Dcb 29 mos has been with me 8 mos started out a couple of weeks ago having an unreasonable fear of bees flies ants etc. Ok I get the fact that twos have a variety of fears and create their own as well. In his mind I am sure it was real so I dealt w it as tho it was real. He would think he saw a bug and absolutely freak out. Stiffen up, screaming hysterically and run and cringe in a corner and wouldn't let me calm him or help him. After about thirty min he wld calm down. This happened three times, and each time I happened to be either right near him or holding him and there were no bugs anywhere! When this happened outside he was fine as soon as I said we were going inside. He stopped screaming even tho we were still outside.
Then yesterday, he became hysterical screaming that he didn't want the water in the sink to touch him. Up until this point he was washing own hands and actually played in the water way too long most of the time. Mom said he turned on the shower head by accident the day before and freaked out about it, so they removed it up to this point I have been sympathetic to him, sitting with him, trying to calm him etc then when it's over, moving on as tho all is great.
Well, today he heard thunder. And as soon as I saw his face i said " no way B, we are not doing this today! If you start crying you will need to sit on the rug until you are done." So he started the same pattern, went and sat on the rug and after five minutes of him screaming and me ignoring, he got up and went and played as tho nothing was wrong...and even tho it still thundered even louder, he kept playing and was fine.
So if you read all this thank you! And what do you think is going on? I don't want to deny real fear that he may have and comfort for it, but he is a nice boy who can def manipulate the adults in his life. I do not normally let him get away w manipulation here.
Do you think it is for attention? Or is he really afraid?!
Then yesterday, he became hysterical screaming that he didn't want the water in the sink to touch him. Up until this point he was washing own hands and actually played in the water way too long most of the time. Mom said he turned on the shower head by accident the day before and freaked out about it, so they removed it up to this point I have been sympathetic to him, sitting with him, trying to calm him etc then when it's over, moving on as tho all is great.
Well, today he heard thunder. And as soon as I saw his face i said " no way B, we are not doing this today! If you start crying you will need to sit on the rug until you are done." So he started the same pattern, went and sat on the rug and after five minutes of him screaming and me ignoring, he got up and went and played as tho nothing was wrong...and even tho it still thundered even louder, he kept playing and was fine.
So if you read all this thank you! And what do you think is going on? I don't want to deny real fear that he may have and comfort for it, but he is a nice boy who can def manipulate the adults in his life. I do not normally let him get away w manipulation here.
Do you think it is for attention? Or is he really afraid?!
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