I'm really stumped by this one. Little girl, 4, has been with me since she was two. Her sister also attended here, so it's a long-term family with me. She was never a problem, no issues with crying.
We are located directly next door to a charter school. This school offers free Voluntary Pre Kindergarten. (VPK). The older sister also attends there, she is in second grade there now. Younger sis is very familiar with the school, since she has been there many times to pick up older sis. Her cousins also attend there.
Mom enrolled DCG there to attend VPK. This saves mom quite a bit of money and I totally understand that. VPK ends at 1130, so I walk next door and pick her up and bring her here for the rest of her day. (Yes, mom is getting a cheap rate from me, that's not the issue, I don't mind cutting her a break on tuition)
At the start of the school year, everything was fine. Slowly, she started having problems being clingy at drop off there. Then, it progressed to dcg crying at drop off. She always seemed ok-ish when I picked her up over there. Now, the poor girl is having terrible crying there, beyond drop off time. All last week, and again today, she is crying when I pick her up at 1130. Last week, she'd be ok in a few minutes. Today, she cried all through lunch, story time and the beginning of nap. Really, really upset crying. She CANNOT tell me what is wrong, just cries for mom.
I'm not a fan of VPK in general. This room is small, crowded with kids, not too terribly many toys, no outside time, and it always seems a little chaotic. Nothing terrible, but just loud and crowded. The teacher seems ok to me, but has a loud booming voice, and while it's not"yelling", can see why some kids may be intimidated by her. She has an assistant who I'd also not terribly "comforting" in appearance or tone either. You know how it is....their goal is to have as many kids for as few staff as the law will allow. This isn't MY business model, but many big centers/VPK programs operate this way, sadly.
I am just upset seeing this normally nice, joyful, playful and happy little girl in tears every single day. Her friends here get upset that she's upset. Mom is well aware of the issues. I believe this VPK environment is not good for her. She was used to our little center that is so much more calm, home-like and WAY below state mandated ratios. I want to tell mom to pull her from over there. I don't think it's my business though. Would you all offer mom the same cheap rate for the full day again? I am pretty sure the financial aspect has something to do with her decision making process. I normally charge $195 pet week, since going to VPK half days, I dropped her rate to $100 a week
Is taking a $95 hit the right thing to do here? For the sake of this fragile and very upset little girl? WWYD???
We are located directly next door to a charter school. This school offers free Voluntary Pre Kindergarten. (VPK). The older sister also attends there, she is in second grade there now. Younger sis is very familiar with the school, since she has been there many times to pick up older sis. Her cousins also attend there.
Mom enrolled DCG there to attend VPK. This saves mom quite a bit of money and I totally understand that. VPK ends at 1130, so I walk next door and pick her up and bring her here for the rest of her day. (Yes, mom is getting a cheap rate from me, that's not the issue, I don't mind cutting her a break on tuition)
At the start of the school year, everything was fine. Slowly, she started having problems being clingy at drop off there. Then, it progressed to dcg crying at drop off. She always seemed ok-ish when I picked her up over there. Now, the poor girl is having terrible crying there, beyond drop off time. All last week, and again today, she is crying when I pick her up at 1130. Last week, she'd be ok in a few minutes. Today, she cried all through lunch, story time and the beginning of nap. Really, really upset crying. She CANNOT tell me what is wrong, just cries for mom.
I'm not a fan of VPK in general. This room is small, crowded with kids, not too terribly many toys, no outside time, and it always seems a little chaotic. Nothing terrible, but just loud and crowded. The teacher seems ok to me, but has a loud booming voice, and while it's not"yelling", can see why some kids may be intimidated by her. She has an assistant who I'd also not terribly "comforting" in appearance or tone either. You know how it is....their goal is to have as many kids for as few staff as the law will allow. This isn't MY business model, but many big centers/VPK programs operate this way, sadly.
I am just upset seeing this normally nice, joyful, playful and happy little girl in tears every single day. Her friends here get upset that she's upset. Mom is well aware of the issues. I believe this VPK environment is not good for her. She was used to our little center that is so much more calm, home-like and WAY below state mandated ratios. I want to tell mom to pull her from over there. I don't think it's my business though. Would you all offer mom the same cheap rate for the full day again? I am pretty sure the financial aspect has something to do with her decision making process. I normally charge $195 pet week, since going to VPK half days, I dropped her rate to $100 a week
Is taking a $95 hit the right thing to do here? For the sake of this fragile and very upset little girl? WWYD???
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