I feel like I so need a vacation. The kids have been so naughty, I'm pregnant and my stress level has hit it's max!
So since being with my dh holidays have been extremely frustrating to me. His family is just so unwilling to compromise on holdiays and want things to be like they have always been before I came along. Well guess what? I had a family also before these people came along and I am still willing to compromise. Growing up I remember it being so easy. The in laws and everyone had a system and they all got along. My mom said it was always that easy. So his family never asked us over for thanksgiving or got back to us about it. So we made plans to go to my parents for dinner. So their solution is to come over to our house the following weekend to do another dinner. Is it just me or is this absurd?? Now my parents are always welcoming to his family. They are welcome to join us. They however don't even like including me into the family let alone my parents. They are very old school italians and very unwelcoming to outsiders. I tried contacting them over a month ago about the holidays. How can they wait until it's 2 weeks away and then try to get us to do what they want?? His family there are siblings, Aunts, cousins etc. My family it is just me. If we don't show up to my parents they are all alone on the holidays. If we don't show up to his sisters they are far from alone. I'd even be willing to do every other year between our families but they never know until 2 weeks before what they are doing. Sometimes they go to his sisters in laws and sometimes she host. I'm not willing to let my parents know 2 weeks before a holiday they are going to be alone They are just so rude, inconsiderate and self absorbed!
As far as her inviting herself over for Thanksgiving. First: The reason we go to my parents is because I hate the grease and mess of a turkey dinner so my mom has always done Thanksgiving and I have always done Christmas. I don't want them over for a big dinner. They are coming over the weekend before for my son's birthday party and a month later for Christmas. Second: We are busy every weekend, how did this become my problem to fit things in???
For those that have in laws like mine, does it ever get any better? Will holidays always be like this? I hate to do it but I'm about to put my foot down and say he has a new family now and this is how it's going to be.
So since being with my dh holidays have been extremely frustrating to me. His family is just so unwilling to compromise on holdiays and want things to be like they have always been before I came along. Well guess what? I had a family also before these people came along and I am still willing to compromise. Growing up I remember it being so easy. The in laws and everyone had a system and they all got along. My mom said it was always that easy. So his family never asked us over for thanksgiving or got back to us about it. So we made plans to go to my parents for dinner. So their solution is to come over to our house the following weekend to do another dinner. Is it just me or is this absurd?? Now my parents are always welcoming to his family. They are welcome to join us. They however don't even like including me into the family let alone my parents. They are very old school italians and very unwelcoming to outsiders. I tried contacting them over a month ago about the holidays. How can they wait until it's 2 weeks away and then try to get us to do what they want?? His family there are siblings, Aunts, cousins etc. My family it is just me. If we don't show up to my parents they are all alone on the holidays. If we don't show up to his sisters they are far from alone. I'd even be willing to do every other year between our families but they never know until 2 weeks before what they are doing. Sometimes they go to his sisters in laws and sometimes she host. I'm not willing to let my parents know 2 weeks before a holiday they are going to be alone They are just so rude, inconsiderate and self absorbed!
As far as her inviting herself over for Thanksgiving. First: The reason we go to my parents is because I hate the grease and mess of a turkey dinner so my mom has always done Thanksgiving and I have always done Christmas. I don't want them over for a big dinner. They are coming over the weekend before for my son's birthday party and a month later for Christmas. Second: We are busy every weekend, how did this become my problem to fit things in???
For those that have in laws like mine, does it ever get any better? Will holidays always be like this? I hate to do it but I'm about to put my foot down and say he has a new family now and this is how it's going to be.
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