I've posted about this kid before -- he is 2 years old and just does not give one crap about using the potty. He has never once told me when he needs to go, and will not go unless I make him. His parents, however, insist that he must be potty trained. They refuse to put him back in diapers and try again later -- mom said "I'm not doing the whole diaper thing again, I'm just not."
This "let's force the kid to potty-train" thing has gone on for 2-3 months now, and I am just so done with it. I am sick of asking the kid 100x a day "Do you have to go potty?" when I know that every time he will say no. I am sick of forcing him to go potty at certain intervals, when half the time he has already peed in his Pull-Up anyway. He always, ALWAYS poops in the Pull-Up, and will never, EVER tell me when he has pooped/peed himself. He is Just. Not. Ready.
I have already told the parents about a month ago that I didn't think he was ready, and described all the things I just stated above. That's when dcm told me she refused to go back to diapers and try again later. I just found out via facebook that she is due with baby #2 this summer, so now she has even more motivation to get the kid potty-trained ASAP.
I don't know what to do, as this is the only issue I have ever had with this family, and I don't want to lose them if I give them some ultimatum ("put him back in diapers at daycare or take him somewhere else"). I only have 2 families right now. But I can't keep doing this anymore. I want to tell them, "If you want him to stay in Pull-Ups and you want to keep trying to PT him at home, fine. But I won't do it anymore. I am not going to keep forcing him to use the bathroom all day long when he is showing no interest. When he can tell me 'I need to go potty', then I will work on PT him again. Until then, I want him back in diapers at daycare." My reasoning for the diapers is that Pull-Ups are not made to absorb as well as diapers do, and when he pees a full load in them, they leak.
What would you do in this situation? Am I being to rigid? It's been 3 months of this and he has made Zero progress, and it's stressing us both out. I just don't see the point in forcing the kid to PT if he clearly doesn't care and won't cooperate.
This "let's force the kid to potty-train" thing has gone on for 2-3 months now, and I am just so done with it. I am sick of asking the kid 100x a day "Do you have to go potty?" when I know that every time he will say no. I am sick of forcing him to go potty at certain intervals, when half the time he has already peed in his Pull-Up anyway. He always, ALWAYS poops in the Pull-Up, and will never, EVER tell me when he has pooped/peed himself. He is Just. Not. Ready.
I have already told the parents about a month ago that I didn't think he was ready, and described all the things I just stated above. That's when dcm told me she refused to go back to diapers and try again later. I just found out via facebook that she is due with baby #2 this summer, so now she has even more motivation to get the kid potty-trained ASAP.
I don't know what to do, as this is the only issue I have ever had with this family, and I don't want to lose them if I give them some ultimatum ("put him back in diapers at daycare or take him somewhere else"). I only have 2 families right now. But I can't keep doing this anymore. I want to tell them, "If you want him to stay in Pull-Ups and you want to keep trying to PT him at home, fine. But I won't do it anymore. I am not going to keep forcing him to use the bathroom all day long when he is showing no interest. When he can tell me 'I need to go potty', then I will work on PT him again. Until then, I want him back in diapers at daycare." My reasoning for the diapers is that Pull-Ups are not made to absorb as well as diapers do, and when he pees a full load in them, they leak.
What would you do in this situation? Am I being to rigid? It's been 3 months of this and he has made Zero progress, and it's stressing us both out. I just don't see the point in forcing the kid to PT if he clearly doesn't care and won't cooperate.
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