Do You Have DC Parents Like This?

[Shell]

I have one dcm that attributes every wonderful and exciting thing dcg learns to herself, and not the fact that dcg is here 45 hrs plus a week. I usually just go along with it, and interject when appropriate that the other kids are doing/saying this, or we worked on that at circle time, but usually I just smile and let it go.

When dcg was little, she would make such a production over dcg using particular phrases that every other child here would say, and she would swear it was because they said it in the car, or at dinner.

Now that dcg is older, she swears that her advanced verbal skills are because of things they do at home- I'm not doubting that they do great things with her, but c'mon-she's here more than she's at home!

When dcg went through and identified letters of the alphabet at an early age, my assistant and I would kid each other and say, "it must be those 2 hours a night she spends with her parents" (Not the fact that we work on this kind of thing daily).

Dcd did publicly announce at a party that I was responsible for dcg becoming potty trained. He had no idea how nice it felt to be appreciated for something.

Does anyone else have this kind of parent? I'm sure I could think of more/better examples, but this just came to mind.

[thetoddlerwhisper]

I have one dcm that attributes every wonderful and exciting thing dcg learns to herself, and not the fact that dcg is here 45 hrs plus a week. I usually just go along with it, and interject when appropriate that the other kids are doing/saying this, or we worked on that at circle time, but usually I just smile and let it go.

When dcg was little, she would make such a production over dcg using particular phrases that every other child here would say, and she would swear it was because they said it in the car, or at dinner.

Now that dcg is older, she swears that her advanced verbal skills are because of things they do at home- I'm not doubting that they do great things with her, but c'mon-she's here more than she's at home!

When dcg went through and identified letters of the alphabet at an early age, my assistant and I would kid each other and say, "it must be those 2 hours a night she spends with her parents" (Not the fact that we work on this kind of thing daily).

Dcd did publicly announce at a party that I was responsible for dcg becoming potty trained. He had no idea how nice it felt to be appreciated for something.

Does anyone else have this kind of parent? I'm sure I could think of more/better examples, but this just came to mind.

Oh do I. i had a parent come in monday and say "oh i taught dcg2 to count to 10 this weekend" actually dcg has been counting to 10 since midsummer and she can now count to 17........ Or "oh dcg stayed dry all day saturday" umm yeah she stays dry here everyday and ive asked you about underwear for weeks now........I dont know anything though. Or work with em......

[Blackcat31]

I have one like that too.

Mine thinks it's grandma that teaches her child everything.

She told me last week how grandma taught DCK to write their name.....and it only took one evening with grandma!

Never mind that we've been working on writing their full names here since September.

If mom wants to give the credit to grandma, that's cool. As long as she still gives me the checks on Friday, we're good.

[TwinKristi]

Ha, yeah kinda. She's drop-in only now but when he was here FT she did that kinda stuff. The bad stuff he learned from his sister he must have learned here but the good stuff he learned at home or now preschool. She was just telling me today how he's obsessed with Batman and how he wanted a batman toy for his bday and says "Batman!" all the time and must have learned it from kids at school because they've never even watched Batman. I had to kinda LOL because my teen sons taught him to say it at least six mos ago! I know for SURE he was saying it back in Oct because my youngest DS was Batman for Halloween and he would say it with a growling kinda voice. I asked her if he kinda growls when he says it and she said YES! Haha yeah that's from here.

[CraftyMom]

Hahahaha! Yes!! It bothers me but I don't say anything. Mom taking credit for 18mo old knowing colors, etc. My favorite is when the parents tell the child to show me what they learned to do...I'm thinking, ummmm he learned that here months ago!! The child always looks confused too, as if to say why do you want me to show her, she taught me?!

[Play Care]

I have one like that too.

Mine thinks it's grandma that teaches her child everything.

She told me last week how grandma taught DCK to write their name.....and it only took one evening with grandma!

Never mind that we've been working on writing their full names here since September.

If mom wants to give the credit to grandma, that's cool. As long as she still gives me the checks on Friday, we're good.

To me this is very much like not telling a parent their infant had a "first" here and letting them tell you how baby rolled, sat up or walked at home. He may have bed doing those things for the last week at your house I say let them take the credit or have their moment. So long as the check clears...::

[originalkat]

yes, I do. Later I ask the child where she learned to do "that". The kid knows exactly who taught her. LOL::

[nannyde]

I would rather have cash than credit.

[Patches]

i would rather have cash than credit.

i. Love. This.

[NoMoreJuice!]

Love it!

I would rather have cash than credit.

That is priceless!!

Yes, sometimes this is a totally thankless job. I try to have monthly meetings with the parents to catch up on what the kids are learning and how their particular child is advancing (in addition to our weekly newsletters). I don't want to brag or take credit for everything their child learns, but I certainly want them to feel like they're getting their money's worth from my program!! I have had a few parents in the past tell me that I'm just having their child "re-learn" everything they've already taught them at home. I respond by ensuring them that they did a great job, and I am happy to provide a backup role with reinforcement, which is essential for retention.

[blandino]

I have some DCP who attribute everything their child learns to me, even when I am fairly certain we haven't been working THAT hard on it. But I will gladly let them think that.

Then I have some DCP, who when I say "Hey, have you noticed that DCK is doing blah blah", they will say "Yes, we have been working on it at home".

It couldn't possibly be the fact that we work on it weekly

[SunshineMama]

I have one dcm that attributes every wonderful and exciting thing dcg learns to herself, and not the fact that dcg is here 45 hrs plus a week. I usually just go along with it, and interject when appropriate that the other kids are doing/saying this, or we worked on that at circle time, but usually I just smile and let it go.

When dcg was little, she would make such a production over dcg using particular phrases that every other child here would say, and she would swear it was because they said it in the car, or at dinner.

Now that dcg is older, she swears that her advanced verbal skills are because of things they do at home- I'm not doubting that they do great things with her, but c'mon-she's here more than she's at home!

When dcg went through and identified letters of the alphabet at an early age, my assistant and I would kid each other and say, "it must be those 2 hours a night she spends with her parents" (Not the fact that we work on this kind of thing daily).

Dcd did publicly announce at a party that I was responsible for dcg becoming potty trained. He had no idea how nice it felt to be appreciated for something.

Does anyone else have this kind of parent? I'm sure I could think of more/better examples, but this just came to mind.

Haha YES! I have one like that!

[crazydaycarelady]

Yes, I have parents that take credit for things their children learn, unless of course it's something undesirable, then they picked that up here for sure!

And if they get sick, they always got that here too!

[butterfly]

To me this is very much like not telling a parent their infant had a "first" here and letting them tell you how baby rolled, sat up or walked at home. He may have bed doing those things for the last week at your house I say let them take the credit or have their moment. So long as the check clears...::

That is a really awesome perspective on the topic. I always make sure the first's with babies only happen at home -why should it be any different as they grow older. Thanks for changing my resentful point of view on it.

Otherwise, I was going to say that you may need better communication with parents about the things dcks are learning in daycare. I try to send out a newsletter via email atleast monthly to update the parents on what we are learning that month. I also have a bulletin board for just our learning activities so at any time parents can view what we learned that day.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have some DCP who attribute everything their child learns to me, even when I am fairly certain we haven't been working THAT hard on it. But I will gladly let them think that.

Then I have some DCP, who when I say "Hey, have you noticed that DCK is doing blah blah", they will say "Yes, we have been working on it at home".

It couldn't possibly be the fact that we work on it weekly

Hahaha, here too for both things.