I need some advice on my own son. He is having some difficulties in preschool and we are not sure what to do with what is happening.
He attends a preschool with up to 20 kids in a class two full days a week. My husband and I wanted to do this to provide him with a transition year between home at daycare and full day everyday k which is what he will do next year. He attended preschool two evenings a week last year for about 2.5 hours per night. He had 5 kids in his class last year so we thought it would be good to prepare him for a larger all day setting by doing a more formal preschool this year.
I have enjoyed the break from him as well. It comes at a steep price though so we are really hoping to get something out of attending. He does not need academic support at all. He is very bright (dont all moms say that ). Our number one goal was to get him time in a classroom, get comfortable with the routines of school, and learn how to play well with others.
He has been home since birth, I have had the same kids here at daycare for 2 years plus, some for over 3 years. Most of my sons lifetime. He is very much the boss at daycare, and we have struggled with this. He watches mom give reminders "use your manners", "pick up please" and does very much the same with his friends. The other kids at daycare are followers and do whatever he orders. We have worked hard for him to learn how to be in a role other than leader but this is another major reason for sending him to preschool. We wanted him to experience school and learn he isnt always going to get his way, is going to have to wait for others, and deal with it.
So, here is the struggle: he has attended preschool for 9 weeks now (two days a week) He does not play with other kids. He can't tell me one friend he has, and his teachers have expressed concern. He will color or do "work" at the table all day. When the teachers tell him to go play he outright refuses, digs in and stands next to a teacher. I have suggested telling him the coloring table is not a choice and helping him to another play area. The teachers said he will for a second or two and then he returns to a teacher or to color.
So. what gives? Is he anxious? Is he digging in/this is behavioral? Is he doing nothing because the other kids wont let him boss them around? Should we keep him in school? It is expensive, and he can color at home if you KWIM. I want him to learn how to develop friendships/learn how to interact with others.
I am signing a referral slip tomorrow to have him observed but will need to consult with the observers first. I am 100% comfortable with a referral and would love it if they could provide me with some interventions or his teachers with support on him. I figure we only have 9 more months until K starts.
He has friends, cousins etc he plays with. He interacts with kids. He is talkative, obseravtive, very kind and compassionate to his sister and siblings. I do not suspect autism so Id rather not even address that, I know that is not whats going on here.
ANY ADVICE?
He attends a preschool with up to 20 kids in a class two full days a week. My husband and I wanted to do this to provide him with a transition year between home at daycare and full day everyday k which is what he will do next year. He attended preschool two evenings a week last year for about 2.5 hours per night. He had 5 kids in his class last year so we thought it would be good to prepare him for a larger all day setting by doing a more formal preschool this year.
I have enjoyed the break from him as well. It comes at a steep price though so we are really hoping to get something out of attending. He does not need academic support at all. He is very bright (dont all moms say that ). Our number one goal was to get him time in a classroom, get comfortable with the routines of school, and learn how to play well with others.
He has been home since birth, I have had the same kids here at daycare for 2 years plus, some for over 3 years. Most of my sons lifetime. He is very much the boss at daycare, and we have struggled with this. He watches mom give reminders "use your manners", "pick up please" and does very much the same with his friends. The other kids at daycare are followers and do whatever he orders. We have worked hard for him to learn how to be in a role other than leader but this is another major reason for sending him to preschool. We wanted him to experience school and learn he isnt always going to get his way, is going to have to wait for others, and deal with it.
So, here is the struggle: he has attended preschool for 9 weeks now (two days a week) He does not play with other kids. He can't tell me one friend he has, and his teachers have expressed concern. He will color or do "work" at the table all day. When the teachers tell him to go play he outright refuses, digs in and stands next to a teacher. I have suggested telling him the coloring table is not a choice and helping him to another play area. The teachers said he will for a second or two and then he returns to a teacher or to color.
So. what gives? Is he anxious? Is he digging in/this is behavioral? Is he doing nothing because the other kids wont let him boss them around? Should we keep him in school? It is expensive, and he can color at home if you KWIM. I want him to learn how to develop friendships/learn how to interact with others.
I am signing a referral slip tomorrow to have him observed but will need to consult with the observers first. I am 100% comfortable with a referral and would love it if they could provide me with some interventions or his teachers with support on him. I figure we only have 9 more months until K starts.
He has friends, cousins etc he plays with. He interacts with kids. He is talkative, obseravtive, very kind and compassionate to his sister and siblings. I do not suspect autism so Id rather not even address that, I know that is not whats going on here.
ANY ADVICE?
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