I have a child that will be 3 yrs old in a month and I've been frustrated with his behavior. I believe its attention seeking but lately concerned it maybe more of a social/emotional behavior issue.
The children I care for are ages 2-4 and I have help so we provide a 1:4 ratio.
Examples of his social/emotional actions that cause concern/frustration:
He growls/hisses and chases around other children even when they ask him to stop. I will hear the other children whimper "please stop. I don't like that" and he doesn't stop until I step in.
He's physically bigger than the other children and will walk by and step on another child's hand, shoulder bump another child, use trucks to ram into other children playing with cars/trucks, kick his foot out at a child on the top of a play structure while that child is trying to climb up, lay his body on top of other children, and run across the room just to kick a Lego/Magna-tile/wood block structure another child has built. Amazingly every incident has been minor and the other children have not been injured so his behavior is not what I would consider terminating based on my Gross Misconduct policy.
Consequences: If he misused the toy to throw, kick, or run over another child, then he no longer get to use that toy for the rest of the day and is reminded of the other items/activities he can use. If he physically tries to hurt another child he gets placed in thinking time to "calm his body".
He still only parallel plays with the other children and hasn't crossed over to interactive play so I've been working with him on using his words to get another child's attention instead of hissing/growling at them and helping him join the other children who are playing together.
I find myself frustrated because he continues to push boundaries and I'm not sure if I am just not providing enough positive attention or if this is cause for a more serious behavioral concern.
I've been communicating with parents for 2 months now regarding his behavior and they're preoccupied right now with buying/selling/moving. Acknowledged they haven't given him much attention so they're blaming it on that.
We have a parent/teacher conference next week and I really don't want to have to terminate care.
Help! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
The children I care for are ages 2-4 and I have help so we provide a 1:4 ratio.
Examples of his social/emotional actions that cause concern/frustration:
He growls/hisses and chases around other children even when they ask him to stop. I will hear the other children whimper "please stop. I don't like that" and he doesn't stop until I step in.
He's physically bigger than the other children and will walk by and step on another child's hand, shoulder bump another child, use trucks to ram into other children playing with cars/trucks, kick his foot out at a child on the top of a play structure while that child is trying to climb up, lay his body on top of other children, and run across the room just to kick a Lego/Magna-tile/wood block structure another child has built. Amazingly every incident has been minor and the other children have not been injured so his behavior is not what I would consider terminating based on my Gross Misconduct policy.
Consequences: If he misused the toy to throw, kick, or run over another child, then he no longer get to use that toy for the rest of the day and is reminded of the other items/activities he can use. If he physically tries to hurt another child he gets placed in thinking time to "calm his body".
He still only parallel plays with the other children and hasn't crossed over to interactive play so I've been working with him on using his words to get another child's attention instead of hissing/growling at them and helping him join the other children who are playing together.
I find myself frustrated because he continues to push boundaries and I'm not sure if I am just not providing enough positive attention or if this is cause for a more serious behavioral concern.
I've been communicating with parents for 2 months now regarding his behavior and they're preoccupied right now with buying/selling/moving. Acknowledged they haven't given him much attention so they're blaming it on that.
We have a parent/teacher conference next week and I really don't want to have to terminate care.
Help! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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