I have a dcb who will be 2.5 in in March. I have had him since he was 18mo. From the beginning this dcb has been aggressive, bit, hit, pulled hair, pushed etc... I have been working with him a lot because I thought maybe he would change and in my mind I could help him. He did stop biting and every once in a while will hit or something, but isn't really aggressive to the kids. But he gets angry over everything. I know 2 year old children throw fits and tantrums, but this child will hit himself, hit and kick my walls, bang his head on the wall or floor scream and cry and throw toys, will look at me and smile when I tell him not to do something and then do it. He even hits his mom at home!
Mom, Dad, and I have talked so that we are on the same page as far as what to do when he does these things. Dcm and dcd both say to put him in t/o when he does these things. So I do, It doesn't really help, but I have him sit to calm down and away from the kids while he's flailing around. Mom tells me yesterday that she was doing research and it's normal for 2 yo to throw fits (yes it is), and that he probably does it because he can't talk yet (he can say a few words, but that's it) and that's how he gets his frustration out, but then adds that she has never seen a child be so evil when they do it! THen tells me that she'll give it 6 more months and then talk to the dr. Six months? I believe she really is trying, but come on.
Sooo today I watched my 1.5 year old ds get mad and hit himself! He's been hitting himself for a few weeks now and I redirect, sometimes ignore it, but today I looked at him doing this and I will admit that I broke down crying, in front of the kids ( I have 2 + ds today). It makes me so sad to see him do this.
Now, I know children are going to have moments and my ds isn't perfect, but it still made me so sad. I believe that the dck has done it so much that my ds has picked up on it. He actually used to bang his head on the floor too. I have cried over that too. Another dcb who is the same age as my ds is starting to hit too and his mom mentioned something to me about it.
I think I need to give up on this 2 yo dck. It makes me kind of sad to say that because I LOVE his mom and have been working really hard with her and the child, but it's taking a toll on me. And I don't want my ds and other dck's do not to follow in this dck's footsteps. What do I say to this mom? She is my favorite, but I just don't think it'll work anymore.
Thanks for letting me vent! Phewww I feel better!
Mom, Dad, and I have talked so that we are on the same page as far as what to do when he does these things. Dcm and dcd both say to put him in t/o when he does these things. So I do, It doesn't really help, but I have him sit to calm down and away from the kids while he's flailing around. Mom tells me yesterday that she was doing research and it's normal for 2 yo to throw fits (yes it is), and that he probably does it because he can't talk yet (he can say a few words, but that's it) and that's how he gets his frustration out, but then adds that she has never seen a child be so evil when they do it! THen tells me that she'll give it 6 more months and then talk to the dr. Six months? I believe she really is trying, but come on.
Sooo today I watched my 1.5 year old ds get mad and hit himself! He's been hitting himself for a few weeks now and I redirect, sometimes ignore it, but today I looked at him doing this and I will admit that I broke down crying, in front of the kids ( I have 2 + ds today). It makes me so sad to see him do this.
Now, I know children are going to have moments and my ds isn't perfect, but it still made me so sad. I believe that the dck has done it so much that my ds has picked up on it. He actually used to bang his head on the floor too. I have cried over that too. Another dcb who is the same age as my ds is starting to hit too and his mom mentioned something to me about it.
I think I need to give up on this 2 yo dck. It makes me kind of sad to say that because I LOVE his mom and have been working really hard with her and the child, but it's taking a toll on me. And I don't want my ds and other dck's do not to follow in this dck's footsteps. What do I say to this mom? She is my favorite, but I just don't think it'll work anymore.
Thanks for letting me vent! Phewww I feel better!
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