Thanks in advance. This is long to give you a backstory.
I have a DCB who just turned 4y old in September. I am the first provider for him since he was only with family before. He has been with me since beginning of September. He will not talk to me, only shakes his head yes or no. If I ask him a question where he has to answer he talks really quiet. He will talk to the other kids when they are playing but I see him being shy there too. He will only play with them if they ask him.
At first he cried on and off during the day and when mom left. I posted a schedule for him during the day so he knew when she would be back and we read lots of books about separation. He is better during the day and just this week isn't crying at drop off but anxious and quiet.
I know he can talk so that isn't the issue since I hear him with other kids. He seems fine motor wise too (small and large). Working on writing his name right now. Maybe a little behind on knowing colors, letters, shapes, than my other kids here but nothing I'd be worried about and maybe he just doesn't want to answer.
I don't know why but I don't like to do one on one activities with him because he won't talk to me and I can tell he is anxious so it makes me feel uneasy. I always stick to a few kids with us in a small group.
He doesn't ask to beexcused from the table like the rest of the kids at meal times. He will just sit there until I ask if he is done. I tried making him sit to see if he'd ask but he doesn't and I'm not picking this battle right now. Friday he did have an accident I didn't even know about right around pick up because we were playing a game and he probably didn't want to tell me he had to go potty and then mom emailed me later to tell me he was too embarrassed to tell me he had an accident. Luckily it wasn't on the floor (he was sitting on his knees). He also does not participate in music and movement but does participate in circle time (unless I ask a question to him), and art, other activities.
Mom said he talks all night about me and the other kids and how much fun he has. So he is enjoying it here.
Now that you have the backstory should parents or I be concerned yet or do we give it more time? If so how much? Any tips to help him?
I have a DCB who just turned 4y old in September. I am the first provider for him since he was only with family before. He has been with me since beginning of September. He will not talk to me, only shakes his head yes or no. If I ask him a question where he has to answer he talks really quiet. He will talk to the other kids when they are playing but I see him being shy there too. He will only play with them if they ask him.
At first he cried on and off during the day and when mom left. I posted a schedule for him during the day so he knew when she would be back and we read lots of books about separation. He is better during the day and just this week isn't crying at drop off but anxious and quiet.
I know he can talk so that isn't the issue since I hear him with other kids. He seems fine motor wise too (small and large). Working on writing his name right now. Maybe a little behind on knowing colors, letters, shapes, than my other kids here but nothing I'd be worried about and maybe he just doesn't want to answer.
I don't know why but I don't like to do one on one activities with him because he won't talk to me and I can tell he is anxious so it makes me feel uneasy. I always stick to a few kids with us in a small group.
He doesn't ask to beexcused from the table like the rest of the kids at meal times. He will just sit there until I ask if he is done. I tried making him sit to see if he'd ask but he doesn't and I'm not picking this battle right now. Friday he did have an accident I didn't even know about right around pick up because we were playing a game and he probably didn't want to tell me he had to go potty and then mom emailed me later to tell me he was too embarrassed to tell me he had an accident. Luckily it wasn't on the floor (he was sitting on his knees). He also does not participate in music and movement but does participate in circle time (unless I ask a question to him), and art, other activities.
Mom said he talks all night about me and the other kids and how much fun he has. So he is enjoying it here.
Now that you have the backstory should parents or I be concerned yet or do we give it more time? If so how much? Any tips to help him?
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