So I initially posted this in another forum but I think it needs to be posted here.
So I have a 14 month old daughter will call her child A. I also have a daycare child who is 15 months and well call her child B
Child A is very rough and tumble, she has been know to hit occasionally, throw things and pull hair. Its not all the time but it happens. She also walks, runs, screams and is your basic full adventourous child.
Child B is quiet and over sensitive. She crys if you look at her wrong. She dosnt walk at all and is extremley babies at home. An example is her a\parents still feed her from a bottle and hold it for her.
When child B is dropped off and picked up there is no crying. My daughter is usually sleep so we have a chance to warm up and get cozy. As soon as my daughter is brought into the room or is anywhere near her she screams bloody murder. Sometimes she even shakes. When she is only with me she is super happy and she plays and babbles ect. When child A is around she will sit in a corner and thats about it.
I have tried just about everything will this child and 2 months later it is still going on. I have gotten to the point that when she cries for no reason I just let her and ignore it. I also have tried seperating them by having them on different schedules. They are not seperated the whole day but most of it. I know this cant work forever but I am really at a loss as to what to do anymore. I dont know how much more I can take of it. Child B is at my home for 36 hours a week/ 12 hour days. I would say that 10.5 of those hours she is screaming.
I know that kids go through this when they transition to a new DC but I think this is beyond that. I think it might be somethign more.
Also she has a receiving blanket that she is very attached to. If child A tries to take it she goes into full panic mode and screams as well. Once child B has warmed up and if she plays I am sometimes able to hide the blanket so its no longer the trigger object for my daughter.
One last thing, my daughter never was a screamer until this child came around. Now she also screams bloody murder but for differnet reasons. I have noticed that when child B screams it make my daughter angry and thats when she tries to hit her or pull her hair. She has only done it a couple of times and I am there to stop it immidialtey.
So anyone else been through this or have suggestions? I am really ready to let this family go. I tried talking to them and they said it was normal and shell get used to us then offered to pay me more money.
Help!
So I have a 14 month old daughter will call her child A. I also have a daycare child who is 15 months and well call her child B
Child A is very rough and tumble, she has been know to hit occasionally, throw things and pull hair. Its not all the time but it happens. She also walks, runs, screams and is your basic full adventourous child.
Child B is quiet and over sensitive. She crys if you look at her wrong. She dosnt walk at all and is extremley babies at home. An example is her a\parents still feed her from a bottle and hold it for her.
When child B is dropped off and picked up there is no crying. My daughter is usually sleep so we have a chance to warm up and get cozy. As soon as my daughter is brought into the room or is anywhere near her she screams bloody murder. Sometimes she even shakes. When she is only with me she is super happy and she plays and babbles ect. When child A is around she will sit in a corner and thats about it.
I have tried just about everything will this child and 2 months later it is still going on. I have gotten to the point that when she cries for no reason I just let her and ignore it. I also have tried seperating them by having them on different schedules. They are not seperated the whole day but most of it. I know this cant work forever but I am really at a loss as to what to do anymore. I dont know how much more I can take of it. Child B is at my home for 36 hours a week/ 12 hour days. I would say that 10.5 of those hours she is screaming.
I know that kids go through this when they transition to a new DC but I think this is beyond that. I think it might be somethign more.
Also she has a receiving blanket that she is very attached to. If child A tries to take it she goes into full panic mode and screams as well. Once child B has warmed up and if she plays I am sometimes able to hide the blanket so its no longer the trigger object for my daughter.
One last thing, my daughter never was a screamer until this child came around. Now she also screams bloody murder but for differnet reasons. I have noticed that when child B screams it make my daughter angry and thats when she tries to hit her or pull her hair. She has only done it a couple of times and I am there to stop it immidialtey.
So anyone else been through this or have suggestions? I am really ready to let this family go. I tried talking to them and they said it was normal and shell get used to us then offered to pay me more money.
Help!
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