Very Rude When Picking Up Kids...

[DanceMom]

Have you ever had a mom ( or dad ) when picking up...not look at you, not ask about their childs day and just leaves ?

Happened with a mom today..I get if your having a bad day but dont be rude..you can at least say goodbye, thank you, have a good fricken weekend, something ! My God if I could terminate people because of their rudeness I would ! Well I could, but you know..::

[MommyMuffin]

My BIGGEST pet peeve is RUDE people. Nothing gets my blood boiling more, so I can understand. I would smile and say have a great weekend(through clenched teeth)...shut the door and smile to yourself and think... I am a great buisness woman and a really good actress!!

[momma2girls]

I have done this to parents that act rude- or ask stupid question after question-say very loudly have a good night, and slam the door, and say something under my breath when they leave!!

[ninosqueridos]

I would smile and say have a great weekend(through clenched teeth)...shut the door and smile to yourself and think... I am a great buisness woman and a really good actress!!

This is what I did to a certain dcm. And then termed eventually for that & other issues.

[MarinaVanessa]

Yup rude but kill 'em with kindness. Don't you just love it that parents can have bad days and completely give you the cold shoulder on their off days but the one day that you are tired, or just not feeling yourself and your smile isn't a great big bundle of sunshine they immediately want to play 20 questions to figure out what is wrong ::.

[Jewels]

when I had my son in daycare there was a couple days where I was so annoyed at the provider that I could barely say hi, because I was so mad, so I picked my son up once and barely said a word or looked at her, just grabbed my son and left.

[DanceMom]

when I had my son in daycare there was a couple days where I was so annoyed at the provider that I could barely say hi, because I was so mad, so I picked my son up once and barely said a word or looked at her, just grabbed my son and left.

So are you saying she was probably annoyed with me ? :: Screw her..if she is then take your child somewhere else. I have ZERO time for people that treat me like crap no matter how bad of a day you are having. I take care of your child for 11 hours everyday...I think a "Have a nice weekend" isnt so hard to do. Suck it up - I sure wouldnt treat the person caring for MY child like crap. ( Unless of course I hated her then my kid wouldnt be there to begin with ) But I know this isnt the case with me as she usually is very bubbly, gives me thank you cards and says how blessed her family is to have me caring for her daughters )

Everyone is allowed a bad day of course, but it gives you no right to be a jerk to another person - it just doesnt. You can Fake a smile if you have to.

[momofboys]

when I had my son in daycare there was a couple days where I was so annoyed at the provider that I could barely say hi, because I was so mad, so I picked my son up once and barely said a word or looked at her, just grabbed my son and left.

I can understand that but if you are annoyed about something how does it help the situation to not voice your concerns to the provider? The provider can do nothing about changing things if she knows nothing of the problem. Just saying. . . .

[QualiTcare]

So are you saying she was probably annoyed with me ? :: Screw her..if she is then take your child somewhere else. I have ZERO time for people that treat me like crap no matter how bad of a day you are having. I take care of your child for 11 hours everyday...I think a "Have a nice weekend" isnt so hard to do. Suck it up - I sure wouldnt treat the person caring for MY child like crap. ( Unless of course I hated her then my kid wouldnt be there to begin with ) But I know this isnt the case with me as she usually is very bubbly, gives me thank you cards and says how blessed her family is to have me caring for her daughters )

Everyone is allowed a bad day of course, but it gives you no right to be a jerk to another person - it just doesnt. You can Fake a smile if you have to.

well, if she NORMALLY is nice - which you say she is - i'd really try to shrug it off. if she was having "just a bad day" then yeah, maybe she could've faked a smile, but you have NO IDEA what may be going on. keep in mind, we're talking about someone who is normally friendly and tells you how thankful she is. she could've just seen her husband in the car with another woman or found out her mother has cancer for all you know. maybe she was sick. if she does the same thing on monday, maybe you should ask her if she's okay. if she has a problem with you - that'll be her opportunity to say so.

[DanceMom]

well, if she NORMALLY is nice - which you say she is - i'd really try to shrug it off. if she was having "just a bad day" then yeah, maybe she could've faked a smile, but you have NO IDEA what may be going on. keep in mind, we're talking about someone who is normally friendly and tells you how thankful she is. she could've just seen her husband in the car with another woman or found out her mother has cancer for all you know. maybe she was sick. if she does the same thing on monday, maybe you should ask her if she's okay. if she has a problem with you - that'll be her opportunity to say so.

The kind of person that I am - I will give a smile and have a nice day...no matter WHAT is going on. I expect too much of people and that is apparantly a huge problem of my own. She is normally nice but there has been times shes been short, which is fine..but this time it was nada. She looked pissed..and if I would have had the chance to ask her what was up..I would have however she was so quick out the door and I wasnt about to run after her.

[Unregistered]

I'll second Qualitcare's advice. If someone who was usually cheerful and bubbly with me, called her family blessed because I cared for her child, suddenly came in and completely ignored me when picking up her child, I wouldn't be thinking she was a jerk and getting all worked up over it. Her actions in the past would earn her the benefit of the doubt. I'd be thinking that either she was sick or that something was wrong. I might even say a prayer for her. BUT, if she did this all the time, that's something else. I'd be angry too. But if just once or twice, I'd be more concerned than angry. If you are never that way, be thankful - that's a wonderful trait to have.

[QualiTcare]

The kind of person that I am - I will give a smile and have a nice day...no matter WHAT is going on. I expect too much of people and that is apparantly a huge problem of my own. She is normally nice but there has been times shes been short, which is fine..but this time it was nada. She looked pissed..and if I would have had the chance to ask her what was up..I would have however she was so quick out the door and I wasnt about to run after her.

dancemom, that's easy to say you'd be smiling no matter WHAT was happening - but if it's something extreme (like the examples i mentioned) you don't know how you would act - and probably wouldn't even be tuned in enough to realize you weren't being nice. really, you can't say you'd give a smile and have a nice day if you just found out devastating news like someone was in the hospital or dying or just found out your husband was cheating. if you can say for sure that you'd be perky under those circumstances - you should call stan lee cus you are def. superhuman.

[DanceMom]

dancemom, that's easy to say you'd be smiling no matter WHAT was happening - but if it's something extreme (like the examples i mentioned) you don't know how you would act - and probably wouldn't even be tuned in enough to realize you weren't being nice. really, you can't say you'd give a smile and have a nice day if you just found out devastating news like someone was in the hospital or dying or just found out your husband was cheating. if you can say for sure that you'd be perky under those circumstances - you should call stan lee cus you are def. superhuman.

I guess I am superhuman then - my father attempted suicide and when I found out 1 hour before pick ups - I still managed a smile and have a good night.

Really..it isnt THAT difficult to muster up in any situation.

To the Ungregistered guest : I am not getting all worked up over it. It was a vent..which I see many on this board doing - forgive me for venting when someone is an ass to me.

Thank you also, because it is a trait I do have and unfortunately expect others to have. Its treating people with respect no matter your situation. I have nothing to do with why this mom is angry ( at least I dont think so ) so to treat me like that..disrepectful, its uncalled for.

That is MY OPINION..which obviously everyone is allowed their opinion as I respect yours and Quailmoms and am not about to bash either one of you and tell you you need to call blah blah because your not superhuman.

[Unregistered]

I'm sorry Dancemom if I came off as criticizing your remarks. That was not my intent and you certainly have the right to vent.

[MommyMuffin]

Regaurdless of the circumstances...at the end of the day it is still respectful when parting with someone to give some kind of acknowledgment.