A dck's grandma yelled at my dd for calling the dck a liar today at pick up. It was totally inappropriate of my dd and I would have addressed it on the spot, but I wasn't given a chance. The dck WAS actually lying though and had the grandma not been lingering at pick up, this wouldn't have happened. I told her I would handle it and said bye. Have any of you had to deal with this before?
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I'm hoping for your sake that you don't have to see crazy grandma very often.
I haven't had this exact thing happen, but I have had a dcm tell me that her daughter's (serious) behavior problems were because my daughter "wouldn't share toys with dd." Total denial and completely untrue and out of character for my daughter.
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Originally posted by Indoorvoice View PostA dck's grandma yelled at my dd for calling the dck a liar today at pick up. It was totally inappropriate of my dd and I would have addressed it on the spot, but I wasn't given a chance. The dck WAS actually lying though and had the grandma not been lingering at pick up, this wouldn't have happened. I told her I would handle it and said bye. Have any of you had to deal with this before?
I actually have a G-ma that can't pick up because she lets dck run into the street every time she picks up. I told dcp no more. If she can't control the child to keep the safe, she can't pick up. they were very unhappy with me, but no way in the world was I going to deal with that any longer. Way too unsafe and way too much liability.
Do you have this rule in your PHB that only the provider is to handle the children?
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Originally posted by Indoorvoice View PostA dck's grandma yelled at my dd for calling the dck a liar today at pick up. It was totally inappropriate of my dd and I would have addressed it on the spot, but I wasn't given a chance. The dck WAS actually lying though and had the grandma not been lingering at pick up, this wouldn't have happened. I told her I would handle it and said bye. Have any of you had to deal with this before?
I personally wouldn't be comfortable with anyone discipling a child that wasn't their own in my daycare.
But, this also makes me think about how it was handled by grandma.
I am not ok with yelling at a child. Raising my voice when it's loud and I need to be heard... ok. Raising my voice for safety reasons...ok. But yelling AT a child, no.
If you get my meaning.
If that happened here, I would be talking to the parents and expressing my frustration for sure!
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I have a dcd who will correct dcks. He's a super nice guy, but...the reason they are acting out at all is because he's lingering He's kind about it though.
One time he told my ds, who was 8 at the time, he couldn't bring his Legos in the daycare area. He just had a mini figure in his hand... But overall, nice family.
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Originally posted by Snowmom View PostWhen you say "yell", what exactly does that mean?
I personally wouldn't be comfortable with anyone discipling a child that wasn't their own in my daycare.
But, this also makes me think about how it was handled by grandma.
I am not ok with yelling at a child. Raising my voice when it's loud and I need to be heard... ok. Raising my voice for safety reasons...ok. But yelling AT a child, no.
If you get my meaning.
If that happened here, I would be talking to the parents and expressing my frustration for sure!
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Originally posted by daycare View PostI don't care who's kid it is, unless it is their own. NO parent will handle the children. I would not be ok with this and G-ma would be on my list of not able to pick up if she can't follow the rules.
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Originally posted by Indoorvoice View PostYeah, she raised her voice, pointed at dd and said "I do NOT appreciate you saying that! You are a bully!" She then kept saying she was sorry she should have let me handle it but she did not like that.
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Originally posted by Indoorvoice View PostA dck's grandma yelled at my dd for calling the dck a liar today at pick up. It was totally inappropriate of my dd and I would have addressed it on the spot, but I wasn't given a chance. The dck WAS actually lying though and had the grandma not been lingering at pick up, this wouldn't have happened. I told her I would handle it and said bye. Have any of you had to deal with this before?
It was really important to me to keep his life separate from the daycare. This is one of the reasons why. His actions or words could affect a 7 K a year relationship if they had ONE kid. I didn't want him to have that responsibility or opportunity.
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Originally posted by nannyde View PostI never allowed my son contact with my daycare parents or whoever picked up the kids. He was banished from day one from the arrival and departure door. He wouldn't have had the opportunity to say something to a daycare kid in front of the picking up party.
It was really important to me to keep his life separate from the daycare. This is one of the reasons why. His actions or words could affect a 7 K a year relationship if they had ONE kid. I didn't want him to have that responsibility or opportunity.
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The fact that the grandparent apologized profusely helps. We all get defensive sometimes. I can see a grandparent getting defensive of their grandchild and overstepping. That she apologized and understands she overstepped is what would matter to me. I would communicate that it will never happen again, let them know you will term if it does then move on.
As for my kids interacting with dcps at pickups. I am working on that. I worry about their ability to kill income as they are desperate for attention by 5pm and can be monsters for the other parents. I have started letting my 5yo and 7 yo go upstairs to watch a cartoon for the last 30 min of the day. If they haven't earned that, then they are at a table activity and don't leave the area when a parent arrives. The trick is my newly turned 3yo monster DD . Though Friday we started working on, when I see a dcp arrive, she runs to my special chair and sits quietly until the parent and dck leave. Then she gets and M&M before returning to play. She loved it. She will do a lot for an M&M Working on training all children to stay in their area until I tell them it is their parent and to get their shoes. Its hard though!
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Originally posted by Rockgirl View PostOh, &$@# NO! She would not be allowed back in my home. Name calling, pointing, yelling at your child in her own home.....no.
I couldn't care less about my relationship with the parent or the potential income loss. I would explain it to the child's parent- it's the same protection I would extend to my daycare kids. How would they have felt had an adult spoke to their child that way? I actually have a section in my handbook about NOT speaking to or even ABOUT other children in my care.
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Originally posted by Controlled Chaos View PostThe fact that the grandparent apologized profusely helps. We all get defensive sometimes. I can see a grandparent getting defensive of their grandchild and overstepping. That she apologized and understands she overstepped is what would matter to me. I would communicate that it will never happen again, let them know you will term if it does then move on.
As for my kids interacting with dcps at pickups. I am working on that. I worry about their ability to kill income as they are desperate for attention by 5pm and can be monsters for the other parents. I have started letting my 5yo and 7 yo go upstairs to watch a cartoon for the last 30 min of the day. If they haven't earned that, then they are at a table activity and don't leave the area when a parent arrives. The trick is my newly turned 3yo monster DD . Though Friday we started working on, when I see a dcp arrive, she runs to my special chair and sits quietly until the parent and dck leave. Then she gets and M&M before returning to play. She loved it. She will do a lot for an M&M Working on training all children to stay in their area until I tell them it is their parent and to get their shoes. Its hard though!
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