I've had a child for about a month now. I get her mostly full time...from 3-5 days per week. It's second shift and she's been in daycare since she was little and has been used to the second shift schedule for some time.
The issues we have...
She's very picky... sometimes just outright won't eat for days (mom can't get her to eat either)
Is used to making all her own decisions...
doesn't play with kids... wants adults to entertain her all the time...
doesn't nap, but comes over at 1 pm and is already miserable because she's wearing down....
So, while I am sorry she feels miserable because her tummy is overly hungry, she's tired, I spend the first two hours basically dealing with a cry-fest and I want my mommy I don't like your house, I don't want to play with your kids, I don't like your kids...
So anyway, this is what I've started doing. "So-and-So, I know you want mommy, but you are comfortable and safe at my house. If you want to cry, this is your cry spot. When you are done, come play with the kids."
I am trying this, because she will sit and refuse to play and then sitting makes her bored and she starts throwing her arms around, sighing, and crying all over again because she's bored. The kids try to get her to stop crying and she actually gets touchy and mean, so that's partly why I put her in her cry spot... to give her a place to say/feel what she wants without affecting others.
I'm not a licensed provider, and mom knows this is mostly just babysitting. we do crafts and fun things once in a while, but mostly, kids that come here are expected to be able to play for part of the day without needing constant adult attention. (I am nearby, just not entertaining them)...
Other issues, she'll just glare at my daughter out of the blue, for no reason and say, I don't like her in my face... she needs to keep out of my face. (By the way, this is said when my daughter is playing in the living room and she is sitting coloring at the table.) She'll also say, "your daughter needs to be quiet. I don't like her talking and she will have to be quiet."
I usually respond with, "She is not in your face, honey, she's not even in the room with you. I think you need to make sure you are being kind."
or I say, "Sorry, but so-and-so is not being noisy and she is allowed to talk. Please make sure that you are being kind."
Even though I say it nicely, and not harshly, she starts crying all over again for mom.
Anyway, from you licensed and maybe more experienced providers, am I handling this well, or do you have other suggestions?
*sigh* she refused snack, and now wants to eat before dinner, I told her sorry, but it's almost dinner time now not snack time, and she lasted five more minutes before falling to pieces again and put herself back in her cry spot. She came right back out and is standing sniffing in my living room. If I look at her or make any suggestion of doing anything fun, she'll start bawling again, so I'm making a point of not bothering with her... is that right??? wow, I feel like a bear.. LOL! I really feel bad she's so sad!!!
The issues we have...
She's very picky... sometimes just outright won't eat for days (mom can't get her to eat either)
Is used to making all her own decisions...
doesn't play with kids... wants adults to entertain her all the time...
doesn't nap, but comes over at 1 pm and is already miserable because she's wearing down....
So, while I am sorry she feels miserable because her tummy is overly hungry, she's tired, I spend the first two hours basically dealing with a cry-fest and I want my mommy I don't like your house, I don't want to play with your kids, I don't like your kids...
So anyway, this is what I've started doing. "So-and-So, I know you want mommy, but you are comfortable and safe at my house. If you want to cry, this is your cry spot. When you are done, come play with the kids."
I am trying this, because she will sit and refuse to play and then sitting makes her bored and she starts throwing her arms around, sighing, and crying all over again because she's bored. The kids try to get her to stop crying and she actually gets touchy and mean, so that's partly why I put her in her cry spot... to give her a place to say/feel what she wants without affecting others.
I'm not a licensed provider, and mom knows this is mostly just babysitting. we do crafts and fun things once in a while, but mostly, kids that come here are expected to be able to play for part of the day without needing constant adult attention. (I am nearby, just not entertaining them)...
Other issues, she'll just glare at my daughter out of the blue, for no reason and say, I don't like her in my face... she needs to keep out of my face. (By the way, this is said when my daughter is playing in the living room and she is sitting coloring at the table.) She'll also say, "your daughter needs to be quiet. I don't like her talking and she will have to be quiet."
I usually respond with, "She is not in your face, honey, she's not even in the room with you. I think you need to make sure you are being kind."
or I say, "Sorry, but so-and-so is not being noisy and she is allowed to talk. Please make sure that you are being kind."
Even though I say it nicely, and not harshly, she starts crying all over again for mom.
Anyway, from you licensed and maybe more experienced providers, am I handling this well, or do you have other suggestions?
*sigh* she refused snack, and now wants to eat before dinner, I told her sorry, but it's almost dinner time now not snack time, and she lasted five more minutes before falling to pieces again and put herself back in her cry spot. She came right back out and is standing sniffing in my living room. If I look at her or make any suggestion of doing anything fun, she'll start bawling again, so I'm making a point of not bothering with her... is that right??? wow, I feel like a bear.. LOL! I really feel bad she's so sad!!!
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