I enrolled a child, 5 years old, 2 days per week. Today is his 3rd day.
During the first interview mom told me DCK has a lot of behavior issues. She mentioned: trouble focusing, trouble listening, said he played rough and he mentioned that he has been exposed to some inappropriate content for a 5 year old (Freddy Kruger, etc.) She was kind of evasive about his last care provider, but it sounded like it was an immediate term. First she called the provider a nanny. Then she said the provider had 5 other children in care. But the end result (according to mom) was that the provider refused to care for DCK, gave no notice and wouldn't return communication from mom.
Mom returned and I had her bring DCK with her. He did NOT listen to her. He climbed shelves, stood on toys and mom had to repeat herself multiple times. When DCK stood on a toy (a baby doll crib) I intervened, corrected DCK and took him by the hand, told him he needed to listen to his mother, clean up and go home.
The ONLY reason I continued with enrollment is because when I intervened DCK listened and mom did not act offended. Figured this was a good sign....DCK clearly runs the show at home but if he will listen to me here, I don't care what happens at home.
First day here was great. Second day here I saw many of the behaviors mom warned me about but it was still an overall okay day. Today is his 3rd day and he has been terrible. I set expectations, gave warnings, separated him, etc. Finally during lunch I told him if I had to correct him again he would lose his blanket (lovey) during nap time. Less than 2 minutes later he kicked the child sitting across from him. I told him he had lost his blanket and he proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs for 45 minutes. Once nap time began, the other children were sleeping and I left the room he immediately stopped screaming and fell asleep.
For those reading:
Classroom is adjacent to the main part of my house (open concept) so I can be in another room and still see/hear DCK's.
I supply all children with a nap mat and blanket that remains here. This child was NOT without a mat or blanket, he was just without his lovey.
Child also does not have lovey (or think, mention, etc. throughout the day. Just at nap time.)
My question is: would you have done the same thing? It seems like his lovey is his "currency" and may be the only thing I have to work with here. But, I am second guessing myself?
During the first interview mom told me DCK has a lot of behavior issues. She mentioned: trouble focusing, trouble listening, said he played rough and he mentioned that he has been exposed to some inappropriate content for a 5 year old (Freddy Kruger, etc.) She was kind of evasive about his last care provider, but it sounded like it was an immediate term. First she called the provider a nanny. Then she said the provider had 5 other children in care. But the end result (according to mom) was that the provider refused to care for DCK, gave no notice and wouldn't return communication from mom.
Mom returned and I had her bring DCK with her. He did NOT listen to her. He climbed shelves, stood on toys and mom had to repeat herself multiple times. When DCK stood on a toy (a baby doll crib) I intervened, corrected DCK and took him by the hand, told him he needed to listen to his mother, clean up and go home.
The ONLY reason I continued with enrollment is because when I intervened DCK listened and mom did not act offended. Figured this was a good sign....DCK clearly runs the show at home but if he will listen to me here, I don't care what happens at home.
First day here was great. Second day here I saw many of the behaviors mom warned me about but it was still an overall okay day. Today is his 3rd day and he has been terrible. I set expectations, gave warnings, separated him, etc. Finally during lunch I told him if I had to correct him again he would lose his blanket (lovey) during nap time. Less than 2 minutes later he kicked the child sitting across from him. I told him he had lost his blanket and he proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs for 45 minutes. Once nap time began, the other children were sleeping and I left the room he immediately stopped screaming and fell asleep.
For those reading:
Classroom is adjacent to the main part of my house (open concept) so I can be in another room and still see/hear DCK's.
I supply all children with a nap mat and blanket that remains here. This child was NOT without a mat or blanket, he was just without his lovey.
Child also does not have lovey (or think, mention, etc. throughout the day. Just at nap time.)
My question is: would you have done the same thing? It seems like his lovey is his "currency" and may be the only thing I have to work with here. But, I am second guessing myself?
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