I have been licensed for 8 months now, in home daycare (2 bedroom 1000 sq. ft home). I felt like I was doing well or at least okay until summer hit.
I watch: 12 mo (my daughter), 16 mo, 18 mo, 2 1/2 yo, 4 yo, full time. Before and after school I have 2 5 yo (one is my son) and a 9 yo.
My husband recently took a job right before summer in which he works 3pm to 2am Wed-Sat. He thought this would be really helpful to me but honestly, I feel like he is always under foot, he doesn't actually help and the time that he is home, he would like to relax but can't do it freely (all the bedrooms and living room are taken up during nap).
During the summer I had all of them, all day, plus the occasional drop in 2 year old. I thought that once school started, I would start feeling better but still stressed out to the max and it's really wearing on me and the kids. The more stress I feel, the less I do with them, the more antsy they get, the more stressed...vicious cycle.
On top of this, I added the 2nd 5 year old when school started and she is here most days at 5 or 5:30 am, so I am up at 4:30 or 5. On top of that, I have one set of horribly "forgetful" and irresponsible parents who think it's okay to keep their kids here till 6pm almost every single night (I NEVER know when they are getting picked up) while the others all have consistent work schedules or adjust as drop off times adjust. SO, most days I am working between 12 and 13 hours. And honestly, the early time doesn't bother me half as much as the late pick up. Dad even admitted that he takes a shower before picking them up and mom told me this week she was on vacation!!! Still their dcg was here till 6 pm 3 nights this week. Today they kept her home during the morning but may still bring her (and screw up my whole day I'm sure).
The 9 year old gets under my skin like no other child I know. She acts half her age, bosses everyone around, WHINEs almost constantly and talks back EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I ask or tell her to do something. All summer she sat on one side of my couch, hoarding toddler toys and making others do her bidding (or constantly asked to play video games or watch TV). And now that she's at school, the 4 yo acts JUST like her (same spot even)! On top of being the most contradictory child I know (Actual conversation: My son: "I love ice cream!" Her, "I don't." Me: "Oh, so you don't want any for our treat day?" "Well, I don't like vaniiiiilla ice cream."). And last but not least, the 16 month old whines almost constantly. He stands at my baby gate (while I'm cooking/cleaning) and fusses continually. He throws a tantrum if you walk into the room and then out again. He wants to be held or carried or touch you constantly, so even if I sit down in the room, he MUST sit/lay/stand on me in SOME way (and it HURTS sometimes).
Loooooong story short, now that school has started, STILL struggling. My once 2-naps a day babies are now 1-nap toddlers who hit, fight, and steal nearly constantly. The one who whines constantly is ALWAYs attempting to pry back my gate (in front of TV) or standing up on my end table or climbing my changing table. I have a vacation in 4 weeks but I don't know if it's going to HELP!!!! Especially when I get almost NO adult time, NO kid free time, NO breaks. I hate to call my mom every week for a babysitter--I have to use her enough as it is. My husband is off Mon/Tue/Wed, but doesn't like watching the kids for me in the slightest (Men!).
I watch: 12 mo (my daughter), 16 mo, 18 mo, 2 1/2 yo, 4 yo, full time. Before and after school I have 2 5 yo (one is my son) and a 9 yo.
My husband recently took a job right before summer in which he works 3pm to 2am Wed-Sat. He thought this would be really helpful to me but honestly, I feel like he is always under foot, he doesn't actually help and the time that he is home, he would like to relax but can't do it freely (all the bedrooms and living room are taken up during nap).
During the summer I had all of them, all day, plus the occasional drop in 2 year old. I thought that once school started, I would start feeling better but still stressed out to the max and it's really wearing on me and the kids. The more stress I feel, the less I do with them, the more antsy they get, the more stressed...vicious cycle.
On top of this, I added the 2nd 5 year old when school started and she is here most days at 5 or 5:30 am, so I am up at 4:30 or 5. On top of that, I have one set of horribly "forgetful" and irresponsible parents who think it's okay to keep their kids here till 6pm almost every single night (I NEVER know when they are getting picked up) while the others all have consistent work schedules or adjust as drop off times adjust. SO, most days I am working between 12 and 13 hours. And honestly, the early time doesn't bother me half as much as the late pick up. Dad even admitted that he takes a shower before picking them up and mom told me this week she was on vacation!!! Still their dcg was here till 6 pm 3 nights this week. Today they kept her home during the morning but may still bring her (and screw up my whole day I'm sure).
The 9 year old gets under my skin like no other child I know. She acts half her age, bosses everyone around, WHINEs almost constantly and talks back EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I ask or tell her to do something. All summer she sat on one side of my couch, hoarding toddler toys and making others do her bidding (or constantly asked to play video games or watch TV). And now that she's at school, the 4 yo acts JUST like her (same spot even)! On top of being the most contradictory child I know (Actual conversation: My son: "I love ice cream!" Her, "I don't." Me: "Oh, so you don't want any for our treat day?" "Well, I don't like vaniiiiilla ice cream."). And last but not least, the 16 month old whines almost constantly. He stands at my baby gate (while I'm cooking/cleaning) and fusses continually. He throws a tantrum if you walk into the room and then out again. He wants to be held or carried or touch you constantly, so even if I sit down in the room, he MUST sit/lay/stand on me in SOME way (and it HURTS sometimes).
Loooooong story short, now that school has started, STILL struggling. My once 2-naps a day babies are now 1-nap toddlers who hit, fight, and steal nearly constantly. The one who whines constantly is ALWAYs attempting to pry back my gate (in front of TV) or standing up on my end table or climbing my changing table. I have a vacation in 4 weeks but I don't know if it's going to HELP!!!! Especially when I get almost NO adult time, NO kid free time, NO breaks. I hate to call my mom every week for a babysitter--I have to use her enough as it is. My husband is off Mon/Tue/Wed, but doesn't like watching the kids for me in the slightest (Men!).
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