I have a 3 yo dck that I've been taking to the potty for nearly a month now. He has yet to actually go in there though. What would you do? Just continue?
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Originally posted by Jo123ABC View PostI have a 3 yo dck that I've been taking to the potty for nearly a month now. He has yet to actually go in there though. What would you do? Just continue?
Kids must be able to indicate they need to use the bathroom and be able to do 90% of it by themselves before I will allow them to wear underwear here.
Taking kids to the bathroom in timed intervals isn't doing anything other than taking up your time. It's not training the child at all. Especially if you've been doing this for a month already and nothing has changed.
I discuss my expectation for being toilet trained with parents and when a child is ready, truly ready it really doesn't take much more than a a few days. I'm even willing to allow a parent a "free" no pay day off of daycare if they need a day to devote to weekend potty training.
Does this child indicate their need to go to the bathroom?
Can child take down their own pants and put them back on?
Does child dislike being wet or soiled?
Who initiated this take child every so often to the toilet routine? What is the parent doing to support the child?
Has child had ANY success yet?
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Has he verbally asked to go? Has he answered yes when asked if he needed to potty?
If both answers no, I'd invest less time in it. The majority should be done at home as this is a parental responsibility.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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I've done this with a kid very recently, he starts school next year so it's a priority to get him trained. He is 2 but will be 3 by the end of December. It took him about a month of sitting to figure out it was time to pee. He finally got it and proud to be able to do it now. But I only take him at changing time because he not asking to go yet.
I'll also say I've only done it like this cause he is my kid. Other kids have to start the process at home first. Unless the child asked to sit in potty I will not take them outside of diaper change times. What are the parents doing to help with training.
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Originally posted by happymom View PostAnd he starts school next year? What kind of school? My 3 year old doesn't start school until Fall of 2021.... (2.5 years away)
Now the only way I'll not send him is if I truly think hes not ready. Then I may discuss a January start or some such.
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Does this child indicate their need to go to the bathroom?
Sometimes but just out of routine habit I think.
Can child take down their own pants and put them back on?
Sometimes ... Mom typically dresses him in clothes that are a bit more "difficult" jeans, bibs, etc
Does child dislike being wet or soiled?
He's okay with being wet or soiled but sometimes will ask for a "change" if soiled
Who initiated this take child every so often to the toilet routine? What is the parent doing to support the child?
She said they were going to work on it one weekend then didn't. I just started because dcm wanted me to. I don't know exact details on what they are doing. She said they take him but don't push it.
Has child had ANY success yet?
Dcm said he "accidentally" went #2 in the potty 1 time. I think she just caught him pooping and put him on the potty mid-poop.
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Originally posted by Cat Herder View PostHas he verbally asked to go? Has he answered yes when asked if he needed to potty?
If both answers no, I'd invest less time in it. The majority should be done at home as this is a parental responsibility.
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Originally posted by Jo123ABC View PostWho initiated this take child every so often to the toilet routine? What is the parent doing to support the child?
She said they were going to work on it one weekend then didn't. I just started because dcm wanted me to. I don't know exact details on what they are doing. She said they take him but don't push it.
I really dislike that parents think child care providers are suppose to teach all those things to their child while they do nothing or very little of it; especially the hard work.
It's very unfair to you.
I'll happily assist and support potty training obviously because the child is in care during alot of awake hours but like I said, after the parent lays most the groundwork.
Originally posted by Jo123ABC View PostHe does ask to go maybe twice a day but it's out of routine habit I think (after he eats- potty and wash up- I have my routine set up so they go wash up on their own if they're old enough to while the babies and younger toddlers get washed up one at a time by me- he wants the big boy independence ). If I ask he'll say either yes or no... Whichever he feels like saying. I don't think he's grasping the concept of what the potty is actually for yet.
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Well, it sounds like the parent just wants you to do the work so they don't have to. I'd stop. It's not doing the child any good if they're not ready to PT.
Do you have a potty training policy?
If not, I'd come up with one. Make a handout to give to mom when you tell her that until little Bobby shows all the signs of readiness, you will no longer be pt at daycare.
Here is a good example to start a policy:
https://www.iidc.indiana.edu/styles/...greadiness.pdf
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