I have a new child who just started this week. I highly suspect he may be on the spectrum (my oldest son is high functioning), but he’s just two. He’s never been in daycare but this seems like much more than that. He has meltdowns if he’s not wearing red. Only wears his red shoes. Only paints with red. You get tre idea. We bought him red utensils, cup, bowl, plate, etc. to make him more comfortable but hehe still doesn’t eat hardly at all.
It takes him a good hour to get to his default state. Which is just sad with periodic crying and asking about pickup with repetitive phrases all day. Instead of mostly playing and engaging with bouts of tears it’s reversed.
He will sometimes play with cars and the racetrack, and tea set plates. That’s it. Most of the time he wants to stand and look at the door. (Of course we redirect). Or he wants to sit next to you and not play st all.
He has no interest in initiating play or even responding to attempts to play from other kids. He’s very smart with an advanced vocabulary for his age. He’s also sweet. He’s just sad and it breaks my heart. He perks up some when it’s almost pick up time and that’s about it. I can distract him for very short amounts of time only.
I asked his parents for ideas and most of them I can’t do in a group setting as often as I would need to, as we can’t go half an hour wirjhtojr repetitive pick up phrases happening. I can’t give him stickers or let him color every time.
It takes him time with all transitions. For instance, it takes him a good half hour once getting in the playroom to play even with the cars/train he likes.
I thought about just telling them we can’t do it. The crying gets everyone else down and it makes me sad that he’s so sad. However, moving to a new place will be even harder for him. I do think he’d do better under one on one care by far. Preferably in his own home.
If things don’t get better in a few weeks I may give them time to find that and be done. In the meantime though, what can I do? Please share any tips, tricks, strategies, etc we could try. I need to balance individual support with maintaining the group schedule and morale.
Thanks in advance!
It takes him a good hour to get to his default state. Which is just sad with periodic crying and asking about pickup with repetitive phrases all day. Instead of mostly playing and engaging with bouts of tears it’s reversed.
He will sometimes play with cars and the racetrack, and tea set plates. That’s it. Most of the time he wants to stand and look at the door. (Of course we redirect). Or he wants to sit next to you and not play st all.
He has no interest in initiating play or even responding to attempts to play from other kids. He’s very smart with an advanced vocabulary for his age. He’s also sweet. He’s just sad and it breaks my heart. He perks up some when it’s almost pick up time and that’s about it. I can distract him for very short amounts of time only.
I asked his parents for ideas and most of them I can’t do in a group setting as often as I would need to, as we can’t go half an hour wirjhtojr repetitive pick up phrases happening. I can’t give him stickers or let him color every time.
It takes him time with all transitions. For instance, it takes him a good half hour once getting in the playroom to play even with the cars/train he likes.
I thought about just telling them we can’t do it. The crying gets everyone else down and it makes me sad that he’s so sad. However, moving to a new place will be even harder for him. I do think he’d do better under one on one care by far. Preferably in his own home.
If things don’t get better in a few weeks I may give them time to find that and be done. In the meantime though, what can I do? Please share any tips, tricks, strategies, etc we could try. I need to balance individual support with maintaining the group schedule and morale.
Thanks in advance!
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