"I Spilled Milk" = I Peed At The Lunch Table

[TheGoodLife]

So DCG 21 months told me she spilled at the lunch table. Wiping up green beans on her chair when I felt her pants were wet. She told me it was milk. FF to when she's getting ready for nap and putting on a pull-up, and it REEKS off pee in the bathroom. Looking for a wet pull up or diaper... nope. Bent down to sniff by her bottom and sure enough! So frustrated that she lied to me and that I wiped up her "milk" during lunch time and just kept going So not like her, but she's been having problems following directions (cries when I ask her to do something like put on her pull up or pants before nap- not that she doesn't want to but like she's scared)

Not looking forward to going to work tonight (I serve at a restaurant)- I just want a glass of wine.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My first thought was ... what has changed in her home life?

[preschoolteacher]

My first thought is "how is a 21 month old in underwear?" I have 30, 33 month old girls here nowhere near potty trained!

[TheGoodLife]

She has a very stable home life, and she actually potty trained over 6 months ago, very early but not forced by mom was just ready at an early age. Just needs a pull-up at nap and bedtime.

[Blackcat31]

So DCG 21 months told me she spilled at the lunch table. Wiping up green beans on her chair when I felt her pants were wet. She told me it was milk. FF to when she's getting ready for nap and putting on a pull-up, and it REEKS off pee in the bathroom. Looking for a wet pull up or diaper... nope. Bent down to sniff by her bottom and sure enough! So frustrated that she lied to me and that I wiped up her "milk" during lunch time and just kept going So not like her, but she's been having problems following directions (cries when I ask her to do something like put on her pull up or pants before nap- not that she doesn't want to but like she's scared)
Not looking forward to going to work tonight (I serve at a restaurant)- I just want a glass of wine.

I have one like that. He is 3.

I think for mine anyways, it's the pressure. Mom really pushes him to succeed at a lot of things. He had a little regression about 6 months after potty training and I think he may of either gotten in trouble for accidents at home or he was shamed for it because if he has ANY issues with toileting and accidents he gets this scared look on his face that screams "anxiety"... or fear...

Not fear of being punished like spanked or anything but I think fear of doing the wrong thing, being shamed or embarrassed or maybe even told "you know better".

That's a lot of pressure for a kid.

I wonder if that is your little one's issue... especially the fear look and the lying about peeing....like she was afraid to be truthful about it for whatever reason...kwim?

[Blackcat31]

My first thought is "how is a 21 month old in underwear?" I have 30, 33 month old girls here nowhere near potty trained!

I have 3 girls here (ages 3, 3 and 4) all of them were trained BEFORE age 2.

The earliest potty trained, "never had an accident ever" age here was 20 months. VERY verbal and female.

[daycarediva]

Every girl I have ever had in care was pt before 3. WELL before. Most before 2.


Lying is a big no no, but if it's about pting, I usually let it slide.


My 4.5yo dcg had her first ever accident here (in 2.5 years) and I said "Oh! You spilled your water all over!" You go into the bathroom to change and I will get this mess cleaned up, ok dcg?" I got the BIGGEST hug when she came out of the bathroom. Saving them face sometimes prevents the issue.


Yucky that you just wiped it. What else did you wipe up after that? ew.

[Josiegirl]

My thought was 'she's only 21 months old'. If she were 4 and told you it was milk, that'd put a whole different spin on it but the child isn't even 2 yet. I have a toddler here that's 21 months old and when you ask her a whole list of questions you get yes to everything, even if you asked her if there was an elephant in the room.
JMO
Sorry it happened to you. Kinda yuck.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My first thought is "how is a 21 month old in underwear?" I have 30, 33 month old girls here nowhere near potty trained!

HAHA! I didn't even think on that at all. Children seem to be potty trained by 3.5 here.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have 3 girls here (ages 3, 3 and 4) all of them were trained BEFORE age 2.

The earliest potty trained, "never had an accident ever" age here was 20 months. VERY verbal and female.

I don't think I've ever had a child here who did not have an accident. Wow!!! That is impressive.

[TheGoodLife]

OK, wow- I miscalculated (I was counting back from 2 years, not 3!). She will be 3 in May so she's 33 months. I was wondering why people were commenting on her age so much completely different! Anyway, she PTed a few mo the after turning two so she's well aware. Oh well, over now (but yeah, I was doing lunch so I'm sure I handled food afterward, which is why I was more upset)

[blandino]

OK, wow- I miscalculated (I was counting back from 2 years, not 3!). She will be 3 in May so she's 33 months. I was wondering why people were commenting on her age so much completely different! Anyway, she PTed a few mo the after turning two so she's well aware. Oh well, over now (but yeah, I was doing lunch so I'm sure I handled food afterward, which is why I was more upset)

Haha, I couldn't figure out for the life of me how a 21 month old PT 6 months ago. I picture a 15 month old using the toilet .

Back to the PT age comments, I have never had a child PT younger than 2 or older than 3 (one DCB started after 3, and didn't PT until 3.5, but I don't include him as one of my kids, because I feel that had he been in my care - he would have PT sooner). I think it is very well possible to PT younger than 2, but IME that happens more with SAHMs. I did have one DCG who started at 2, and DCM said she was PT at 18 months. I guess if you count daily accidents PT, then she was.

My average age is 2.5, actually 31 months.

[Nebula]

I picture a 15 month old using the toilet .


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Maybe it's because it's 5 AM and I haven't been able to fall asleep yet, but that comment made me laugh! ::::

[coolconfidentme]

All my kids were PT by 2. Rarely do I get a DCK who is PT until they are 3. Did we try harder as parents or what?

[babyluver 21]

One of my little daughters was 18mos done even at night. Most were done by 2 and one was abt to turn 3. All kids r different. I did have one dck pting at almost 5 that smeared poop everywhere in the 2 mins he eas.in the bathroom. And tried to lie about it even when his hands were wearing the evidence!!!!