I have a dcb3 here who is....difficult. I've long suspected that discipline at home is inconsistent and try as I may I can't get the parents on board. I've loaned out books to them, given them articles, talked to them, and yet it continues. We're finally at a point where dcb is fairly well behaved here and when I do have to discipline him he doesn't scream & cry to the point of gagging himself.
His parents tell me over and over how they DO discipline him and they ARE consistent. The last chat I had with dcm about discipline (she brought it up) ended abruptly when dcm looked at me and said "what we don't understand is WHY it's not working when we ARE consistent with what we're doing. It doesn't work for him." well okay then. I disagree but she was obviously done discussing it.
Today dcd picks up dcb3 and his brother who is 1. Dad was getting their stuff together and dcb3 smacks dcb1 in the face on purpose with dcb3's blankie. Dad takes dcb3's blanket happyface and asks him why he did that. Dcb3 starts in "it was an accident. soooooorry dcb1. Can I have my blankie now?" Dcd said no. Then dcb3 starts his ear piercing blood curdling scream, drops to the floor and commences sobbing while alternating between arching his back and banging his head on the floor. I walked away. Dcd immediately gives dcb3 his blankie and the tantrum stopped.
I had to bite my tongue, but maybe I shouldn't have. Honestly it's ridiculous. Dcb3 does this crap all the time with mom and dad and they give in just so they don't have to listen to it. Then they wonder why he acts like he does-and tell me that they do discipline consistently. I don't know why it bothers me so much but it does. Guess we're back to handing him off at the door. Why can't parents BE PARENTS???
The icing on the cake is dcb1 is starting to act like dcb3. Earlier this week dcm was picking up the boys and dcb1 was messing with something he wasn't supposed to. I told him no. He stopped and then started crying. Mom rushed over to pick him up, saying "he's just a baby, he doesn't understand!" Really? Cause when he's told no when you're not here, he cries for a minute then finds something else to do. Yes, he understands.
Get a clue parents.
His parents tell me over and over how they DO discipline him and they ARE consistent. The last chat I had with dcm about discipline (she brought it up) ended abruptly when dcm looked at me and said "what we don't understand is WHY it's not working when we ARE consistent with what we're doing. It doesn't work for him." well okay then. I disagree but she was obviously done discussing it.
Today dcd picks up dcb3 and his brother who is 1. Dad was getting their stuff together and dcb3 smacks dcb1 in the face on purpose with dcb3's blankie. Dad takes dcb3's blanket happyface and asks him why he did that. Dcb3 starts in "it was an accident. soooooorry dcb1. Can I have my blankie now?" Dcd said no. Then dcb3 starts his ear piercing blood curdling scream, drops to the floor and commences sobbing while alternating between arching his back and banging his head on the floor. I walked away. Dcd immediately gives dcb3 his blankie and the tantrum stopped.
I had to bite my tongue, but maybe I shouldn't have. Honestly it's ridiculous. Dcb3 does this crap all the time with mom and dad and they give in just so they don't have to listen to it. Then they wonder why he acts like he does-and tell me that they do discipline consistently. I don't know why it bothers me so much but it does. Guess we're back to handing him off at the door. Why can't parents BE PARENTS???
The icing on the cake is dcb1 is starting to act like dcb3. Earlier this week dcm was picking up the boys and dcb1 was messing with something he wasn't supposed to. I told him no. He stopped and then started crying. Mom rushed over to pick him up, saying "he's just a baby, he doesn't understand!" Really? Cause when he's told no when you're not here, he cries for a minute then finds something else to do. Yes, he understands.
Get a clue parents.
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