Child Got Grounded

[Unregistered]

A Child got grounded at home. DCM told me the daycare boy can't do such and such or have such and such. Do you follow what the mom said or sorry that's at home and daycare is daycare? Part of me says to follow the mom's wishes and the other part says mom doesn't make the rules at daycare. Advise? Anyone have that happen?

[Pandaluver21]

When I first started I had a kid that got grounded at home and mom said not to let him do anything but read. I (kind of) complied, and never will again :P
I wouldn't change the daily routine for any other reason, its just not usually fesable in group care.

[springv]

I would tell mom she can do as she pleases at home but daycare will stay the same and if she's not happy then she can find other care

[kendallina]

Heck no. Daycare is totally separate, I would not let a parent tell me what their child is able to do while in my care.

[Josiegirl]

Yep, dc is dc and home is home. I had a dcm who would constantly try to combine the same discipline methods and hers were completely different than mine. It led to too many issues, including the dcks begging me not to say anything and dcm constantly(!!) harping on if they were 'good or bad', no other conversations. So no, what I did at dc was my own doing and I learned to keep quieter about all those little 'normal' issues.

[Alwaysgreener]

If you grounded your child, would you call the school and tell them that they had to ground him too?
I wouldn't.

[CeriBear]

Nope. Daycare is totally separate. If a parent asked me to take away privileges at school just because their child is being disciplined at home I’d tell them no. I’m not going to change my routine or have Johnny sit out from playground fun just because he is being punished at home.

[Alwaysgreener]

I know agree to only allow him to participate in only the educational activities. Then make sure everything is educational for him. Lol

[Cat Herder]

The routine here does not change.

[rosieteddy]

DC stays the same.Punishment stays at home. Let her know DC is not a continuation of home.If its that important to her she can work at home,keeping her child with her until grounding is over.

[hwichlaz]

Doesn't fly at school or daycare.

[AmyKidsCo]

Nope, I don't carry out parents' punishments. My hubby and I don't even set a consequence for our kids and expect the other to carry it out. (Not that we don't support each other, but I wouldn't say "No TV tonight" on a night I wasn't going to be home.)

[daycarediva]

Oh heck no.

I FULLY support parents in helping create the best humans possible, BUTTTTTTTT I handle school issues here and they handle home issues at home. I VERY rarely bring up (age appropriate) behaviors because I don't expect the parents to 'secondary' discipline.