This is my biggest problem in child care, and I would greatly appreciate any help deciphering the better of the two, or a new route altogether?
If I suck it up, then my income is secure, but then dcp's tend to walk all over me...over...and over...again, by disrespecting, condescending, and exhibiting confrontational behavior, til I'm unsure of myself, angry at myself for allowing it, depressed, and burnt out, hating my child care. After all the layers of frustration that build up, that's usually when I erupt like a volcano. Then there is no holding back, and I'm shaken, my nerves are shot, and what I say then is usually unprofessional cause my emotions take the reins......and the dcp's, more often than not, tends to leave.
If I say it, then I'm relieved and excited to have empowered myself. Feel overall better about the child care and where it's going, by my standards....but then the dcp's treat me like I'm a big ol bit..! I start to self doubt, and worry about their loyalty and my income if they are not happy, and are thinking of leaving. That's usually when the passive/aggressive dcp's really start to show what their made of. I become challenged by them regularly, while they test the waters, just to see what I'll do. I find myself walking on egg shells waiting for their next challenge to arise. The friendly co-working atmosphere I value and try so hard to achieve is gone, until........the dcp's, more often than not, tends to leave.
I realize not all dcp's are like this, but then, some are. I have some right now who fit the mold to a tee!
What do you do?
If I suck it up, then my income is secure, but then dcp's tend to walk all over me...over...and over...again, by disrespecting, condescending, and exhibiting confrontational behavior, til I'm unsure of myself, angry at myself for allowing it, depressed, and burnt out, hating my child care. After all the layers of frustration that build up, that's usually when I erupt like a volcano. Then there is no holding back, and I'm shaken, my nerves are shot, and what I say then is usually unprofessional cause my emotions take the reins......and the dcp's, more often than not, tends to leave.
If I say it, then I'm relieved and excited to have empowered myself. Feel overall better about the child care and where it's going, by my standards....but then the dcp's treat me like I'm a big ol bit..! I start to self doubt, and worry about their loyalty and my income if they are not happy, and are thinking of leaving. That's usually when the passive/aggressive dcp's really start to show what their made of. I become challenged by them regularly, while they test the waters, just to see what I'll do. I find myself walking on egg shells waiting for their next challenge to arise. The friendly co-working atmosphere I value and try so hard to achieve is gone, until........the dcp's, more often than not, tends to leave.
I realize not all dcp's are like this, but then, some are. I have some right now who fit the mold to a tee!
What do you do?
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