So i love being around kids, i always have. But lately i have been feeeling like if i don't have one of my own soon i don't think i could bare working around them. I love teaching kids new things but i don't know how long i can keep this mask on as if everything is ok. Cause its killing me to have a child that stays with me at the end of the day. Just needed to get that out.
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It's hard. I have 6 sisters who got pregnant during the time my dh and i were trying. After 5 years we adopted then 5 years after that we had our son. I tried to cover up my sadness but that only made it worse. My kids are now 21 and 26. Hang in there....it will work
Itself out in the best of ways.
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I'm so sorry. My heart hurts for you.
My husband and I tried for years and years. After many fertility treatments, we were told to stop trying, it was just not going to happen. At that time, I taught kindergarten and it just made me sick to see the kids that were not being treasured as they should be. Listening to others complain about being pregnant or complain about their kids was just more that I could stand. I quit at the end of that year.
I opened my daycare because I do love children and love working with them, but that also became challenging. Again, the parents not being responsible, complaining,...it was hard to take.
While shopping for a baby shower one day (everyone I knew seemed to be pregnant, and I secretly resented them for it), I found myself glaring and feeling true hatred toward a woman in the baby department pushing around a toddler and very pregnant. I had never seen this woman before, but disliked her. I felt like I was being punished. I felt very alone. I stopped going to baby showers, because it just made me feel so bad about myself. The emptiness was unbearable.
A few years after we quit trying, I was pregnant. We weren't trying, and didn't really believe the test to be correct. Threatened miscarriage, false positive of a fatal disorder, blood clots,...the pregnancy was a mess, but I treasured every second of it. Don't give up. Never give up. Doctors don't know everything. I still wonder why it took so long and why I had to go through all of that for something that comes so naturally to others, but I am thankful. I am so blessed to have my one. (Now I secretly resent those with more than one. I don't think I've ever admitted that before though.)
You will be in my prayers.
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Originally posted by Candy View PostSo i love being around kids, i always have. But lately i have been feeeling like if i don't have one of my own soon i don't think i could bare working around them. I love teaching kids new things but i don't know how long i can keep this mask on as if everything is ok. Cause its killing me to have a child that stays with me at the end of the day. Just needed to get that out.
I don't know about anyone else, but daycare kids compared to my own kids are totally different. The bond is different.
lovethis:hug:
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Originally posted by jenn View PostI'm so sorry. My heart hurts for you.
My husband and I tried for years and years. After many fertility treatments, we were told to stop trying, it was just not going to happen. At that time, I taught kindergarten and it just made me sick to see the kids that were not being treasured as they should be. Listening to others complain about being pregnant or complain about their kids was just more that I could stand. I quit at the end of that year.
I opened my daycare because I do love children and love working with them, but that also became challenging. Again, the parents not being responsible, complaining,...it was hard to take.
While shopping for a baby shower one day (everyone I knew seemed to be pregnant, and I secretly resented them for it), I found myself glaring and feeling true hatred toward a woman in the baby department pushing around a toddler and very pregnant. I had never seen this woman before, but disliked her. I felt like I was being punished. I felt very alone. I stopped going to baby showers, because it just made me feel so bad about myself. The emptiness was unbearable.
A few years after we quit trying, I was pregnant. We weren't trying, and didn't really believe the test to be correct. Threatened miscarriage, false positive of a fatal disorder, blood clots,...the pregnancy was a mess, but I treasured every second of it. Don't give up. Never give up. Doctors don't know everything. I still wonder why it took so long and why I had to go through all of that for something that comes so naturally to others, but I am thankful. I am so blessed to have my one. (Now I secretly resent those with more than one. I don't think I've ever admitted that before though.)
You will be in my prayers.
:hug: to all who feel your pain OP and PPs
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Thank you everyone for sharing how you feel about fertility issues.
My sister and her husband have been trying for quite a while (4 years) and just got the news that he has zero sperm. I just don't know what to do/say. I don't ask too many questions because I know it's a tender spot for her. They want babies and would be such good parents! My heart breaks for them.
Meanwhile I have 3 kids and just had my first grand baby. On the one hand I want to share our life with my sis of course. She's my only sibling. On the other hand I feel guilty having easily had all these children and now a grand daughter.
What can I do to help her? What should I say? I don't want to say the wrong thing.
What would help you or what could your friends and families do for you to help ease the pain?
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Originally posted by Evansmom View PostThank you everyone for sharing how you feel about fertility issues.
My sister and her husband have been trying for quite a while (4 years) and just got the news that he has zero sperm. I just don't know what to do/say. I don't ask too many questions because I know it's a tender spot for her. They want babies and would be such good parents! My heart breaks for them.
Meanwhile I have 3 kids and just had my first grand baby. On the one hand I want to share our life with my sis of course. She's my only sibling. On the other hand I feel guilty having easily had all these children and now a grand daughter.
What can I do to help her? What should I say? I don't want to say the wrong thing.
What would help you or what could your friends and families do for you to help ease the pain?
I am so blessed that I was eventually able to have my daughter. Not one single day is taken for granted. I always keep those still trying in my prayers.
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