If you have a specific policy on crying, would you mind sharing how it's worded? I have a little one who sometimes cries 7 hrs out of the day. I have cared for her anyway b/c she is my niece, but I'm finding that I can't have a sub at all with her present b/c the crying is so overwhelming for them & it's become overwhelming to myself and the other children as well. We've been working together to help solve her health challenges, but I don't know how to word it or how long to allow her to cry before calling for pickup.
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I recently added it in my "Health and Emergency Care" section. I have a bullet list.
"Should a child become sick during the day, parents will be notified and the child must be picked up as soon as possible. If I am unable to contact you, the person listed as your emergency contact will be called. A child may be sent home if he or she is exhibiting fussy/inconsolable behavior for an extended period of time."
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My cry policy was included in my illness policy...
Any child who who is upset, crying or unable to participate in the day (for ANY reason) will be sent home home after 2 hours. Parents must arrive with in 30 minutes of calling for pick up.
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Originally posted by boy_mom View PostMy cry policy was included in my illness policy...
Any child who who is upset, crying or unable to participate in the day (for ANY reason) will be sent home home after 2 hours. Parents must arrive with in 30 minutes of calling for pick up.
Now that being said, if this is your niece, I would be fairly firm with Mom. A lot of people don't like working for family, but I found that they are the people I can be the most direct with, and they didn't want to rock the boat, so they wanted my input. Is this a case of baby being held non-stop all day? That's a huge transition for an infant into Day Care. If they are setting her up for failure, you need to address it with them.
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Originally posted by mommyneedsadayoff View PostSame here. My illness policy included being unable to participate, so excessive crying would be grounds for pick up.
Now that being said, if this is your niece, I would be fairly firm with Mom. A lot of people don't like working for family, but I found that they are the people I can be the most direct with, and they didn't want to rock the boat, so they wanted my input. Is this a case of baby being held non-stop all day? That's a huge transition for an infant into Day Care. If they are setting her up for failure, you need to address it with them.
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I guess I'm just looking for what "excessive" means. If she cries for half an hour...2 hours...half a day. At what point do I make the call? My nerves are fried pretty quickly at this point so I don't feel a good judge of when it's excessive enough to call.
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Originally posted by mamamanda View PostNo, its not b/c they just hold her. Mom's very open to my suggestions. She's just been sick A LOT. She's currently being treated for asthma & reflux. She's had croup once each month for 4 months. And a couple other things. She was hospitalized for a UTI a couple months ago too. I really think she just doesn't feel good. But it's still overwhelming for all.
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Originally posted by mamamanda View PostI guess I'm just looking for what "excessive" means. If she cries for half an hour...2 hours...half a day. At what point do I make the call? My nerves are fried pretty quickly at this point so I don't feel a good judge of when it's excessive enough to call.
I also agree with a previous poster, it's time mom and dad take a little of this burden and hopefully address these issue that are causing discomfort. I would also start calling for pick ups, because sometime when you don't feel well you just need to be home with mom to make it better!!
It's so hard when someone continuously cries. I remember I could deal with almost anything, but the non stop crying frayed my nerves! I think it's ok to start telling them that this situation is not ok, and time to find some alternative solutions for you and her!
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Is your niece on reflux meds? My 8 month old has silent reflux and was always fussy and constantly wanted to nurse. Once we put her on Zantac she was a new baby. What are the parents doing to ease her discomfort. I’m sure it’s hard because she is your niece but like others have said, her parents need to share this burden. Does mom say she is generally crying at home as well?
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Yes she cries equally both places. She's been at the children's hospital for testing twice in the last week. She is on zantac & also just started asthma meds a week ago. They actually seem to be helping more than anything else has.
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Some kids simply aren't cut out for daycare.
My own son was not a daycare kid.
That is why I am a daycare provider.
I am guessing that if this weren't your niece you more than likely wouldn't keep this child in care?
If that is true, you really need to do some soul searching....if she is just not a happy camper being in care, it's cruel to not at least discuss that with the parents and it's really unfair to the other kids in care to have to endure the all day crying.
Group care is hard...kids simply have to have the ability to be part of a group but realistically some kids just don't.
This is also the problem with family and/or friends in care....it clouds your judgement and creates a very unique situation in which no matter what you do, someone is still stressed and unhappy.
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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View PostSome kids simply aren't cut out for daycare.
My own son was not a daycare kid.
That is why I am a daycare provider.
I am guessing that if this weren't your niece you more than likely wouldn't keep this child in care?
If that is true, you really need to do some soul searching....if she is just not a happy camper being in care, it's cruel to not at least discuss that with the parents and it's really unfair to the other kids in care to have to endure the all day crying.
Group care is hard...kids simply have to have the ability to be part of a group but realistically some kids just don't.
This is also the problem with family and/or friends in care....it clouds your judgement and creates a very unique situation in which no matter what you do, someone is still stressed and unhappy.
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