Last year, I was pregnant with my 3rd child. I cared for a set of twins, a 2 year old, and a 4 year old. I was stressed and miserable and exhausted all the time, and I hated life.
The twins went on to all day preschool, and I had my baby. I added a 1 year old. So here we are today- I have two 1 year olds, two 3 year olds, and two 5 year olds. The 3 and 5's are in school 2 days a week, however I do the transportation for that. (I drive a SUV with a 3rd row, and it is a PAIN to lift the kids over the back seat, into the 3rd rom, take them to school, get them all out, pick up the kids from school, then pack them all in the car to go home, but that's another gripe for another day).
With the crew that I have now, I do not hate life. It is a lot of work, esp since 3 of the littles are my own, and the littlest is still awake at night. I am up 1-2 times in the middle of the night, and awake taking care of kids from 6am, until mine go to sleep, which is supposed to be by 7:30, however the middle child is protesting bed, so I am sticking her back in her bed until 9 occasionally. My "free time" is from 9pm-10pm, in which I usually watch TV and pass out.
I *could* take another dck, but my schedule works out that I only have 4 kids to watch on Fridays, and I usually schedule all of my appointments for then, and have a family member help me out with the kids.
I need a life too. I need to be able to go to drs appointments, and just to breathe every now and then.
We are having money troubles, and dh wants me to take on another dck. I don't want to. I can manage life now, and am relatively happy, and was so miserable before, I don't ever want to go back to feeling that way. I itemized all of our expenses from last year, and noticed where we could make a ton of cuts. DH spends 1-200 a month on his hobbies, and another 150-200 a month on going out to eat at work.
I don't know how to explain to DH that I just cant. He thinks I am just being lazy and that childcare is so easy, so why not. He has no clue that being housebound all day everyday is awful. He is always telling me he would love to trade places bc it is so easy being a SAHM and watching dck's, but when he spends time with our own kids he gets so frustrated and just sticks them in front of the TV while he plays on his phone all day.
WWYD? I have an interview for a DCK tonight, but honestly I want to cancel.
The twins went on to all day preschool, and I had my baby. I added a 1 year old. So here we are today- I have two 1 year olds, two 3 year olds, and two 5 year olds. The 3 and 5's are in school 2 days a week, however I do the transportation for that. (I drive a SUV with a 3rd row, and it is a PAIN to lift the kids over the back seat, into the 3rd rom, take them to school, get them all out, pick up the kids from school, then pack them all in the car to go home, but that's another gripe for another day).
With the crew that I have now, I do not hate life. It is a lot of work, esp since 3 of the littles are my own, and the littlest is still awake at night. I am up 1-2 times in the middle of the night, and awake taking care of kids from 6am, until mine go to sleep, which is supposed to be by 7:30, however the middle child is protesting bed, so I am sticking her back in her bed until 9 occasionally. My "free time" is from 9pm-10pm, in which I usually watch TV and pass out.
I *could* take another dck, but my schedule works out that I only have 4 kids to watch on Fridays, and I usually schedule all of my appointments for then, and have a family member help me out with the kids.
I need a life too. I need to be able to go to drs appointments, and just to breathe every now and then.
We are having money troubles, and dh wants me to take on another dck. I don't want to. I can manage life now, and am relatively happy, and was so miserable before, I don't ever want to go back to feeling that way. I itemized all of our expenses from last year, and noticed where we could make a ton of cuts. DH spends 1-200 a month on his hobbies, and another 150-200 a month on going out to eat at work.
I don't know how to explain to DH that I just cant. He thinks I am just being lazy and that childcare is so easy, so why not. He has no clue that being housebound all day everyday is awful. He is always telling me he would love to trade places bc it is so easy being a SAHM and watching dck's, but when he spends time with our own kids he gets so frustrated and just sticks them in front of the TV while he plays on his phone all day.
WWYD? I have an interview for a DCK tonight, but honestly I want to cancel.
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