I had a dcg start back in May, she turned 3 in July. Great kid-one of the sweetest children you have ever met, in fact she has never ONCE been repimanded or even reminded of my rules outside of the first week of care. Great, involved, loving parents who spend a great deal of time with her. They are my BEST clients. She is an only child. She was previously in a group daycare home that was shut down due to repeated violations. Her parents pulled her before the shut down, just based off what dcg was telling them and what they witnessed when they did three 'pop ins'.
On the 'about your child' sheets, dcm said that dcg was shy, timid and afraid of bigger people, especially loud men. I didn't seem overly concerned about it until last month.
Dcg was coming out of the bathroom (potty trained) as my ODS was walking down the hall and they kind of bumped into each other. Dcg started hysterically crying. She NEVER cries unless she is REALLY hurt. I've seen her take a skinned knee in stride without a whimper. I calmed her down and reassured her, and she was fine for the rest of the day.
Two weeks ago a DCD came in to pick up and was sneaking around the corner to surprise his daughter (I saw him through the window and he made the whisper sign so I was aware of this) and dcg heard the door open and ran to it, expecting her Dad. When she saw the dcd (who is soft spoken and kind and always high fives the kids, etc) she had a meltdown and refused to come back into the playroom until he left.
Today my husband came home for lunch and the minute she heard his voice (and all the kids rush to tackle him) she started losing it, complete tears at the table.
I discussed it with both DCD and DCM after the first incident, and I brought up dcm's comments on the sheet. They say that it is just her personality and that she is afraid of everything/everyone. I find this to be untrue. Dcg adores me, my older daughter, and even hugs one of my dcm's and atleast speaks to all of the rest. She is the first to wave to other kids/Moms at the playground when we are out, etc. I would describe her as outspoken (yet polite) and quite fearless, until it comes to men. I again brought this up with DCM as she always picks up and she said the same thing, just timid. Grandma picked her up early today for a follow up appt for an ear infection. When I mentioned this to her, I got a different take on it. Grandma says that dcg wasn't this way until she started attending the old daycare, and that she is now even afraid of her uncles and grandfather! Grandma says that dcg, dcd and dcm and she witnessed personally the former provider's husband be verbally abusive to his own kids and dcg told grandma that this man hit them as well.
Should I continue to bring this up? recommend therapy?
On the 'about your child' sheets, dcm said that dcg was shy, timid and afraid of bigger people, especially loud men. I didn't seem overly concerned about it until last month.
Dcg was coming out of the bathroom (potty trained) as my ODS was walking down the hall and they kind of bumped into each other. Dcg started hysterically crying. She NEVER cries unless she is REALLY hurt. I've seen her take a skinned knee in stride without a whimper. I calmed her down and reassured her, and she was fine for the rest of the day.
Two weeks ago a DCD came in to pick up and was sneaking around the corner to surprise his daughter (I saw him through the window and he made the whisper sign so I was aware of this) and dcg heard the door open and ran to it, expecting her Dad. When she saw the dcd (who is soft spoken and kind and always high fives the kids, etc) she had a meltdown and refused to come back into the playroom until he left.
Today my husband came home for lunch and the minute she heard his voice (and all the kids rush to tackle him) she started losing it, complete tears at the table.
I discussed it with both DCD and DCM after the first incident, and I brought up dcm's comments on the sheet. They say that it is just her personality and that she is afraid of everything/everyone. I find this to be untrue. Dcg adores me, my older daughter, and even hugs one of my dcm's and atleast speaks to all of the rest. She is the first to wave to other kids/Moms at the playground when we are out, etc. I would describe her as outspoken (yet polite) and quite fearless, until it comes to men. I again brought this up with DCM as she always picks up and she said the same thing, just timid. Grandma picked her up early today for a follow up appt for an ear infection. When I mentioned this to her, I got a different take on it. Grandma says that dcg wasn't this way until she started attending the old daycare, and that she is now even afraid of her uncles and grandfather! Grandma says that dcg, dcd and dcm and she witnessed personally the former provider's husband be verbally abusive to his own kids and dcg told grandma that this man hit them as well.
Should I continue to bring this up? recommend therapy?
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