This has been a long time coming but yesterday was the breaking point for me. I have an almost 4 yr old boy who never (and I am serious) never listens the first or second time I say something. Yesterday it was nice out so we went outside, he immediately picks up a rock (which are always off limits), I say in the nicest but firmest tone "Put the rock down." I am in the midst of carrying a baby to the stroller and attempting to buckle her in. A second later I repeat the directions, "Put the rock back into the rock garden please." I start walking toward him with the baby in hand b/c it is obvious he is not going to do as I am asking. As I step towards him he intentionally drops it on our ceramic turtle (which my 2 yr old calls his pet turtle) and breaks it into a million pieces. My son begins to cry and this 4yr old runs away "can't get me!" ![Mad](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/mad.png)
My blood was boiling but I calmly (I don't know how) opened the door and asked him to step inside and take a break. I repeat the directions and still no response. ***, please go inside and take a break!" Finally he does.
I could list a million times a day this happens, not all behavior things but washing hands, going to the bathroom, get out a book, wipe your face etc. The kid lacks the ability to listen the first time and I KNOW EXACTLY WHY. Mom says alot but does next to nothing when the kid steps out of line. He has been conditioned to not listen the first, second, third etc time because mom repeats and repeats and never follows through with anything she says. So, today is a gma drop off and pick up but gma says mom wants to talk about why her son is so naughty on Thursday. How do I politely tell her he is not naughty, but rather has learned b/c of your lack of ability to follow through on anything, that he pretty much doesn't have to listen until you get firm, in his face (or in her case yell/spank him). I half feel sorry for the kid, since he has only learned what they have taught him, ignore, ignore, ignore until adult is seriously mad. I do not want to spend my day repeating everything or punishing b/c the kid can not listen.
![Mad](https://chat.daycare.com/core/images/smilies/mad.png)
My blood was boiling but I calmly (I don't know how) opened the door and asked him to step inside and take a break. I repeat the directions and still no response. ***, please go inside and take a break!" Finally he does.
I could list a million times a day this happens, not all behavior things but washing hands, going to the bathroom, get out a book, wipe your face etc. The kid lacks the ability to listen the first time and I KNOW EXACTLY WHY. Mom says alot but does next to nothing when the kid steps out of line. He has been conditioned to not listen the first, second, third etc time because mom repeats and repeats and never follows through with anything she says. So, today is a gma drop off and pick up but gma says mom wants to talk about why her son is so naughty on Thursday. How do I politely tell her he is not naughty, but rather has learned b/c of your lack of ability to follow through on anything, that he pretty much doesn't have to listen until you get firm, in his face (or in her case yell/spank him). I half feel sorry for the kid, since he has only learned what they have taught him, ignore, ignore, ignore until adult is seriously mad. I do not want to spend my day repeating everything or punishing b/c the kid can not listen.
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