I have a group of kids age 18m-almost 5-almost 5yo is going to kindergarten in fall.
4.5yo cannot play independently and needs CONSTANT attention "look at me" wording and behavior. Since starting my younger kids, this has amped up. She interrupts everyone, tests my limits, and is the only child I need to speak to about behavior. She CANNOT play independently. AT ALL. She will wander around looking for/getting into trouble. In addition, even the kids her own age don't like her, the SA kids wouldn't play with her either (too controlling, her way or the highway) she's too 'mommy-ing' for the little ones, she babies them, touches them (hugging, trying to get them to hug her, sit in her lap, etc). None of which I allow.
She has issues understanding body language- the kids are pushing her away and saying NO or starting to cry and she persists. She WILL continue until I intervene.
It has been brought up periodically over the last 3 years, but her parents have not heard what I have said. They literally twist it "has trouble making friends" and they respond "she is so smart she gets frustrated with kids not on her level" (not accurate at all- she is academically smart-socially functioning at a much younger age), but her lack of friends is entirely based on her lack of social skill progression- she will not compromise on a play scheme, play anything other than what she wants and it is microcontrolled down to what the other player says- like a script. *I* suspect high functioning autism, as aside from the lack of friendships, lack of recognizing body language, scripts when playing, she has patterns of repetitive behavior, and some sensory issues.
She is also a BIG thumb sucker-sensory/oral stim seeker- it has completely destroyed her mouth. She still mouths toys. The damage is visible in pictures, The pedi recommended a dental eval, the parents haven't followed through.
I recommended to the parents that she start K. I don't want her another year- she is beyond what I teach academically, the parents are pushing down HARD for academics (I refuse to change my program) She had a pre-entrance exam and passed with flying colors. So her parents are all "My kid is a genius, she got early entrance to kindergarten!"
I just want to survive the summer- ideas? Ignoring does NOT work. It gets worse.
I am strict- she gets limits set in advance and one warning. Remove the warning maybe? She would be done with everything in minutes. She ALWAYS gets to that second warning, then quits before I stop her from doing whatever she isn't supposed to do again.
4.5yo cannot play independently and needs CONSTANT attention "look at me" wording and behavior. Since starting my younger kids, this has amped up. She interrupts everyone, tests my limits, and is the only child I need to speak to about behavior. She CANNOT play independently. AT ALL. She will wander around looking for/getting into trouble. In addition, even the kids her own age don't like her, the SA kids wouldn't play with her either (too controlling, her way or the highway) she's too 'mommy-ing' for the little ones, she babies them, touches them (hugging, trying to get them to hug her, sit in her lap, etc). None of which I allow.
She has issues understanding body language- the kids are pushing her away and saying NO or starting to cry and she persists. She WILL continue until I intervene.
It has been brought up periodically over the last 3 years, but her parents have not heard what I have said. They literally twist it "has trouble making friends" and they respond "she is so smart she gets frustrated with kids not on her level" (not accurate at all- she is academically smart-socially functioning at a much younger age), but her lack of friends is entirely based on her lack of social skill progression- she will not compromise on a play scheme, play anything other than what she wants and it is microcontrolled down to what the other player says- like a script. *I* suspect high functioning autism, as aside from the lack of friendships, lack of recognizing body language, scripts when playing, she has patterns of repetitive behavior, and some sensory issues.
She is also a BIG thumb sucker-sensory/oral stim seeker- it has completely destroyed her mouth. She still mouths toys. The damage is visible in pictures, The pedi recommended a dental eval, the parents haven't followed through.
I recommended to the parents that she start K. I don't want her another year- she is beyond what I teach academically, the parents are pushing down HARD for academics (I refuse to change my program) She had a pre-entrance exam and passed with flying colors. So her parents are all "My kid is a genius, she got early entrance to kindergarten!"
I just want to survive the summer- ideas? Ignoring does NOT work. It gets worse.
I am strict- she gets limits set in advance and one warning. Remove the warning maybe? She would be done with everything in minutes. She ALWAYS gets to that second warning, then quits before I stop her from doing whatever she isn't supposed to do again.
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