Dcb is 4.5 years old and he's been coming here for just over a year. I also "kind of" keep his brother but he's in kindergarten and mom has stopped working so she mostly drives him back and forth for school so I don't have him a lot. (She still pays me like normal).
He (4 yr old) has really regressed since she stopped working. They live with the grandparents (dcm's parents) and one of dcm's younger sisters still lives at home as well. It doesn't help that for some reason mom is really feeding the behavior.
He's being carried in like he's a one year old and then when she tries to put him down to sign in he freaks out. Sometimes are worse than others but it can range anywhere from just crying for her to pick him back up to totally screaming his face off and thrashing/kicking. So what she has started doing is handing him to me for me to hold him while she signs him in and hangs his coat. But this is driving me crazy! He is not a baby! He's way too big to be getting carried around and handed to the daycare provider at drop off. It makes it even more ridiculous because of the way she's talking to him/treating him as this is going on. Baby talking to him, making promises, bribes, telling him she'll pick him up before nap so he won't have to lay down (which is annoying by itself because half the time she tells him this and then texts me at lunch asking if he's been okay because she'd rather leave him if he's okay and not asking for her!)
This whole thing is extra obnoxious to me, especially since the second she walks out the door I am able to tell him to knock it off and he immediately goes right off to play with his friends, happy as a clam like nothing happened.
So far I've just resorted to passive aggressive comments when she hands him to me like "Petey you are WAY too big to be acting like this!" or "Mom what are your plans for when you're trying to drop him off at school this fall and he has no choice but to go?"
What do I say that is going to stop her from trying to hand him to me and what do I do/say when this nonsense behavior is going on? On a positive note, it doesn't last longer than 5-6 min, she's not trying to hang out or talk to me, she is pretty good at not prolonging it too much.
He (4 yr old) has really regressed since she stopped working. They live with the grandparents (dcm's parents) and one of dcm's younger sisters still lives at home as well. It doesn't help that for some reason mom is really feeding the behavior.
He's being carried in like he's a one year old and then when she tries to put him down to sign in he freaks out. Sometimes are worse than others but it can range anywhere from just crying for her to pick him back up to totally screaming his face off and thrashing/kicking. So what she has started doing is handing him to me for me to hold him while she signs him in and hangs his coat. But this is driving me crazy! He is not a baby! He's way too big to be getting carried around and handed to the daycare provider at drop off. It makes it even more ridiculous because of the way she's talking to him/treating him as this is going on. Baby talking to him, making promises, bribes, telling him she'll pick him up before nap so he won't have to lay down (which is annoying by itself because half the time she tells him this and then texts me at lunch asking if he's been okay because she'd rather leave him if he's okay and not asking for her!)
This whole thing is extra obnoxious to me, especially since the second she walks out the door I am able to tell him to knock it off and he immediately goes right off to play with his friends, happy as a clam like nothing happened.
So far I've just resorted to passive aggressive comments when she hands him to me like "Petey you are WAY too big to be acting like this!" or "Mom what are your plans for when you're trying to drop him off at school this fall and he has no choice but to go?"
What do I say that is going to stop her from trying to hand him to me and what do I do/say when this nonsense behavior is going on? On a positive note, it doesn't last longer than 5-6 min, she's not trying to hang out or talk to me, she is pretty good at not prolonging it too much.
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