It has been quite the sat!!! Ugh-
I recently enrolled a 7 yr old dcb for before school and after. I met with his dad and step mom originally (who he is staying with during school week) and met with mom separately on fri. All went well and they dropped off the paperwork.
Mind you I live in a SMALL community- less than 100 kids per class small!- this am I get a call from step mom and she tells me that a woman who says she is my neighbor is telling dcb mom that I have numerous violations, that I have 6 dogs (5 really but never near dck) and that I smoke (I do but again not around dck). I figure out who this neighbor is and she is a sahm who has been trying to get some kids to watch.
So I decide I'm done with gossip and he said she said and go to the field where they are talking (flag football). I ask dcb mom what's going on and she says that Tracey (my neighbor) said that I have a bunch of dogs ( which I confirm but point out never near dck) and that I smoke but that she smokes too so she knows I don't in my house because she would have smelled it (I confirm NEVER in my home or around dck) and that I had a bunch of past violations. So at this point I ask Tracey to come over- she says no but then comes. She said well I did hear that you have had violations but that she wasn't trying to start anything and didnt say anything bad and blah blah blah- I said: if you have concerns with my daycare it would probably be better to come to me than spread rumors. She said: no, no I don't have problems I was just saying! She walked alway and I said to dcm and dcd that I was at the field because this is my lively good and what I plan on doing for my career. That I am not willing to start drama but also thought it would be easier than he said she said for me to join the conversation. Dad says he is fine and if it were true I wouldn't have shown up. Mom turns face about how great I am etc... We chat a bit more and I left.
I am so sick of gossip!!!
My question is:
Should I write a certified letter to my neighbor telling her to stop slandering my daycare or I will take legal action? Adding also if she has any concerns she can feel free to let me know or call the local licensing agency and provide the # or do I leave it?
I fully expect a visit but am fine with that as I run a good program.
Also I have had past violations. This family is under the assumption if you have they can see that. Recently our state changed the data base to show only current uncorrected violations and any enforcement actions I have had since opening. None were major and obviously all corrected but...
These people are paying me $50 per week that I really don't NEED. Part of me says term before they start. But I do appreciate dcb step mom didnt fall into gossip and just wanted the truth. I won't have to deal w dcm on a regular basis if ever. Dcb seems sweet, and his dad and step mom seem to just want a sad place for him to be...
And FYI: all this took place before my am coffee!![EEK!](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/eek.png)
Any advice is appreciated!! Thank you guys- I am so grateful for this forum right now!!:hug:
I recently enrolled a 7 yr old dcb for before school and after. I met with his dad and step mom originally (who he is staying with during school week) and met with mom separately on fri. All went well and they dropped off the paperwork.
Mind you I live in a SMALL community- less than 100 kids per class small!- this am I get a call from step mom and she tells me that a woman who says she is my neighbor is telling dcb mom that I have numerous violations, that I have 6 dogs (5 really but never near dck) and that I smoke (I do but again not around dck). I figure out who this neighbor is and she is a sahm who has been trying to get some kids to watch.
So I decide I'm done with gossip and he said she said and go to the field where they are talking (flag football). I ask dcb mom what's going on and she says that Tracey (my neighbor) said that I have a bunch of dogs ( which I confirm but point out never near dck) and that I smoke but that she smokes too so she knows I don't in my house because she would have smelled it (I confirm NEVER in my home or around dck) and that I had a bunch of past violations. So at this point I ask Tracey to come over- she says no but then comes. She said well I did hear that you have had violations but that she wasn't trying to start anything and didnt say anything bad and blah blah blah- I said: if you have concerns with my daycare it would probably be better to come to me than spread rumors. She said: no, no I don't have problems I was just saying! She walked alway and I said to dcm and dcd that I was at the field because this is my lively good and what I plan on doing for my career. That I am not willing to start drama but also thought it would be easier than he said she said for me to join the conversation. Dad says he is fine and if it were true I wouldn't have shown up. Mom turns face about how great I am etc... We chat a bit more and I left.
I am so sick of gossip!!!
![Mad](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/mad.png)
My question is:
Should I write a certified letter to my neighbor telling her to stop slandering my daycare or I will take legal action? Adding also if she has any concerns she can feel free to let me know or call the local licensing agency and provide the # or do I leave it?
I fully expect a visit but am fine with that as I run a good program.
Also I have had past violations. This family is under the assumption if you have they can see that. Recently our state changed the data base to show only current uncorrected violations and any enforcement actions I have had since opening. None were major and obviously all corrected but...
These people are paying me $50 per week that I really don't NEED. Part of me says term before they start. But I do appreciate dcb step mom didnt fall into gossip and just wanted the truth. I won't have to deal w dcm on a regular basis if ever. Dcb seems sweet, and his dad and step mom seem to just want a sad place for him to be...
And FYI: all this took place before my am coffee!
![EEK!](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/eek.png)
Any advice is appreciated!! Thank you guys- I am so grateful for this forum right now!!:hug:
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