I have a 4 year old that's been coming for a few weeks. He has been losing his mind at drop off, begging his mom to take him home. Acting terrified of being left here. His mom then freaks out, too, saying she doesn't know why he doesn't want to come.
He hits. Every day. Every time he hits, he has a time out. I told her that he doesn't like getting consequences for his behaviors. No one here treats him poorly (not me, not the other kids), but he hates it here. He has poor self control, and loses it over little things. He had trouble getting his pants up after changing from his swimsuit the other day and started shrieking and jumping around, ripped off his pants and started running through the house and throwing himself on the couch. He had tears running down his face and was truly losing it. He got in trouble for hitting the first day he was here (no time-out, but I told him that we don't allow hitting here, and that he isn't allowed to hurt people), and he started screaming and punching himself in the face and flapping his arms. It took a good 3-5 minutes to calm down from that.
Today, he stopped freaking out as soon as his mom left, but he said he wanted a nap, and went and layed down in my hallway. He's been there for 2 hours. Every time I or another kid asks him to come out and play, he says no, hides his face, cries, and curls up in a ball.
I KNOW there is something going on with this kid, but I don't know what. My first thought is Aspergers or maybe a sensory disorder (he can't dress or undress himself, and is hyper sensitive to every stimuli). He eats virtually nothing here (his mom says he likes star crunch-he begs for chips all day long). Mainly, I see aggression and tears with any frustration (VERY minor frustrations), and while he will play with others, he spends a majority of time alone-often not playing at all.
I barely know this kid or his mom, but I feel that there is something going on with this boy that he needs help with. His mom says that he's her "good kid" and so easy. Mom says the 2 year old is her problem kid (and he has perfect behavior here). I just don't know what to suggest to this mom. He's not a huge liability-he usually hits once a day, but I think we can work on that. What I'm concerned with is his inability to control emotions at all and his disinterest in playing with other kids or even being around anyone else.
Any suggestions on how to talk to mom about him? Should I just suggest that she contact the school district for assessment? What's odd to me is that mom says she sees NONE of what I see here. I don't know him well enough to help with an assessment, either.
SOMETHING is going on, but I'm clueless on how to proceed.
He hits. Every day. Every time he hits, he has a time out. I told her that he doesn't like getting consequences for his behaviors. No one here treats him poorly (not me, not the other kids), but he hates it here. He has poor self control, and loses it over little things. He had trouble getting his pants up after changing from his swimsuit the other day and started shrieking and jumping around, ripped off his pants and started running through the house and throwing himself on the couch. He had tears running down his face and was truly losing it. He got in trouble for hitting the first day he was here (no time-out, but I told him that we don't allow hitting here, and that he isn't allowed to hurt people), and he started screaming and punching himself in the face and flapping his arms. It took a good 3-5 minutes to calm down from that.
Today, he stopped freaking out as soon as his mom left, but he said he wanted a nap, and went and layed down in my hallway. He's been there for 2 hours. Every time I or another kid asks him to come out and play, he says no, hides his face, cries, and curls up in a ball.
I KNOW there is something going on with this kid, but I don't know what. My first thought is Aspergers or maybe a sensory disorder (he can't dress or undress himself, and is hyper sensitive to every stimuli). He eats virtually nothing here (his mom says he likes star crunch-he begs for chips all day long). Mainly, I see aggression and tears with any frustration (VERY minor frustrations), and while he will play with others, he spends a majority of time alone-often not playing at all.
I barely know this kid or his mom, but I feel that there is something going on with this boy that he needs help with. His mom says that he's her "good kid" and so easy. Mom says the 2 year old is her problem kid (and he has perfect behavior here). I just don't know what to suggest to this mom. He's not a huge liability-he usually hits once a day, but I think we can work on that. What I'm concerned with is his inability to control emotions at all and his disinterest in playing with other kids or even being around anyone else.
Any suggestions on how to talk to mom about him? Should I just suggest that she contact the school district for assessment? What's odd to me is that mom says she sees NONE of what I see here. I don't know him well enough to help with an assessment, either.
SOMETHING is going on, but I'm clueless on how to proceed.
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