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I've allowed a DCM to treat me with disrespect ever since she started and have decided I've just about had enough. Since I'm in the process of working on my backbone, I'd like some input from the more experienced providers on here regarding this letter I've drafted and want to send. It seems a little wordy, but I think this mom really needs the details so she can't argue.
Please tell me what you think. Also, they have 2 kids here so I'm taking a big risk on this as she is the type to probably pull after I send this...but who knows..
Dear DCM,
I have decided to write you this letter to express some concerns regarding how I feel I am treated by you. I thought I'd send this through email as it seems to be your preferred choice of communication, and saves me from wasting paper with printing it off to send home this evening.
I feel as though you treat me with a lack of respect. This has been shown on several occasions:
- I often find in the mornings that you make no acknowledgement of me what so ever, and only speak with me once I approach you unless you need to let me know something about the girls. A simple "good morning" would be appreciated. The acknowledgement is the respect.
- Questioning the previous menu (Wafer cookies) after menu being in rotation for several weeks/months. (When menu was sent home for parents to review and keep for themselves you did not say a word to me about these wafer cookies. All of a sudden, you have a problem with the cookies on my menu either because you were in a bad mood that morning or I've done something to upset you.
- Rolling your eyes when DCB was sent home with diarrhea. I had reminded you of my illness policy (which you are aware of and had signed) that DCB must be symptom free for 24 hours prior to returning to daycare. You stood there and rolled your eyes and "huffed". This is my policy. You agreed to it. It shouldn't be a surprise to you that I am requesting this. As my illness policy states, this is to protect the other children in my care, and my own family.
- When angry that I had to cancel daycare d/t illness, you contacted another provider who you know is a friend of mine and asked if your kids could be on their waiting list. I had to find out from this other person of your concern, rather then hear it from you. When I approached you about it you brushed it off as you were mad and overreacted and said nothing more.
- This morning when you expressed your concerns for DCB wearing his hood yesterday, rather then his hat, Your approach was very disrespectful as I feel as though you were talking down to me. There is definitely a much nicer way to express your concerns.
Until today, I have brushed it off as you're having a bad day, stressed out, etc and I've chosen to try to ignore your behavior. I often feel as though you treat me as if I am a teenage babysitter working FOR you. I would like to remind you that I am a very capable child care provider working WITH you to help raise your children. I have always made it very clear that if any of the parents have any concerns they are welcomed to approach me to discuss their concerns in a mature and appropriate manner. I am choosing to no longer brush off this lack of respect that I am receiving from you. It is not the way I choose to treat others, and expect the same in return.
I am sure you do not intend to come across this way as I know you are a very pleasant person. I would just like to let you know that this is how I am feeling. I hope that we can move forward from this, with an improved relationship especially for the children.
Sincerely,
your provider
I've allowed a DCM to treat me with disrespect ever since she started and have decided I've just about had enough. Since I'm in the process of working on my backbone, I'd like some input from the more experienced providers on here regarding this letter I've drafted and want to send. It seems a little wordy, but I think this mom really needs the details so she can't argue.
Please tell me what you think. Also, they have 2 kids here so I'm taking a big risk on this as she is the type to probably pull after I send this...but who knows..
Dear DCM,
I have decided to write you this letter to express some concerns regarding how I feel I am treated by you. I thought I'd send this through email as it seems to be your preferred choice of communication, and saves me from wasting paper with printing it off to send home this evening.
I feel as though you treat me with a lack of respect. This has been shown on several occasions:
- I often find in the mornings that you make no acknowledgement of me what so ever, and only speak with me once I approach you unless you need to let me know something about the girls. A simple "good morning" would be appreciated. The acknowledgement is the respect.
- Questioning the previous menu (Wafer cookies) after menu being in rotation for several weeks/months. (When menu was sent home for parents to review and keep for themselves you did not say a word to me about these wafer cookies. All of a sudden, you have a problem with the cookies on my menu either because you were in a bad mood that morning or I've done something to upset you.
- Rolling your eyes when DCB was sent home with diarrhea. I had reminded you of my illness policy (which you are aware of and had signed) that DCB must be symptom free for 24 hours prior to returning to daycare. You stood there and rolled your eyes and "huffed". This is my policy. You agreed to it. It shouldn't be a surprise to you that I am requesting this. As my illness policy states, this is to protect the other children in my care, and my own family.
- When angry that I had to cancel daycare d/t illness, you contacted another provider who you know is a friend of mine and asked if your kids could be on their waiting list. I had to find out from this other person of your concern, rather then hear it from you. When I approached you about it you brushed it off as you were mad and overreacted and said nothing more.
- This morning when you expressed your concerns for DCB wearing his hood yesterday, rather then his hat, Your approach was very disrespectful as I feel as though you were talking down to me. There is definitely a much nicer way to express your concerns.
Until today, I have brushed it off as you're having a bad day, stressed out, etc and I've chosen to try to ignore your behavior. I often feel as though you treat me as if I am a teenage babysitter working FOR you. I would like to remind you that I am a very capable child care provider working WITH you to help raise your children. I have always made it very clear that if any of the parents have any concerns they are welcomed to approach me to discuss their concerns in a mature and appropriate manner. I am choosing to no longer brush off this lack of respect that I am receiving from you. It is not the way I choose to treat others, and expect the same in return.
I am sure you do not intend to come across this way as I know you are a very pleasant person. I would just like to let you know that this is how I am feeling. I hope that we can move forward from this, with an improved relationship especially for the children.
Sincerely,
your provider
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