This situation happened to me this week & I was so dumbfounded when it did happen that I didn't really react. Sometimes when people are telling you something you don't want to hear or acting inappropriately it leaves me unable to respond. Based on the following scenario I was wondering how you would respond &/or if you would follow up with any action?
I nanny for a family & all is mostly good. No big issues with the parents & the kids are very good. I drive one of the kids to preschool a few days a week. Said child has a condition that makes it necessary on most days to wear sunglasses when outdoors. It's nothing that will harm him if he doesn't wear them - it is mostly a comfort issue. For obvious reasons when it is gloomy/dark outdoors it doesn't bother him. Today when I arrived to pick him up he was outside playing as is typical at pick-up. It was a cloudy & cool day. One of the teachers cornered me & said, "Child did not have sunglasses today". I responded that I was sorry I had forgotten & that I thought child had back-up ones here at school. Obviously that is not the case. Child's mom & I take turns driving child to school as she is off 1-2 days/week. Anyway, the preschool teacher goes on to say that "I need to be more responsible in making sure child comes each day with sunglasses & then she went on to say that she cares for said child & does not wish for child to be uncomfortable & again that I need to be more responsible". I didn;t know what to say I stammer & mention again that I was sorry & I will try to remember to bring them each day & I will ask mom about back-up pairs to leave at school.
I am a sensitive person & I started to tear up as I walked the child (With my own child & preschool child's sister) to the car. As I drove away though I got very mad. #1 - teacher does not know mw from Adam - I am a responsible person - just b/c I "forgot" the glasses (that I didn't even really know I was supposed to be bringing each day) doesn't mean I am irresponsible. And #2 - it really bothered me that the teacher would talk to ME this way - teachers are an authority figure - yes; but this teacher was talking to me in such a belittling manner that made me feel like I was the child. If I was a PARENT of said child I can't imagine a teacher ever telling me as the parent that I needed to be more responsible unless of course I had a major issue - like a drug problem or abusive nature. In fact if I was the parent & the teacher spoke to me this way I would be marching myself into the director's office to complain. So I wanted opinions & don't wish to make a big deal about this BUT I felt very put down like she only talked to me this way b/c I am "just the nanny" - I highly doubt she would have berated the mom had she forgotten the glasses.
What would you do? HOw would you react? What would you say, if anything, to this teacher when you saw her again. And I did cry the whole way home from the school b/c I really felt put down.
I nanny for a family & all is mostly good. No big issues with the parents & the kids are very good. I drive one of the kids to preschool a few days a week. Said child has a condition that makes it necessary on most days to wear sunglasses when outdoors. It's nothing that will harm him if he doesn't wear them - it is mostly a comfort issue. For obvious reasons when it is gloomy/dark outdoors it doesn't bother him. Today when I arrived to pick him up he was outside playing as is typical at pick-up. It was a cloudy & cool day. One of the teachers cornered me & said, "Child did not have sunglasses today". I responded that I was sorry I had forgotten & that I thought child had back-up ones here at school. Obviously that is not the case. Child's mom & I take turns driving child to school as she is off 1-2 days/week. Anyway, the preschool teacher goes on to say that "I need to be more responsible in making sure child comes each day with sunglasses & then she went on to say that she cares for said child & does not wish for child to be uncomfortable & again that I need to be more responsible". I didn;t know what to say I stammer & mention again that I was sorry & I will try to remember to bring them each day & I will ask mom about back-up pairs to leave at school.
I am a sensitive person & I started to tear up as I walked the child (With my own child & preschool child's sister) to the car. As I drove away though I got very mad. #1 - teacher does not know mw from Adam - I am a responsible person - just b/c I "forgot" the glasses (that I didn't even really know I was supposed to be bringing each day) doesn't mean I am irresponsible. And #2 - it really bothered me that the teacher would talk to ME this way - teachers are an authority figure - yes; but this teacher was talking to me in such a belittling manner that made me feel like I was the child. If I was a PARENT of said child I can't imagine a teacher ever telling me as the parent that I needed to be more responsible unless of course I had a major issue - like a drug problem or abusive nature. In fact if I was the parent & the teacher spoke to me this way I would be marching myself into the director's office to complain. So I wanted opinions & don't wish to make a big deal about this BUT I felt very put down like she only talked to me this way b/c I am "just the nanny" - I highly doubt she would have berated the mom had she forgotten the glasses.
What would you do? HOw would you react? What would you say, if anything, to this teacher when you saw her again. And I did cry the whole way home from the school b/c I really felt put down.
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