I Shouldn't Have Said That....Vent

[daycare]

So I have a family that is very VERY well to do.

They are the kind of family that lives life flying by the seat of their pants and show their financial gains through purchased items.

they have been in my program and have had issues making on time payments. I have been very laxed, my fault.

well they have no issue paying the $150 late fee when their payment is less than that each week. UGH normally I allow 3 late pay and then term.

Well dcf is always on some vacation and dck has hardly been here at preschool.

so today i stepped up and said no pay no stay. dcm keeps on bragging about how much fun they had shopping in vegas and skiing in colorado.

I open my big mouth and said nice to know you can afford to do all of those fun expensive things, but can't afford to pay me on time? I didn't realize there was another parent right behind them at the door....OH NO. open mouth insert foot.

dcm handed me the cash and walked out. do I say anything and say sorry or just drop it? I feel it was very unprofessional of me to say that...

[Baby Beluga]

So I have a family that is very VERY well to do.

They are the kind of family that lives life flying by the seat of their pants and show their financial gains through purchased items.

they have been in my program and have had issues making on time payments. I have been very laxed, my fault.

well they have no issue paying the $150 late fee when their payment is less than that each week. UGH normally I allow 3 late pay and then term.

Well dcf is always on some vacation and dck has hardly been here at preschool.

so today i stepped up and said no pay no stay. dcm keeps on bragging about how much fun they had shopping in vegas and skiing in colorado.

I open my big mouth and said nice to know you can afford to do all of those fun expensive things, but can't afford to pay me on time? I didn't realize there was another parent right behind them at the door....OH NO. open mouth insert foot.

dcm handed me the cash and walked out. do I say anything and say sorry or just drop it? I feel it was very unprofessional of me to say that...

*hugs* Personally, I would let it go. You are human and these things sometimes happen.

I also want to say, if the mom (who was late paying) was embarrassed - good. That may be unprofessional of me to think, but it was very disrespectful of her to intentionally not pay on time. Perhaps a little embarrassment may make her realize that being okay with paying a late fee does not make being late okay.

[momofsix]

Oh wow- kind of serves them right to be embarrassed in front of another parent! Did the other parent hear and respond in any way?
I guess I would apologize though-even though they deserved it. More that it was said in front of someone than what was actually what was said.
"I just wanted to apologize for what was said yesterday. I had NO idea that Mr. Hidden was right behind you. I would never intentionally embarrass you or disclose something personal like that to another parent. I'm sorry that it happened, and I will be more careful in the future>"

[Controlled Chaos]

I would let it go. Honestly, I don't have private chats with parents away from other parents about payment, how could you? No way in my set up. I either say "thanks for paying on time!" or "I'm afraid Susy can't stay until you pay, have a great day. Goodbye." Whoever is around hears it. If I had a repeat offender I would probably have said something similar. But I'm in to honesty above preventing awkward situations.

[daycare]

to be honest i don't feel bad for saying it, I just feel that it was not professional of me and made me look bad.

[Thriftylady]

to be honest i don't feel bad for saying it, I just feel that it was not professional of me and made me look bad.

You sound so much like me! I don't know how many times I have said something and then thought "maybe I should feel bad but I don't".

[daycare]

You sound so much like me! I don't know how many times I have said something and then thought "maybe I should feel bad but I don't".

....Well most of this is my fault considering I should have already term the family for making so many late payments.

I think maybe I will be chicken and just send an email saying sorry.

but still don't feel bad...

[midaycare]

Depends how much you value the family. Sounds like they are a lot of trouble. In that case, I wouldn't apologize.

FWIW...some people are great at appearing to have a lot of money, but are actually in debt up to their eyeballs.

[daycare]

Depends how much you value the family. Sounds like they are a lot of trouble. In that case, I wouldn't apologize.

FWIW...some people are great at appearing to have a lot of money, but are actually in debt up to their eyeballs.

OH i agree..... They are a pain in my you know what. If I didn't love love love dck to death, it would have been much easier to just say hit the road jack.

very true on that. just because they own half of the town, doesnt not mean they don't have a ton of debt.

[Thriftylady]

OH i agree..... They are a pain in my you know what. If I didn't love love love dck to death, it would have been much easier to just say hit the road jack.

very true on that. just because they own half of the town, doesnt not mean they don't have a ton of debt.

He who has the most toys owes the most ! I have no toys of my own .

[My3cents]

paying late

Best thing you can do for yourself and your business is have the parents pay a week ahead. Problem solved. When parents come in and don't have the payment for the next week. I simply ask them to give it to me Monday morning. I already have the week owed payment because they pay a week ahead. Best advice given on this forum!!! They don't have it Monday morning they go home and get it and take child with them. This is my job and source of income. I am not a loan bank or a friend you can borrow money from- I work hard!

[DaveA]

I wouldn't worry about an email or anything of the sort. Moment's passed, you got paid, and maybe the DCF will get in their head to pay on time. If they're embarrassed because another family was around, oh well. You're good.

[Annalee]

We are human....don't worry about it.....learn from it! :hug:

[Snowmom]

So I have a family that is very VERY well to do.

They are the kind of family that lives life flying by the seat of their pants and show their financial gains through purchased items.

they have been in my program and have had issues making on time payments. I have been very laxed, my fault.

well they have no issue paying the $150 late fee when their payment is less than that each week. UGH normally I allow 3 late pay and then term.

Well dcf is always on some vacation and dck has hardly been here at preschool.

so today i stepped up and said no pay no stay. dcm keeps on bragging about how much fun they had shopping in vegas and skiing in colorado.

I open my big mouth and said nice to know you can afford to do all of those fun expensive things, but can't afford to pay me on time? I didn't realize there was another parent right behind them at the door....OH NO. open mouth insert foot.

dcm handed me the cash and walked out. do I say anything and say sorry or just drop it? I feel it was very unprofessional of me to say that...

Ha. I bet it felt good though.
I wouldn't stress about it.

[jenboo]

I know this doesn't help but I would love those $150 late fees! I would tell them to pay as late as they want ::