DCM Texted And Asked Last Night If Child Got Injury But I Didn't Notice

[Ariana]

For your advertising, what do you say you are?

A childcare provider, thats it! Lol. I advertise my education and experience and that is it. When parents come for an interview I only talk to them about their specific needs and only mention my menu if asked. Most of my current parents appreciate my healthy menu though.

[trix23]

For your advertising, what do you say you are?

[Ariana]

What do you mean "the holistic doesn't come into play until they are enrolled"

Basically they don't know my way of caring for kids until the kid is with me. It creates a space of less expectations from the parents. Once I start rolling out the menu and our daily circle time guided meditations they see that I am a holistic or alternative type of provider and welcome alternative ways of parenting (breastfeeding, cloth diapers etc) but I don't advertise it anymore and it makes it easier for me to only allow acceptable parenting practices. Those crazy crunchy granola parents are not really seeking me out.

When I advertised as holistic, childrens meditation teacher
I got a lot of crazies that expected me to wear their babies all day and lie down with their toddlers for naps and allow hitting and biting etc. I sometimes see providers advertising as "attachement parenting" providers and I laugh and think "good luck"!!! Attachment parenting only works when the parent is doing the attaching

[trix23]

What do you mean "the holistic doesn't come into play until they are enrolled"

[trix23]

Granola and crunchy are ways of saying alternative parenting and holistic medicine, natural birth without drugs, and breastfeeding, things like that. It's kind of slang but not in the sense of like bad words just another way to describe a lifestyle and value set of sorts.

I'm a half-crunchy parent. I look at each issue and decide which option makes the most sense. For instance I did natural drug-free childbirth in a Jacuzzi tub but I use disposable diapers, formula for my own babies from 4 months onward, and allow tv here and there. My rules are firm on things that matter, like being gentle to others, sitting at the table to eat, and for my own kids that if any water comes out of the tub that they are done with the bath.

[lovemykidstoo]

This might be your issue. I got a lot of crazy when I billed myself as "holistic". Now I do not advertise that way at all. The holistic doesn't come into play until the child is enrolled. Granola type families are extremely entitled people.

LOL when I read that post, I started laughing and thought, yup, there's your problem hahaha!

I'm out of the loop though what's a granola and crunchy family?

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Hahahaha. :: That's really all I can say. Passive parenting horrifies me. We don't mesh well with other crunchy/granola families because of the way we parent. We parent traditionally but have a "natural side" to raising our child and taking care of our health.

me too! we are pretty strict in our parenting, but i take a more hollistic approach to health. my family basically tells me i am nuts for not going to the doc for every little illness, yet gives me the stink eye and tells me to relax when i get on my kids for poor behaviors i see so many parents doing the permissive parenting, yet calling it AP or "child led", and it certainly doesnt help those who actually practice those styles, but with balance. kind of like how "old school" gets a bad wrap bc some parents beat their kids with belts and wood spoons!

[trix23]

Def agree with you there. I see a lot of that these days.

[daycarediva]

I have run into that as well. I prefer NOT to take those types of families which is interesting because we are a "crunchy family." I thought I would love having them enrolled but I really don't.

YES!

We are old school parents, but in a loving, nurturing way. Set limits, enforce consequences. BUT, we also communicate and discuss feelings with our children regularly.

I loathe every family that has said 'granola' 'crunchy' 'organic' 'baby wearing' etc

I NO LONGER advertise as RIE, RIE does NOT mean 'no consequences' and 'let your child behave like a monster'

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have found there are a lot of people who practice "crunchy parenting" with balance and with the health and wellbeing of their child/family in mind. But, i have found WAY more who use the methods as an excuse for their child's behaviors and for their lack of parenting, as in "little sally is so smart, that is why she freaks out when you dont let her have xyz, so we let her have it so as not to crush her little soul or hide her individuality, yada, yada, yada."

Hahahaha. :: That's really all I can say. Passive parenting horrifies me. We don't mesh well with other crunchy/granola families because of the way we parent. We parent traditionally but have a "natural side" to raising our child and taking care of our health.

[Blackcat31]

There's a difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting.

So if not using "holistic", what term do you use?

"healthy"

That is open to interpretation to it might be a better word to use. It will mean whatever healthy means to that person.

[trix23]

There's a difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting.

So if not using "holistic", what term do you use?

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I have run into that as well. I prefer NOT to take those types of families which is interesting because we are a "crunchy family." I thought I would love having them enrolled but I really don't.

I have found there are a lot of people who practice "crunchy parenting" with balance and with the health and wellbeing of their child/family in mind. But, i have found WAY more who use the methods as an excuse for their child's behaviors and for their lack of parenting, as in "little sally is so smart, that is why she freaks out when you dont let her have xyz, so we let her have it so as not to crush her little soul or hide her individuality, yada, yada, yada."

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

This might be your issue. I got a lot of crazy when I billed myself as "holistic". Now I do not advertise that way at all. The holistic doesn't come into play until the child is enrolled. Granola type families are extremely entitled people.

I have run into that as well. I prefer NOT to take those types of families which is interesting because we are a "crunchy family." I thought I would love having them enrolled but I really don't.

[Ariana]

Today the dck fell again in the kitchen and hit the back of his head. I filled out an incident report and made a copy of it after DCD signed it. He then said, "a lot of boo boos". I've sent home 2-3 incident reports in the 4 weeks he's been here so I don't consider that a lot.... But I'm honest and forthright about injuries, something most providers don't do.

In a situation like that, what should you say? I said, "Yeah, kids 0-3 get boo boos. It's part of being kids."

Do they think I'm beating or abusing him or something? I mean.... I don't even know what that comment means it's so odd...

How did he fall? I am definitely not accusing you of anything!
Might be time to review your supervision, for example kids are not allowed to be walking around in my kitchen. The only place they are allowed to be free is in the play room or outside.