I have a DCM who is very insistent that her child is ready to potty train. I have mostly ignored all of her talk over months and months that didn't line up with our policies and how we handle potty training.
Last weekend they tried the 3 day potty training at home with him, and per our contract after they do that at home we will work very diligently on using the potty all week to get the used to using the toilet at daycare I emphasize that part with parents because I don't consider it "potty training" - it is more of getting them used to and in the habit of using the toilet. And after that week, I expect them to use the toilet indecently without being timed or reminded. . I understand that isn't everyone's philosophy - but for us it is paramount. We don't toilet time or bring children to the bathroom every x amount of time. We require that they can identify the need to go and act upon it.
Well all last week her son did great, every time I reminded him he went (but never verbalized the need to go or went on his own). Come to this week when he is on his own, yesterday he went once when I checked him to see if he was dry (so that sort of worked as a reminder) and then again when I make everyone go before nap. Today he didn't go at all, he wet his underwear (covered with a pull-up) at 10 am and then soaked his pull-up at nap. His mother was very upset at pick-up and left without saying a word.
He knows where the toilet is, he has open access to it all day, and is very familiar with using it. I cannot do anymore that that. I am not going to bring him every hour to make sure he goes.
I am sure this is going to come to us butting heads. I just really want to ask her (and probably will) "What would you ideally like me to do that doesn't involve bringing your child to the toilet on a timed schedule ?"
Last weekend they tried the 3 day potty training at home with him, and per our contract after they do that at home we will work very diligently on using the potty all week to get the used to using the toilet at daycare I emphasize that part with parents because I don't consider it "potty training" - it is more of getting them used to and in the habit of using the toilet. And after that week, I expect them to use the toilet indecently without being timed or reminded. . I understand that isn't everyone's philosophy - but for us it is paramount. We don't toilet time or bring children to the bathroom every x amount of time. We require that they can identify the need to go and act upon it.
Well all last week her son did great, every time I reminded him he went (but never verbalized the need to go or went on his own). Come to this week when he is on his own, yesterday he went once when I checked him to see if he was dry (so that sort of worked as a reminder) and then again when I make everyone go before nap. Today he didn't go at all, he wet his underwear (covered with a pull-up) at 10 am and then soaked his pull-up at nap. His mother was very upset at pick-up and left without saying a word.
He knows where the toilet is, he has open access to it all day, and is very familiar with using it. I cannot do anymore that that. I am not going to bring him every hour to make sure he goes.
I am sure this is going to come to us butting heads. I just really want to ask her (and probably will) "What would you ideally like me to do that doesn't involve bringing your child to the toilet on a timed schedule ?"
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