So at this point, I am very glad I have a paper trail of what I have told Dad. I am also very glad that I cleared my house of any infestation.
I have not had the child all week. Because, Dad or Girlfriend called shortly before I was to leave to pick the child up and said that the girlfriend got of work early and was going to pick the child up. I thought that was great more time with parental figures is always good for any child right.
But then …
Mom calls today and wants to know what is up with the bug bites on DCB’s face. At this point, I think she is confused by what Dad said I said about my house being cleared of an infestation ECT…
So I said to mom I will tell you the background info that I gave Dad and informed her of the conversation. Did mention that Dad took child to the doc on Tues of last week and the doc. apparently thinks they are flee bites? I also told mom that I placed traps in my house and did not catch anything.
Mom then asked so did DCB have marks on Monday or Tuesday. So I informed her that I did not have DCB at all this week. To which she said what you have not had him all week and your house was cleared. My response was yes that is correct.
Mom then says oh because he has like five marks on him now. Mom indicated that they where defiantly fresh and that this time when she asked Dad what happen he said I do not know where he got them. (Last, two times he told her they came from my house)
I then confirmed that DCB has bug bite marks on him. At that point I told mom that I was really sorry to here that and I am sorry that Dad has put her in the middle of this Because now I can not accept DCB into my daycare until he sees a doc. (I was to supposed to pick him up on her behave tomorrow). She asked if I have it in writing that, I told Dad this and wanted a copy of it. Thinking about writing mom, her own letter summarizing what I have told dad and not giving her a copy of letter given to Dad.
Mom then went on to tell me not to put you in the middle but I am filling a motion against dad because of some of the things he has done. Shared some things it was on over share but short so I did not cut Mom off. Silly me I thought this was about helping your son not about being nasty to your ex-husband.:confused:
So now Mom has no Daycare for child tomorrow unless she takes him to the doc today (she is at work right now).
Right after talking to Mom, I called Dad, left a message at work, and then called the house. Just got off the phone with him. I told him that DCB Mom called me asking about the marks on him so (that this point I was not letting him talk I did not pause for a response) I did inform Mom that I did not have the child all week, and that I laid out traps and my house did come back clean.
(still not pausing for a response) I went on to tell Dad that according too Mom DCB has five or six fresh marks on him. Then reminded Dad that because this is the 3rd time I will need a doc. Note indicating that it is not contagious, or that it is indeed bug bites and that the doc. Needs to see DCB while the marks are fresh, you know not mostly healed and scabbed over.
Then when I did pause and give Dad time to respond he say yah I will try to get a note for you (What try in his E-mails he comes across so concerned apparently not). Dad also said the marks look different this time. So I told him even more reason why I need a note indicating that it is indeed bug bites and not some strange childhood rash.
Dad then said and about disclosing my relationship with my child I would appreciate it if Mom needs information that you director her back to me. So I then tell him that the law does not see it that way that she is his mother and therefore certain information she is entitled too, unless there is a court order indicating that she does not have the right anymore I can not with hold information from a parent. (I might need to find out exactly what I can and can not tell a parent)
Dad says that there is a court order and that he will try to get it too me. Silly me I thought this was bout helping your son not about being nasty to your ex-wife. :confused:
FYI according to both Mom and Dad the divorce is not finally even though they have not lived together for 4 years since child was a baby, and both of them have other live in boy/girlfriends.
More drama than I signed up for up.
I will not be making any decisions for at least 24 hours. Part of me wants to say go away and take your drama with you. Another part of me wants to be the only sane person in DCB’s life.
I have not had the child all week. Because, Dad or Girlfriend called shortly before I was to leave to pick the child up and said that the girlfriend got of work early and was going to pick the child up. I thought that was great more time with parental figures is always good for any child right.
But then …
Mom calls today and wants to know what is up with the bug bites on DCB’s face. At this point, I think she is confused by what Dad said I said about my house being cleared of an infestation ECT…
So I said to mom I will tell you the background info that I gave Dad and informed her of the conversation. Did mention that Dad took child to the doc on Tues of last week and the doc. apparently thinks they are flee bites? I also told mom that I placed traps in my house and did not catch anything.
Mom then asked so did DCB have marks on Monday or Tuesday. So I informed her that I did not have DCB at all this week. To which she said what you have not had him all week and your house was cleared. My response was yes that is correct.
Mom then says oh because he has like five marks on him now. Mom indicated that they where defiantly fresh and that this time when she asked Dad what happen he said I do not know where he got them. (Last, two times he told her they came from my house)
I then confirmed that DCB has bug bite marks on him. At that point I told mom that I was really sorry to here that and I am sorry that Dad has put her in the middle of this Because now I can not accept DCB into my daycare until he sees a doc. (I was to supposed to pick him up on her behave tomorrow). She asked if I have it in writing that, I told Dad this and wanted a copy of it. Thinking about writing mom, her own letter summarizing what I have told dad and not giving her a copy of letter given to Dad.
Mom then went on to tell me not to put you in the middle but I am filling a motion against dad because of some of the things he has done. Shared some things it was on over share but short so I did not cut Mom off. Silly me I thought this was about helping your son not about being nasty to your ex-husband.:confused:
So now Mom has no Daycare for child tomorrow unless she takes him to the doc today (she is at work right now).
Right after talking to Mom, I called Dad, left a message at work, and then called the house. Just got off the phone with him. I told him that DCB Mom called me asking about the marks on him so (that this point I was not letting him talk I did not pause for a response) I did inform Mom that I did not have the child all week, and that I laid out traps and my house did come back clean.
(still not pausing for a response) I went on to tell Dad that according too Mom DCB has five or six fresh marks on him. Then reminded Dad that because this is the 3rd time I will need a doc. Note indicating that it is not contagious, or that it is indeed bug bites and that the doc. Needs to see DCB while the marks are fresh, you know not mostly healed and scabbed over.
Then when I did pause and give Dad time to respond he say yah I will try to get a note for you (What try in his E-mails he comes across so concerned apparently not). Dad also said the marks look different this time. So I told him even more reason why I need a note indicating that it is indeed bug bites and not some strange childhood rash.
Dad then said and about disclosing my relationship with my child I would appreciate it if Mom needs information that you director her back to me. So I then tell him that the law does not see it that way that she is his mother and therefore certain information she is entitled too, unless there is a court order indicating that she does not have the right anymore I can not with hold information from a parent. (I might need to find out exactly what I can and can not tell a parent)
Dad says that there is a court order and that he will try to get it too me. Silly me I thought this was bout helping your son not about being nasty to your ex-wife. :confused:
FYI according to both Mom and Dad the divorce is not finally even though they have not lived together for 4 years since child was a baby, and both of them have other live in boy/girlfriends.
More drama than I signed up for up.
I will not be making any decisions for at least 24 hours. Part of me wants to say go away and take your drama with you. Another part of me wants to be the only sane person in DCB’s life.
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