. Just because they don’t want to eat it doesn’t mean I need to give them the opportunity to throw it all on the floor.
For your situation, I would just verify with the parent he already ate and not even bother feeding him. I just wouldn’t count it as being served on the meal count sheet. The extra dishes to wash and dish soap and whatever he uses to wash up after eating just aren’t worth the $1.78 or whatever they’re paying today for one breakfast.
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I am not on the food program, but my state just made food program rules core regulations.
I have to serve everyone at the table, at the same time, with menu posted in advance and be seated within arms reach of them while they smack and slurp. It is a great way to start my day.
I'd move breakfast time until after the morning arrival cutoff, after everyone is there. One time serving and cleaning up. For all.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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I had a DCB that did this, I couldn't handle having him sit and cry. I talked his mom and explained that he was not eating breakfast (he came at 8:30) but eats snack at 9:45. He was at the time the only one in the morning. So she started feeding him breakfast. He now has others to eat with, so now he eats breakfast here again.
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I would still sit him down, offer him a minimal amount and remind him there's more when he finishes and see what happens. Based on your other comment, the first time he starts playing, remind him that the table is for eating, not playing and if he's done he can get up and go play. If he does it again, ask him if he's done. If yes, dismiss him. If not, warn him that he will have to leave the table and his food will be gone if he continues to play. When he starts messing around, tell him "it looks like you're done eating. Let's get you cleaned up and you can go play some more in the play area." That's how I would handle it the first time, to set the precedent that this is how it will go every time. After that, 1 reminder and then he's done.
When he fusses that he's hungry, remind him that he had the chance to eat, but he wanted to play instead so he'll have to try again next meal. It takes a few days, but they get the idea and the conversation about it stops because they know that it's in their control whether or not they remain at the table.
I have a saying, "tables are for eating, not playing." Obviously, they can talk and visit while they eat, but throwing food, kicking each other, etc isn't how we behave once we're a certain age.
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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View PostI stopped serving breakfast. It solved alot of behavioral issues we had in the morning and it freed up a lot of my time to transition into the day in more stress free way.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Originally posted by Cat Herder View PostThat sounds wonderful. I just don't want to give up the write-offs. ::
I serve snack at 9 a.m. and it has all the components of breakfast so it's counted as breakfast but we just don't use that word.
I then serve lunch and p.m. snack.
I still get the write off ...unless you mean tax wise and you write off breakfast, lunch and two snacks. Then I get where you are coming from but I've never claimed more than 2 meals and 1 snack so it works out the same for me.
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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View PostI serve snack at 9 a.m. and it has all the components of breakfast so it's counted as breakfast but we just don't use that word.
I then serve lunch and p.m. snack.
I still get the write off ...unless you mean tax wise and you write off breakfast, lunch and two snacks. Then I get where you are coming from but I've never claimed more than 2 meals and 1 snack so it works out the same for me.
8:30, 10:30, 12:30, 3:00, 5:00.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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