So dcb is almost 3 (this week) and we've been training now for a few months. He will go on the toilet if I set him there, but he has not told me that he has to go. He has a wonderful vocabulary and is very smart. Mom has asked like 3 times if she can send him in underwear and not a pull up. I've told her that I require that they are telling me that they have to go (not me just randomly setting him on the toilet) and that he has to be dry for 2 weeks straight before I allow regular underwear. So today she asks again and said well over the weekend he wore regular underwear and never wet in them. She seems to think that if he is wearing pullups that he won't ask to go. I told her that I put him on the toilet before nap (he didn't tell me that he had to go) and that he did go and that his pullup was dry all day. I also told her that the last person that said their child was trained (new child) and wore underwear, she peed all over my hallway floor which is vinyl flooring and then down the carpeted hallway. So no way until he's telling me and is dry for 2 weeks. She seems miffed. Is this not a typical rule?
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Most of the providers on here require 2 weeks dry AT CARE before they allow underwear. Others have suggested letting the child wear underwear, with the pullups over them. You could sugest that to mom and see if he stays dry at your place for 2 weeks, without you having to put him on the toilet.Children are little angels, even when they are little devils.
They are also our future.
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Originally posted by Mike View PostMost of the providers on here require 2 weeks dry AT CARE before they allow underwear. Others have suggested letting the child wear underwear, with the pullups over them. You could sugest that to mom and see if he stays dry at your place for 2 weeks, without you having to put him on the toilet.
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Originally posted by JackandJill View PostA child who is truly potty trained will voice their need to go to the bathroom, regardless of what they're wearing!
I have the same rule, children must be dry two weeks IN DAYCARE before wearing cloth underwear. They also must be able to tell me before they need to go.
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I don't mean the rubber pants. I mean actual diapers, but with underwear underneath so it doesn't feel like a diaper. Someone else mentioned that idea on here a while back. If he has an accident, the mom will have a pair of underwear in a bag for her at pickup. And, first accident, no more underwear for a while.
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Stop putting him on the potty. Make it clear to him that he has to let you know when he has to go. If he doesn't, it'll be diaper change time eventually. If he wants underwear, he'll quit the accidents on his own.Children are little angels, even when they are little devils.
They are also our future.
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Originally posted by Mike View PostI don't mean the rubber pants. I mean actual diapers, but with underwear underneath so it doesn't feel like a diaper. Someone else mentioned that idea on here a while back. If he has an accident, the mom will have a pair of underwear in a bag for her at pickup. And, first accident, no more underwear for a while.
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Stop putting him on the potty. Make it clear to him that he has to let you know when he has to go. If he doesn't, it'll be diaper change time eventually. If he wants underwear, he'll quit the accidents on his own.
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I just came here to ask the exact same question. We tried underwear with rubber pants, but the pee just went right through. He is not quite 3 wearing size 5, so a big kid. We tried pants under a pull up, nut he got the pull up so soaked that it leaked. Mom went to pull ups because he outgrew diapers. He isn't ready, but I don't know the next step. Mom is cooperative and interested.
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Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View PostI agree. I don't understand what her deal is. Why she so insistent that he wears regular underwear? Driving me crazy. I just keep repeating 2 weeks dry rule. About tired of it. These parents wonder why their kids don't listen, they don't either! ugh
Honestly, so many parents try to pawn the hard work onto daycare providers, like we don't have other children to tend to during the day.
Before I opened my daycare, I took a week of UNPAID time off work to train my oldest son, and then my husband took a week off (unpaid) to make sure he was fully trained. It was not fun spending seperate vacation times cleaning up messes left and right, but it was our resposibility.
So many parents seem to forget that this is what comes with having children. No one said it was fun, or easy!
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If she brings it up again (last night I told her no) I'm going to flat out ask her, why is she so adamant on him wearing underwear? Why doesn't she focus on him telling me he has to pee? Probably the way other stuff goes with her and her son is he wants to wear them and we don't want to tell him no. ugh! I've had a daycare for 16 years and have potty trained 100's of kids. I think I know what I'm doing She's so irritating!
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Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View PostIf she brings it up again (last night I told her no) I'm going to flat out ask her, why is she so adamant on him wearing underwear? Why doesn't she focus on him telling me he has to pee? Probably the way other stuff goes with her and her son is he wants to wear them and we don't want to tell him no. ugh! I've had a daycare for 16 years and have potty trained 100's of kids. I think I know what I'm doing She's so irritating!
You are the road block as to why Timmy won't complete the process of toilet training.
She is convinced that her child is not fully trained because YOU are blocking him from completing the process.
I would allow her to have him in underwear IF she provides you with $100 deposit for professional carpet cleaning (a family members urine in your carpet is one thing but someone else's urine in your carpet....um, yeah no.)
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I would allow him to be in underwear WITH plastic covering over the top. A Pull up OVER underwear provides the same coverage.
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She can take some time off work and FULLY train him to tell you every.single.time he needs to use the bathroom and then bring him back in underwear when he's done that 100% for a set amount of time.
Ugh, I get so tired of the parents that insist they want X or Y for their child but don't want to do X or Y themselves and instead want you to do it FOR THEM. :confused:
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Originally posted by JackandJill View PostA child who is truly potty trained will voice their need to go to the bathroom, regardless of what they're wearing!
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Originally posted by Blackcat31 View PostBecause you are essentially telling her no.
You are the road block as to why Timmy won't complete the process of toilet training.
She is convinced that her child is not fully trained because YOU are blocking him from completing the process.
I would allow her to have him in underwear IF she provides you with $100 deposit for professional carpet cleaning (a family members urine in your carpet is one thing but someone else's urine in your carpet....um, yeah no.)
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I would allow him to be in underwear WITH plastic covering over the top. A Pull up OVER underwear provides the same coverage.
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She can take some time off work and FULLY train him to tell you every.single.time he needs to use the bathroom and then bring him back in underwear when he's done that 100% for a set amount of time.
Ugh, I get so tired of the parents that insist they want X or Y for their child but don't want to do X or Y themselves and instead want you to do it FOR THEM. :confused:
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Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View PostExactly. Real easy for momma, she has him 2 days a week. He's with me 50 hours a week. I'm not bending at all. Not even suggesting underwear under pullup. I do it the way I do it and she's not getting her way. Worked for all my other kids. I already told her that the last one that told me that their daughter was trained and wore underwear (she was a new child, 3 years old) she peed on the floor and fell in it and then went down my carpeted hall peeing all the way to the bathroom. I was pissed (hahaha) an termed.
A child who is ready to be trained will take a few days not months. He is not ready.
I remember my girlfriend blaming her daycare for the reason her 11 month old was not fully potty trained. Yup 11 months. My friend wanted the daycare to put a potty out in the middke of the floor in the infant room for him to use whenever he wanted. Had no idea whay they wouldn't do it
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Here's the thing, IMO. Potty training doesn't take months. It takes days (if that). If the child can't say that he or she needs to go, they are not ready. I'd insist on diapers until the child can tell you that they need to go consistently for 2-3 weeks AT YOUR HOUSE. Diapers/underwear/pull ups-it doesn't matter which they use-they'll use the toilet when THEY are physically and emotionally ready to. Until then, it's diapers here.
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