I have a DCG that is 3y old. She is very stubborn. I've had her here for a little over a year now and I'm still dealing with alot of the same issues.
She can be a very sweet little girl, helpful, etc. But alot of the time she is mean to her friends or doesn't listen, etc.
Examples from this week so far:
*Started kicking the child in front of her because she didn't want them to sit in front of her.
*Complained that she didn't want so and so behind her in line
*When we sing a song together she will sing a different song on purpose.
*Pushing kids outside if they are in her way when she is running or spinning with arms out and hitting kids.
* She tries to test me all day long some days. We have had a few good weeks so I know she can listen and be nice.
*She will do things opposite what you say on purpose to see what will happen it: ie: She will take 6-7 towels and throw them in the towel bin instead of one when the day before I will remind everyone to take one so we don't run out. I'll say everyone please walk so she'll run, etc.
It seems like once I get one thing fixed we move on to another issue.
She is an only child. Her parents are not together (haven't been the whole time she has been here, not sure if they have ever been.) She comes to my house Monday-Wed, Friday. Goes to Grandma/Grandpa's on Thursday. Mom and dad alternate days (one drops off, one pick up and then they drop off the next day, etc). They are very good with keeping schedule the same all the time but I'm wondering if there are too many rules between us all and that's where the behavior problems are coming from? I assume she has top priority at home being just one parent and her and probably runs the roost at grandmas (I know my kids do at theirs
).
Anyone deal with a situation like this before and can offer some advice? Right now I seperate her from the group if she's not being nice or listening to me. I also ignore the tantrums (Goes to the crying spot). I've been talking to her about what to do if she's mad, sad, etc for the last year. I've also praised her for using words instead of hands. I want to give mom good reports and feel bad this is still going on. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
She can be a very sweet little girl, helpful, etc. But alot of the time she is mean to her friends or doesn't listen, etc.
Examples from this week so far:
*Started kicking the child in front of her because she didn't want them to sit in front of her.
*Complained that she didn't want so and so behind her in line
*When we sing a song together she will sing a different song on purpose.
*Pushing kids outside if they are in her way when she is running or spinning with arms out and hitting kids.
* She tries to test me all day long some days. We have had a few good weeks so I know she can listen and be nice.
*She will do things opposite what you say on purpose to see what will happen it: ie: She will take 6-7 towels and throw them in the towel bin instead of one when the day before I will remind everyone to take one so we don't run out. I'll say everyone please walk so she'll run, etc.
It seems like once I get one thing fixed we move on to another issue.
She is an only child. Her parents are not together (haven't been the whole time she has been here, not sure if they have ever been.) She comes to my house Monday-Wed, Friday. Goes to Grandma/Grandpa's on Thursday. Mom and dad alternate days (one drops off, one pick up and then they drop off the next day, etc). They are very good with keeping schedule the same all the time but I'm wondering if there are too many rules between us all and that's where the behavior problems are coming from? I assume she has top priority at home being just one parent and her and probably runs the roost at grandmas (I know my kids do at theirs
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Anyone deal with a situation like this before and can offer some advice? Right now I seperate her from the group if she's not being nice or listening to me. I also ignore the tantrums (Goes to the crying spot). I've been talking to her about what to do if she's mad, sad, etc for the last year. I've also praised her for using words instead of hands. I want to give mom good reports and feel bad this is still going on. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
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