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  • knoxmomof2
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    Thanks for all the input. If he comes Monday and somehow a switch has flipped... Great! But I'm a bit skeptical considering his complete lack of interest here. There's no way this kid is walking in on Monday telling me he needs to potty. We'll see....

    Grandma told Mom that she was potty trained by 1.5......of course, Grandma also revealed that it happened through her spanking her. Mom said she didn't agree with that, but here we are months later with Grandma helping with a potty training weekend..... This should be interesting...

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  • lovemykidstoo
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    Originally posted by storybookending View Post
    THIS is the reason I don’t do pull ups here. I have a niece that turned two in December and she has been in pull ups since then and has gone on the potty exactly zero times. Like why? My cousins child as well but she is 3 months older and actually does use the potty, but only when you put her on it. I had them both for a day in February and I just did not understand the pull up reasoning AT ALL.
    That's the thing. If they're not going through the potty training process, there is zero reason for them to be in pullups. I don't get why parents do it. Aren't they more expensive? While they are training, they're much easier imo than diapers.

    I have 2 girls training right now. One has advanced to underwear (2 weeks dry, no accidents) the other is still in a pullup but doing well.

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  • Firefly
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    I think pull ups are great for kids that are potty training but I have had kids sent here in pull ups who haven’t even begun potty training and I don’t understand why. Maybe the parent thinks their child is somehow advanced if they wear pull ups?

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  • storybookending
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    Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
    I couldn't agree more! Not to mention that putting pullups on a child that is not potty training is a pain as you have to take the pants all the way off to change. You don't have to do that if they're going on the toilet because they're not wet.
    THIS is the reason I don’t do pull ups here. I have a niece that turned two in December and she has been in pull ups since then and has gone on the potty exactly zero times. Like why? My cousins child as well but she is 3 months older and actually does use the potty, but only when you put her on it. I had them both for a day in February and I just did not understand the pull up reasoning AT ALL.

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  • lovemykidstoo
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    Originally posted by boy_mom View Post
    I feel like a child ready to potty train picks up the skill within a few days. It doesn't have to be perfect, hence the pull ups, but the concept should be completely understood by the child. I always encouraged kids as they learned the skill, assisting them as they mastered the process.

    What I didnt indulge was the parents who potty trained for a very extended period of time, with the parent doing the reminding to go, placing them on the potty, sitting there for a half hour with books and then calling that potty training.

    Nope! A child needs to be aware of what they are doing and actively engaged in it all, which can happen in a few days once they are ready to do it!
    That is true. Our son was a week over being 3 years old and he was 100% done in 1 week. No accidents ever. Our daughter on the other hand. Good lord. Took forever!

    I have a dcg right now that mom and dad bought her a watch that is in the shape of a toilet and it goes off with music every hour. Yea thanks momma. That thing went up on the counter! They live about 10 minutes away. She came in this morning and it went off. She says do you have to go potty? Ok, if she went before leaving home, she doesn't need to go now in the middle of drop offs. I said I will take her in a bit with the other dcg that is potty training.

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  • lovemykidstoo
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    Originally posted by Baby Beluga View Post
    I like pull-ups for this reason. I do think (IME) a lot of parents put their children in pull-ups too early and because of the absorbency of the pull-ups (or lack thereof) it leads to a lot of accidents which is why they get a bad rep.

    I think pull-ups are a good mid-way point for a child who is close, but not quite there yet.
    I couldn't agree more! Not to mention that putting pullups on a child that is not potty training is a pain as you have to take the pants all the way off to change. You don't have to do that if they're going on the toilet because they're not wet.

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  • lovemykidstoo
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    Originally posted by Snowmom View Post
    I expect parents to do the majority of PT work.
    But, I also expect ALL the signs of readiness to be present before we start at daycare.
    That includes: willingness/interest to use the toilet, verbalizing the need to go, independently undressing and sitting down, wiping (I supervise until trained for around 1 month) as well as remaining dry for longer periods of time during the day with predictable bowel movements.

    I have a handout I give when they first start asking or hinting at PT. I also send out a "next steps" PT letter when they are about to graduate to undies. I want them to know exactly what I expect and what happens if it's not successful at first (or regression).
    The verbalizing is what gets me every single time. I have so many parents that want to start potty training at various ages. The thing is, most of the kids are not verbal about it. So how is that potty training if I'm putting them on the toilet at certain times of the day instead of them letting me know they have to go. Isnt' that called the elimination method or something? My one dcm has a 22 month old boy. She came yesterday all excited because he's been saying poop after he goes poo in his diaper. Great! I've heard him say poo, bye, coat, momma, dadda. That's it. I'm thinking, well on your 1 week vacation, you see how that goes when he tells you he has to go.

    Same one Monday as she came in, he stands there and puts his feet up in the air one by one as she takes off his shoes. I told her he's been taking his shoes off himself when we come in from outside play. She says oh yea we've been working on that with him. Reminded me of another thread about that subject how the parent takes sole responsibility or acknowledgement of something you know they're not working with them on. I had to laugh because never has he taken his own shoes off with her in the morning.

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  • LostMyMarbles
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    Originally posted by Baby Beluga View Post
    It's probably too early...and I am under caffeinated, but he was how old?
    Lol sorry .. he was a month shy of 3.

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  • Baby Beluga
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    Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
    All of my kids that are toilet training wear pullups. So much easier to pull down and go to the bathroom with those vs diapers. If the goal is for the child to be independent and go to the bathroom on their own, are they going to be able to take the diaper off and put a diaper back on after going on the toilet? I dont' know why people dislike pullups so much.

    Do people really have their kids trained in 2 days on a weekend? I can see starting the process, but 100%?

    I agree, do what you do, don't base what you do on anything the parent says because most of the time it's padded information if you know what I mean. I have a 3 year old right now that is wearing underwear. She has told me she's had to go maybe twice. I just have certain times of the day that the kids go. Well, yesterday she sat in my chair and was messing with her pants. It wasn't until dad came that I realized she had an accident. She talks non-stop all day. Why would she not say hey I have to go ugh
    I like pull-ups for this reason. I do think (IME) a lot of parents put their children in pull-ups too early and because of the absorbency of the pull-ups (or lack thereof) it leads to a lot of accidents which is why they get a bad rep.

    I think pull-ups are a good mid-way point for a child who is close, but not quite there yet.

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  • Baby Beluga
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    Originally posted by LostMyMarbles View Post
    This is pretty much my thought process too. Except you were classing thing up by saying parents padded things up. I say parents flat out lie.

    I had a boy, a larger in size boy, who had big stinky poops. He was 11.90 months. I got tired of changing that. So I started working with them here at daycare. Mom didn’t work with them at home. He was completely potty trained for four months here before the mom even had an inkling to do anything at home. She was bragging all over Facebook about having potty trained him over the weekend. I made a comment about oh I’m so glad he’s going at home now, he’s been going in daycare for four months.

    I got tired of worrying about what was going on at home also. I just focused on what goes on here. Unfortunately, sometimes I think the parents put too much pressure on us to do a job that we need to work together as a team. I feel it’s a team effort to do the potty training. Or the learning, or the discipline.
    It's probably too early...and I am under caffeinated, but he was how old?

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  • LostMyMarbles
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    Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
    All of my kids that are toilet training wear pullups. So much easier to pull down and go to the bathroom with those vs diapers. If the goal is for the child to be independent and go to the bathroom on their own, are they going to be able to take the diaper off and put a diaper back on after going on the toilet? I dont' know why people dislike pullups so much.

    Do people really have their kids trained in 2 days on a weekend? I can see starting the process, but 100%?

    I agree, do what you do, don't base what you do on anything the parent says because most of the time it's padded information if you know what I mean. I have a 3 year old right now that is wearing underwear. She has told me she's had to go maybe twice. I just have certain times of the day that the kids go. Well, yesterday she sat in my chair and was messing with her pants. It wasn't until dad came that I realized she had an accident. She talks non-stop all day. Why would she not say hey I have to go ugh
    This is pretty much my thought process too. Except you were classing thing up by saying parents padded things up. I say parents flat out lie.

    I had a boy, a larger in size boy, who had big stinky poops. He was 11.90 months. I got tired of changing that. So I started working with them here at daycare. Mom didn’t work with them at home. He was completely potty trained for four months here before the mom even had an inkling to do anything at home. She was bragging all over Facebook about having potty trained him over the weekend. I made a comment about oh I’m so glad he’s going at home now, he’s been going in daycare for four months.

    I got tired of worrying about what was going on at home also. I just focused on what goes on here. Unfortunately, sometimes I think the parents put too much pressure on us to do a job that we need to work together as a team. I feel it’s a team effort to do the potty training. Or the learning, or the discipline.

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  • Snowmom
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    I expect parents to do the majority of PT work.
    But, I also expect ALL the signs of readiness to be present before we start at daycare.
    That includes: willingness/interest to use the toilet, verbalizing the need to go, independently undressing and sitting down, wiping (I supervise until trained for around 1 month) as well as remaining dry for longer periods of time during the day with predictable bowel movements.

    I have a handout I give when they first start asking or hinting at PT. I also send out a "next steps" PT letter when they are about to graduate to undies. I want them to know exactly what I expect and what happens if it's not successful at first (or regression).

    Leave a comment:


  • boy_mom
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    Originally posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
    Do people really have their kids trained in 2 days on a weekend? I can see starting the process, but 100%?
    I feel like a child ready to potty train picks up the skill within a few days. It doesn't have to be perfect, hence the pull ups, but the concept should be completely understood by the child. I always encouraged kids as they learned the skill, assisting them as they mastered the process.

    What I didnt indulge was the parents who potty trained for a very extended period of time, with the parent doing the reminding to go, placing them on the potty, sitting there for a half hour with books and then calling that potty training.

    Nope! A child needs to be aware of what they are doing and actively engaged in it all, which can happen in a few days once they are ready to do it!

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  • Jupadia
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    The only kid I worry about potty training is my own who will be 3.5 in July
    He is also on a deadline cause he starts jr. Kindergarten in September.
    Other peoples kids and there deadlines are not my concern. I've got two other kids (who will be 4 before school start) who have been potty trained but it happened at home not here. They were both dry for two weeks before allowing underwear.

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  • lovemykidstoo
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    All of my kids that are toilet training wear pullups. So much easier to pull down and go to the bathroom with those vs diapers. If the goal is for the child to be independent and go to the bathroom on their own, are they going to be able to take the diaper off and put a diaper back on after going on the toilet? I dont' know why people dislike pullups so much.

    Do people really have their kids trained in 2 days on a weekend? I can see starting the process, but 100%?

    I agree, do what you do, don't base what you do on anything the parent says because most of the time it's padded information if you know what I mean. I have a 3 year old right now that is wearing underwear. She has told me she's had to go maybe twice. I just have certain times of the day that the kids go. Well, yesterday she sat in my chair and was messing with her pants. It wasn't until dad came that I realized she had an accident. She talks non-stop all day. Why would she not say hey I have to go ugh

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