dcg 3 1/2(closer to 4 yo) She's always needed lots of attention; started preschool this year. She's very smart but:
She'll take things of kids when they're not looking and hide them(she thinks it's funny). Yesterday when a 4 yo went in to use the bathroom, she left her dress-up on the floor. This dcg grabs it and hides it. Then 4 yo comes back and asks where it is. I say 'go ask A*****. Well, dcg denies it completely.
She'll fib, lie, tease, whatever you want to call it at her age, about everything.
She's just started hitting out when she gets angry; doesn't make contact a lot but puts forth the action.
She's moderately disruptive at naptime.
She can be sneaky when my back is turned and does things to some of the kids. When I asked them what happened her name pops up. She'll deny it all even though these other kids are old enough to say her name and I cannot imagine why they'd make up stories.
She incites them into doing things they shouldn't. She's quite the leader and everybody listens to her but unfortunately she pulls them into her naughty behavior.
She doesn't listen to me very well as she's extremely strong-willed. For example, yesterday due to issues at naptime I took all her books away, told her she lost books and told her to lay quietly for awhile. Next thing I know she's taken more books from the bookshelf.
I send home daily notes but don't write a lot of things down because to be honest, if I were a dcparent I would be so disheartened if that's all I ever heard was the negative side of their day. I catch her being good and compliment her for being a good friend or helper. But for her, it's mostly the naughty side I see.
I'm at my wit's end with this one. I love her to pieces and don't want to give up on her but need to start thinking outside of the box for her. I truly believe most of what she does is for attention. There's only so far I can stretch myself with the group.
Any ideas? She just seems to take so much time away from our day that I end up spending more time searching for things she's hidden, fixing a broken heart, or keeping her from harm.
Oh and another thing...when she uses the bathroom she'll take 10 minutes or so, just sitting there playing around. I just don't have an extra 10 minutes to stand there and make sure she doesn't get into trouble. She has dropped 2 rolls of toilet paper into the toilet on separate occasions. She dumped soap all over the floor in front of the toilet the other day. I asked her what happened and she told me she spit. It was slippery like soap so I have no clue. Lots of times I will pop in and out watching her and the others.
Please don't tell me to let her go because she needs more one on one care. I'm not quite to that point yet. I feel like I need something new that I'm not thinking of.
I do need to talk with the mom. But it seems like every time I say something I end up feeling like it's my fault, something I'm not doing, or she's very discouraged. Her dh works a lot so much of this falls on her shoulders and she's already terribly overwhelmed as it is. If I could improve dcg's behavior without bringing it all onto her shoulders, I'd prefer that. I know she does what she can at home. I need to come up with a plan for here.
So sorry so long!!!
She'll take things of kids when they're not looking and hide them(she thinks it's funny). Yesterday when a 4 yo went in to use the bathroom, she left her dress-up on the floor. This dcg grabs it and hides it. Then 4 yo comes back and asks where it is. I say 'go ask A*****. Well, dcg denies it completely.
She'll fib, lie, tease, whatever you want to call it at her age, about everything.
She's just started hitting out when she gets angry; doesn't make contact a lot but puts forth the action.
She's moderately disruptive at naptime.
She can be sneaky when my back is turned and does things to some of the kids. When I asked them what happened her name pops up. She'll deny it all even though these other kids are old enough to say her name and I cannot imagine why they'd make up stories.
She incites them into doing things they shouldn't. She's quite the leader and everybody listens to her but unfortunately she pulls them into her naughty behavior.
She doesn't listen to me very well as she's extremely strong-willed. For example, yesterday due to issues at naptime I took all her books away, told her she lost books and told her to lay quietly for awhile. Next thing I know she's taken more books from the bookshelf.
I send home daily notes but don't write a lot of things down because to be honest, if I were a dcparent I would be so disheartened if that's all I ever heard was the negative side of their day. I catch her being good and compliment her for being a good friend or helper. But for her, it's mostly the naughty side I see.
I'm at my wit's end with this one. I love her to pieces and don't want to give up on her but need to start thinking outside of the box for her. I truly believe most of what she does is for attention. There's only so far I can stretch myself with the group.
Any ideas? She just seems to take so much time away from our day that I end up spending more time searching for things she's hidden, fixing a broken heart, or keeping her from harm.
Oh and another thing...when she uses the bathroom she'll take 10 minutes or so, just sitting there playing around. I just don't have an extra 10 minutes to stand there and make sure she doesn't get into trouble. She has dropped 2 rolls of toilet paper into the toilet on separate occasions. She dumped soap all over the floor in front of the toilet the other day. I asked her what happened and she told me she spit. It was slippery like soap so I have no clue. Lots of times I will pop in and out watching her and the others.
Please don't tell me to let her go because she needs more one on one care. I'm not quite to that point yet. I feel like I need something new that I'm not thinking of.
I do need to talk with the mom. But it seems like every time I say something I end up feeling like it's my fault, something I'm not doing, or she's very discouraged. Her dh works a lot so much of this falls on her shoulders and she's already terribly overwhelmed as it is. If I could improve dcg's behavior without bringing it all onto her shoulders, I'd prefer that. I know she does what she can at home. I need to come up with a plan for here.
So sorry so long!!!
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