Question for you all-
I have a almost 5yo dcb in my care who has been here since 18 mo. He totally rules the roost at home and mom tries to get me to let him rule the roost here (not that I do but it is a battle w/ her).
Today he PURPOSELY (yes, I know for absolutely sure) tore the nose off of another child's toy that they brought for for show and tell (yes, I let them bring toys, I know, I know). I know for a fact that this boy has destroyed his cousin's property and instead of getting in trouble he was told a week later by his mom "I'm gonna have to talk to your cousin's mom because they still havent replaced that game and they need to replace it so you can play it when you go over again"![EEK!](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/eek.png)
My assistant had dcb come to me and tell me what happened. DCB would not tell me and just kept shoving the toy at me. Finally he said "you need to fix this!" in a mean voice, like he was annoyed that he even had to say anything at all.
I asked him how it broke and he said "I broke it" I asked him why and he said "because i wanted to". SO- I told him that it is not fair that the other child now has a broken toy because he wanted to break it so he could replace the toy with the one he brought (they were both around $5-$10 toys). He FLIPPED out (not surprisingly) but I went through with it. I told him that he could choose to keep the broken toy or to throw it away, it was his now and his choice. He threw it away.
Now- here is my question - do you think that was fair? I KNOW dcm is going to flip out and think it was totally unfair. The way I am looking at it is that I am with this child for 50 hours a week, I treat them like I would treat my own. Whenever my own children have purposely broken someone else toy they have replaced it with their own.
What do you think?
I have a almost 5yo dcb in my care who has been here since 18 mo. He totally rules the roost at home and mom tries to get me to let him rule the roost here (not that I do but it is a battle w/ her).
Today he PURPOSELY (yes, I know for absolutely sure) tore the nose off of another child's toy that they brought for for show and tell (yes, I let them bring toys, I know, I know). I know for a fact that this boy has destroyed his cousin's property and instead of getting in trouble he was told a week later by his mom "I'm gonna have to talk to your cousin's mom because they still havent replaced that game and they need to replace it so you can play it when you go over again"
![EEK!](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/eek.png)
My assistant had dcb come to me and tell me what happened. DCB would not tell me and just kept shoving the toy at me. Finally he said "you need to fix this!" in a mean voice, like he was annoyed that he even had to say anything at all.
I asked him how it broke and he said "I broke it" I asked him why and he said "because i wanted to". SO- I told him that it is not fair that the other child now has a broken toy because he wanted to break it so he could replace the toy with the one he brought (they were both around $5-$10 toys). He FLIPPED out (not surprisingly) but I went through with it. I told him that he could choose to keep the broken toy or to throw it away, it was his now and his choice. He threw it away.
Now- here is my question - do you think that was fair? I KNOW dcm is going to flip out and think it was totally unfair. The way I am looking at it is that I am with this child for 50 hours a week, I treat them like I would treat my own. Whenever my own children have purposely broken someone else toy they have replaced it with their own.
What do you think?
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