DCK Never Made It To School

[jojosmommy]

Omg! Today is the worst day of daycare ever!

Backstory, dcd signed up dck to walk from my house to school 1 week before school starts. Week 1 mom and dad walk to school with dck for pics ect. On the first day I am set to have dck walk from my house I let her walk, then walk a little bit behind her. Just to check but give her the confidence to walk independently. It is one block to school. She did good.

Fast forward to this week. Dck is only scheduled 2 days this week. Tu and today. Mom is off so she says she will be picking up dck and taking her to school. Tu she picks up. Today it is time for school and no mom. I send dck and leave a message with mom and dad that I sent her. Mom doesnt answer, dadcalls back "ok, great! Im a little nervous about my wife not coming though. Let me know if you get a hold of her."

10 min later mom calls. School called dck never got there. . I freak out! Mom thinks dck tried to skip.... I call my hubs and he speeds home, I check the neighborhood. Mom does the same. School calls back, dck was there, she got lost in the building and didnt know where her room was!

[lovemykidstoo]

How old is this child? If mom was off, then why was dck at your house? Was the deal that you would walk her or the parents would walk her? Doesn't sound like the parents are too responsible. So glad that she's okay.

[Oneluckymom]

OMG!! I would have freaked out too!! Poor you, that has to be soooo stressful. When DCD said he was nervous about mom not picking up did you follow up with him, this would be a red flag for me. What happens IF she doesn't show up at some point down the road?

[jojosmommy]

I should add that now I am not sure I want dck back if she is going to walk alone. Obv mom thought she was going to skip, which is interesting in itself.

My emotions are all over the place. I posted earlier about mom not even meeting me before dck came. Now this. Its all too much.....

[jojosmommy]

Dad called to say mom had a misscarriage recently and has been physically and emotionally struggling. Didnt want to post that at first. Shes on med leave now. Wanted to start dck on reg sched since life at home has been crazy. That i get.

[Willow]

Glad kiddo is ok.

What's ringing in my head though is:

- where was mom, did you ever actually sort that out?
- why didn't she answer when you called?
- why did she answer only when school called her and not you?
- why after being able to successfully locate her classroom before could the child not to that today?
- why did mom assume she was trying to skip school??

The whole thing stinks to me.....


After such a scare I would ask them to sort out alternate arrangements for the child to get to school. I would NOT want to be held liable for mom slacking off again with no explanation, a child taking off to skip, or the child being unaccounted for again due to her inability to find her own classroom from day to day.

[jojosmommy]

And the original deal was she would walk alone. Its a short way and transportation wont pick up this close. Since that was the original plan thats what i followed. I just called dcd and dcm as a courtesy since mom said TODAY she would bring her. Not from here on.

[Willow]

Dad called to say mom had a misscarriage recently and has been physically and emotionally struggling. Didnt want to post that at first. Shes on med leave now. Wanted to start dck on reg sched since life at home has been crazy. That i get.

I am sympathetic to what she's gone through, really I am, but it's no excuse to neglect your child or leave your provider in a lurch not knowing what to do like that.

If she is that unstable perhaps she shouldn't have any responsibilities involving the child right now?



(trying to say that gently but good grief, as much as she needs to take care of herself the child still needs to be cared for too).

[mema]

How scary! Glad they found the child tho. Why would dcm think the child was going to skip? Isn't this a kindergartener? Do they even know what that is at that age?? I don't know that I would be letting them walk after that or that I would be willing to keep them either. I would make dcm or dcd pick up and if they didn't show up, I would be blasting their phones until they did. So, you have got to meet mom than?

I remember when my dcp called me at work one day to tell me my son never made it there after school. My heart stopped beating and I was frantic. She called the bus company and I called the school. School didn't have him and his teacher remembers him getting in the bus line. Bus radioed the driver who said he got off at his stop. Her kids went around the neighborhood and found him talking with a buddy. Needless to say, we had a loooong talk that night and he never did that again.

(((hugs)))

[Willow]

And the original deal was she would walk alone. Its a short way and transportation wont pick up this close. Since that was the original plan thats what i followed. I just called dcd and dcm as a courtesy since mom said TODAY she would bring her. Not from here on.

That's merely a coincidence as far as I'd be concerned.

If they're worried about her skipping and she is unable to locate her own classroom I'd question the child's ability to handle the responsibility of getting herself to school.

[jojosmommy]

Mom said she lost track of time. She said she still wants dck to walk but they have alot going on and have other things to consider so I assume they wont be returning for one or another reason.

The skipping thing is what bugs me.They thought dck would skip but didnt tell me, and let dck walk anyway?????!

I need advice on wtd. I dont want this happening again. I dont want to abandon them either but.... the whole thing makes me nervous.

[sharlan]

That is why I would never allow a child to walk to or from school alone. If I couldn't do it, I wouldn't take the child, plain and simple.

[Oneluckymom]

My house is literally less than .25 mile from my kids school and I don't even let my own kids walk to or from school let alone a DCK. Call me paranoid but too many things can go wrong.

I would probably not care for that child anymore if it were me. Esp. if they were worried about the kid skipping...you dont need this kind of stress.

[sharlan]

My house is literally less than .25 mile from my kids school and I don't even let my own kids walk to or from school let alone a DCK. Call me paranoid but too many things can go wrong.

I would probably not care for that child anymore if it were me. Esp. if they were worried about the kid skipping...you dont need this kind of stress.

Mine don't have to walk that far. It's literally across the street, down 2 house, through a breezeway, across the street, and enter the back gate.

[lovemykidstoo]

I would tell them that you about had a heart attack when the child was missing and you just don't want to be responsible. I would not do it. How old is the child?