ok, this will be long.....
but I need help before this afternoon.
ok, background , about 3 yrs ago I interviewed and accepted for a boy in my daughters class, We are facing a 17% unemployment rate in our county and money was tight for a long long time. Thankfully things are looking up,. but anyhow,.... this boy comes for awhile, then mom buys a house in our neighborhood,.. we share an alley. We arent 'neighbors', dont socialize, we dont hang out, ever. Ok,... I dont plan on keeping him after this school year,. I really dont have room for him except for the school year and he is almost 11. Too old for Miss Jills.
I get a call sunday afternoon,... she is crying, going on about how she wanted to know if another of our neighbors had called me about something,.. I guess she got in afight with her live in bf and he had her on the ground, choking her, kicking her, etc.... 2 of our neighbors stepped in,.. she got in her car took off,.. etc,.... ok, No,.. Noone called me, I didnt know,. I was watching the football game. Is your son ok? Yes, he wasnt here, he was with someone else,.. blah blah blah,...
ok, so today one of my childcare moms (nurse) comes in,... says she ran into this mom on sunday at zumba, hurt Mom says,.. did Miss Jill call you or tell you what happened? Nurse mom says no,.. then hurt mom starts bawling, askes her to feel her ribs, check her arm, etc,..tells her what happened,..
.. so then nurse mom comes in this morning,... says,.. Jill,.. you are a mandated reporter just like me right??? I said,.. yes. why,??? she says,.. well hurt mom cornered me at zumba and asked if I had talked to you , asks me to check outher ribs, her neck, bruises,... etc,.. I stopped her and said,.. My duty is to Her son,.. he is fine, wasnt there, and hasnt mentioned it. If he does, or ever says anything about any other things, I will report but until then I cant file call because a neighbor told me something happened to her when her son wasnt present, when I wasnt around, and I see no proof of any abuse. She says,.. I understand,... and I agree....
so I am furious with hurt mom,.... How dare she imply to another parent that I would be so unprofessional as to go out and spread gossip about one parent to another?! How dare she point blank ask if I had??? That is underminding (sp?) any professionalism I have earned from the clients I serve. I am absolutely furious. I have bent over backwards to help this single mom, Ive stayed late, opened early, kept him on to help her out although he is older than any other enrolled child by 7 years. I am completely desiring a confrontation at pickup this afternoon. I am so wanting to rip into her unprofessional behavior. It was unwarranted, and uncalled for. I have never, nor do I see me ever gossip about families. I have a confidentiality code and polidy. I may say,.. day friend,.. or day mom,.. generally but I have never openly talked with one parent about another. Im absolutely giddy about confronting her. I have every right to kick her out. I have every right to terminate on the spot and not look back. But this boy has been with me thru his parents divorce, his moms 4 boyfriends, his moms behaviors,.. I am the only constant in his life. I truly love him. And it is that devotion that will save her from being tossed tonight. Unless she says something wrong. So,.. help me guide me give me words ideas, and backbone. Im going to tell her everything she has ever done to make me angry from being hateful to me and her son until she saw my husbands friend in the garage,.. then instant smiles!!! to how she talks to her son in front of my daughter at the school and in front of my home in the mornings.
but I need help before this afternoon.
ok, background , about 3 yrs ago I interviewed and accepted for a boy in my daughters class, We are facing a 17% unemployment rate in our county and money was tight for a long long time. Thankfully things are looking up,. but anyhow,.... this boy comes for awhile, then mom buys a house in our neighborhood,.. we share an alley. We arent 'neighbors', dont socialize, we dont hang out, ever. Ok,... I dont plan on keeping him after this school year,. I really dont have room for him except for the school year and he is almost 11. Too old for Miss Jills.
I get a call sunday afternoon,... she is crying, going on about how she wanted to know if another of our neighbors had called me about something,.. I guess she got in afight with her live in bf and he had her on the ground, choking her, kicking her, etc.... 2 of our neighbors stepped in,.. she got in her car took off,.. etc,.... ok, No,.. Noone called me, I didnt know,. I was watching the football game. Is your son ok? Yes, he wasnt here, he was with someone else,.. blah blah blah,...
ok, so today one of my childcare moms (nurse) comes in,... says she ran into this mom on sunday at zumba, hurt Mom says,.. did Miss Jill call you or tell you what happened? Nurse mom says no,.. then hurt mom starts bawling, askes her to feel her ribs, check her arm, etc,..tells her what happened,..
.. so then nurse mom comes in this morning,... says,.. Jill,.. you are a mandated reporter just like me right??? I said,.. yes. why,??? she says,.. well hurt mom cornered me at zumba and asked if I had talked to you , asks me to check outher ribs, her neck, bruises,... etc,.. I stopped her and said,.. My duty is to Her son,.. he is fine, wasnt there, and hasnt mentioned it. If he does, or ever says anything about any other things, I will report but until then I cant file call because a neighbor told me something happened to her when her son wasnt present, when I wasnt around, and I see no proof of any abuse. She says,.. I understand,... and I agree....
so I am furious with hurt mom,.... How dare she imply to another parent that I would be so unprofessional as to go out and spread gossip about one parent to another?! How dare she point blank ask if I had??? That is underminding (sp?) any professionalism I have earned from the clients I serve. I am absolutely furious. I have bent over backwards to help this single mom, Ive stayed late, opened early, kept him on to help her out although he is older than any other enrolled child by 7 years. I am completely desiring a confrontation at pickup this afternoon. I am so wanting to rip into her unprofessional behavior. It was unwarranted, and uncalled for. I have never, nor do I see me ever gossip about families. I have a confidentiality code and polidy. I may say,.. day friend,.. or day mom,.. generally but I have never openly talked with one parent about another. Im absolutely giddy about confronting her. I have every right to kick her out. I have every right to terminate on the spot and not look back. But this boy has been with me thru his parents divorce, his moms 4 boyfriends, his moms behaviors,.. I am the only constant in his life. I truly love him. And it is that devotion that will save her from being tossed tonight. Unless she says something wrong. So,.. help me guide me give me words ideas, and backbone. Im going to tell her everything she has ever done to make me angry from being hateful to me and her son until she saw my husbands friend in the garage,.. then instant smiles!!! to how she talks to her son in front of my daughter at the school and in front of my home in the mornings.
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