I'm sorry this is so long.I swear I'm just about done with daycare. During daycare hours, my chest is so tight with the stress. I've written quite a bit lately about my group of 5 boys that are pushing me over the edge. I ask my husband if it's because I've been doing this 15 years and he says no, it's the group of kids you have right now, they're terrible. I have been applying for "regular" jobs and have had 4 interviews in the past 2 weeks, so I'm hopeful, but I need some assistance on how to cope with these kids. I have 3 families and I'll let you know a bit of what's going on with each, so maybe you can give some assistance.
Family #1, has 1 boy (18 mos) he's very large boy that uses his weight to push everyone around. He sits on people, turns his back and pushes into people, rips toys out of everyone's hands because he's bigger than most.
Family #2 has 2 boys with me. One is 4 1/2 and the other is 18 months. The 18 month old is pretty good except a nap issue. They're here 3 days a week and mom still gives him 2 naps a day for about an hour and a half each. He gets up at about 6:30, goes to bed at about 10:00 a.m. and then again about 1:30/2:00 at home. Here he gets here about 8:00 and goes down for 1 nap at 12:30. To give him the 2 naps here would be extremely disruptive. He of course only sleeps that 1 1/2 hrs here because that's his mental alarm clock going off.
His brother is giving me chest pains I swear. He's 4 1/2 and the kind of kid that looks at you with that look that says, yea what ya gonna do about it. He's a crazy boy, wild and is going through the phase of I'm not going to eat routine. The reason? it works at home. I've written before, but I'll recap. At home, he refuses to eat dinner, so it's become a game. He rides a car through the house and when he passes by the table, mom feeds him a bite of food. Or he gets a lunchable and sits in front of the tv to eat while everyone else is at the table. So here he doesn't eat either. I make normal lunches and give him 1/2 the portion of everyone else because I dont want to throw food away. He can always have more if he wants (never has happened). When mom picks up, the 2 boys run to her car and ransack it looking for snacks/candy etc and always find it. So they eat in the car and then she wonders why he won't eat at home. He actually brought a box of lucky charms yesterday for breakfast. I was busy at drop off, so the only thing I was able to get out was to the mom when I said "have you lost your mind". It just kinda slipped So, everyone (5 kids) sat down for breakfast and dcb started crying after 2 bites and said he changed his mind. I texted mom and told her and said never again. I also told her that it wasn't about actually eating it, it was to see if he could control the situation and actually get that box of cereal here. When he doesn't eat lunch here, I do not make a big deal about it and tell him it's his belly that will be hungry not mine. What happens at their house shouldn't bother me, but when it bleeds into my house it does. Mom dropped him off after preschool last week at lunchtime. I made him lunch, of course he cried because he didn't want to eat. I find out that after preschool the sippy cup that mom brought with milk in it (she takes one to work to take to him after school) tasted bad, so they stopped home before coming here to get new milk in the sippy cup and he also had some crackers. Why would she take a sippy cup to work with her for him and why would she give him anything before bringing him here for lunch knowing he has an eating issue? Both kids always have cups of milk in the car from here. They live 2 miles away. Dad picked up last week to take older dcb to get a hair cut and said he had to go home first to get the 18 month old a bottle so he would behave during the haircut of the older boy. He had to leave here, drive by where the haircut was to go home. I think he was waiting for me to say he could take a cup of milk from here. Nope. This is my worst family. forgot to add another instance with the 4 1/2 yr old. Week before I guess mom promised dcb a bag of skittles at pickup if he ate his lunch. Of course he didn't eat it, so I texted her that. She wanted to call and talk to him and I told her no. Dad picked up, asked if he ate and I told him no. Dcb was given the skittles "if you get in your carseat good and buckle up". I said, wow that's awesome, I thought those were for if he ate his lunch? Dad says, ahhh it just doesn't matter if he gets the skittles or not, he still doesn't eat good. I walked away. Unbelievable.
Family #3 has a 2 yr old boy and 4 1/2 yr old boy. Pretty good kids other than the ransacking of the car during pickup looking for food.
So help me. I cannot term any. I'm broke as it is. How do I cope with this?
Family #1, has 1 boy (18 mos) he's very large boy that uses his weight to push everyone around. He sits on people, turns his back and pushes into people, rips toys out of everyone's hands because he's bigger than most.
Family #2 has 2 boys with me. One is 4 1/2 and the other is 18 months. The 18 month old is pretty good except a nap issue. They're here 3 days a week and mom still gives him 2 naps a day for about an hour and a half each. He gets up at about 6:30, goes to bed at about 10:00 a.m. and then again about 1:30/2:00 at home. Here he gets here about 8:00 and goes down for 1 nap at 12:30. To give him the 2 naps here would be extremely disruptive. He of course only sleeps that 1 1/2 hrs here because that's his mental alarm clock going off.
His brother is giving me chest pains I swear. He's 4 1/2 and the kind of kid that looks at you with that look that says, yea what ya gonna do about it. He's a crazy boy, wild and is going through the phase of I'm not going to eat routine. The reason? it works at home. I've written before, but I'll recap. At home, he refuses to eat dinner, so it's become a game. He rides a car through the house and when he passes by the table, mom feeds him a bite of food. Or he gets a lunchable and sits in front of the tv to eat while everyone else is at the table. So here he doesn't eat either. I make normal lunches and give him 1/2 the portion of everyone else because I dont want to throw food away. He can always have more if he wants (never has happened). When mom picks up, the 2 boys run to her car and ransack it looking for snacks/candy etc and always find it. So they eat in the car and then she wonders why he won't eat at home. He actually brought a box of lucky charms yesterday for breakfast. I was busy at drop off, so the only thing I was able to get out was to the mom when I said "have you lost your mind". It just kinda slipped So, everyone (5 kids) sat down for breakfast and dcb started crying after 2 bites and said he changed his mind. I texted mom and told her and said never again. I also told her that it wasn't about actually eating it, it was to see if he could control the situation and actually get that box of cereal here. When he doesn't eat lunch here, I do not make a big deal about it and tell him it's his belly that will be hungry not mine. What happens at their house shouldn't bother me, but when it bleeds into my house it does. Mom dropped him off after preschool last week at lunchtime. I made him lunch, of course he cried because he didn't want to eat. I find out that after preschool the sippy cup that mom brought with milk in it (she takes one to work to take to him after school) tasted bad, so they stopped home before coming here to get new milk in the sippy cup and he also had some crackers. Why would she take a sippy cup to work with her for him and why would she give him anything before bringing him here for lunch knowing he has an eating issue? Both kids always have cups of milk in the car from here. They live 2 miles away. Dad picked up last week to take older dcb to get a hair cut and said he had to go home first to get the 18 month old a bottle so he would behave during the haircut of the older boy. He had to leave here, drive by where the haircut was to go home. I think he was waiting for me to say he could take a cup of milk from here. Nope. This is my worst family. forgot to add another instance with the 4 1/2 yr old. Week before I guess mom promised dcb a bag of skittles at pickup if he ate his lunch. Of course he didn't eat it, so I texted her that. She wanted to call and talk to him and I told her no. Dad picked up, asked if he ate and I told him no. Dcb was given the skittles "if you get in your carseat good and buckle up". I said, wow that's awesome, I thought those were for if he ate his lunch? Dad says, ahhh it just doesn't matter if he gets the skittles or not, he still doesn't eat good. I walked away. Unbelievable.
Family #3 has a 2 yr old boy and 4 1/2 yr old boy. Pretty good kids other than the ransacking of the car during pickup looking for food.
So help me. I cannot term any. I'm broke as it is. How do I cope with this?
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