Hello,
I am looking for opinions of care providers and other parents here. Here's the situation. My daughter is 3 and has been going to the same in home daycare over two years. Up until about 5 months ago all has been well for the most part. But for the past several months I have run into some things that have started making me feel uncomfortable and things seem to be getting worse. It started with my daughter telling me out of the blue that she was afraid of her provider. When I asked her why she said because she yells at me. At first I just thought okay maybe my daughter is being sensitive or provider just had a bad day. But my daughter continued over the next few week to tell me she was afraid and tell me about different situations where she was being yelled at. I took my daughter out for a week and talked to provider. When I talked to her she blamed the yelling on my daughters behavior and said that was the only way she could get her to listen. We hashed things out and when the week was over my daughter went back. I didn't hear anymore about yelling. Well now this week the provider told my husband that she is having to double baracade the door to the room my daughter naps in because she will not stay on bed. This made me really uncomfortable but before I could address this with her the next day she tells my husband that she had to start strapping my daughter into a booster seat as punishment because she wouldn't sit at the table. She also said this is how she is disciplining all the children now. When I spoke to my daughter she told me that she and the others get strapped into the chair when they do not listen. This where I really need an opinion. I have already decided that my daughter will not go back. But is this an acceptable form of discipline? I am very upset about it. I care very much about the provider and feel like maybe she has taken on more than she can handle or is getting burnt out. I would like to talk to her about it but I am not sure if a conversation needs to be had. I would appreciate any insight given.
I am looking for opinions of care providers and other parents here. Here's the situation. My daughter is 3 and has been going to the same in home daycare over two years. Up until about 5 months ago all has been well for the most part. But for the past several months I have run into some things that have started making me feel uncomfortable and things seem to be getting worse. It started with my daughter telling me out of the blue that she was afraid of her provider. When I asked her why she said because she yells at me. At first I just thought okay maybe my daughter is being sensitive or provider just had a bad day. But my daughter continued over the next few week to tell me she was afraid and tell me about different situations where she was being yelled at. I took my daughter out for a week and talked to provider. When I talked to her she blamed the yelling on my daughters behavior and said that was the only way she could get her to listen. We hashed things out and when the week was over my daughter went back. I didn't hear anymore about yelling. Well now this week the provider told my husband that she is having to double baracade the door to the room my daughter naps in because she will not stay on bed. This made me really uncomfortable but before I could address this with her the next day she tells my husband that she had to start strapping my daughter into a booster seat as punishment because she wouldn't sit at the table. She also said this is how she is disciplining all the children now. When I spoke to my daughter she told me that she and the others get strapped into the chair when they do not listen. This where I really need an opinion. I have already decided that my daughter will not go back. But is this an acceptable form of discipline? I am very upset about it. I care very much about the provider and feel like maybe she has taken on more than she can handle or is getting burnt out. I would like to talk to her about it but I am not sure if a conversation needs to be had. I would appreciate any insight given.
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