The "Holy Grail" of MY CHILD

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I've honestly never heard that about crying. :confused:
Is there research out there that states this?

[MizzCheryl]

Wow just wow!!!
WDMOM you are so right!!
3 to 4 hours sleeping, perfect for a 3 month old! 1 to 1.5 hours being held and fed, right on! Between tummy time and floor time or play time and walk time sounds like the perfect thing for baby.
Mom should be thankful to have you!

And the way you simply told mom about your program is great.
Alot of this snuggle time is what MOM NEEDS, but before much longer it will be what baby demands.

[youretooloud]

I would actually do a lot of that stuff anyway. But, the silly specifics would not be happening. It's nice that she wrote them out for you, but I wouldn't even remember 90% of that WITH the written note.

I have a new baby, he doesn't like food in his mouth. He hates having something touch his mouth. So, they have a special "dance" they do to distract him while he eats.

Dad hopes I learn the dance.

I hope dad feels stupid in a few years. I have zero intentions of doing a dance for a child who doesn't want anything to eat. Don't want to eat? Fine... we will try again later. He eats when he's not distracted by the kids.... as soon as they quiet down, he eats everything. He's just nosey.

[momofsix]

I do not mean this rudely (as I am not necessarily a "baby person" so I FULLY understand) but seriously?? You don't rock the babies, sing to the babies or wrap them in blankets while you snuggle with them in your care?

I understand that the type of one-to-one care she is requesting of you is not always possible, but isn't that why there are regulations as to the number of adults to infants in a care setting? So the infants can get snuggles, rocked and sang to?

Also, is this baby under 6 months old? If he is, I can't imagine that the CIO method or whatever means he is going become "hoarse" from while at your house is probably not developmentally appropriate.

I think it is fabulous that the mom is sharing with you the exact way she does things so that you will be able to "read" her baby better. It doesn't mean that you HAVE to follow her methods or routine to a tee but I would hope that by "tackling this bull by the horns" you aren't meaning that this child's schedule or routine will be severely interupted or disregarded... if that is the case, the mom should know that and be allowed to exercise her right to find care that does meet her (and her child's) needs.

Babies this young absolutely need close contact with their provider and the "come to Jesus" moment with gravity that you have referred to probably shouldn't happen until the baby has made his adjustment to your environment and secure attachment to his caregiver.

I am sure you probably didn't mean the words as they sound (which come across as kind of harsh) and I am sure you are a very warm and caring provider but your response just sounds like you are mocking this mother and planning to disregard any and/or all of her wishes when it comes to the care of her child.

Like I said, I am not trying to start a debate, war, argument etc etc...but please re-read your words and pretend you are a parent having to leave your most loved and cherished angel with someone else, how would you take the words you wrote. I know my heart would break if I thought you really felt that way about my baby....or me as the whole tone is kind of like you are making fun of her.

I say this, because as a forum board, providers have a need to vent and get things off their chests, but you didn't even think so far as to put this in the Off-Topic section, but right out there on the open forum for any parent to read.....just kind of gives providers a bad image if parents thought we all felt this way.

Very well put. Thank you.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Huh? Why deletions here? Makes for impossible reading. Childish.

[MyAngels]

Huh? Why deletions here? Makes for impossible reading. Childish.

Agreed. WTH? :confused: