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I worked with a girl the other day who threatens the 2 yr olds with a small pop on the bottom to make them take their naps. Some of the kids get the spanking and others she just threatenes. I live in SC. and I know this is not allowed. I told the director who then asked her about it and the girl denied it. What should be done now?
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How do you know she spanks her Kids?
Just curious - How do you know she does that?
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I was in the room. She told me to cover my ears.Comment
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Spank her back!
Umm i'm pretttty sure that's illegal and you can turn her in for it. I would start by calling social services, they probably run the department for licensing child care businesses. Find out the law in your area and see what you can do. And if you have a child in there i'd get them out!
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agrre
I agree with herComment
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You never, ever, ever, ever hit a child. If that lady pulled that crap with me I would have A. punched her in the face then i would call CPS on her!!Comment
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I run a daycare center just across the border in NC. TURN THAT WOMAN IN! I know the daycare laws like the back of my hand, stricking a child in any way in a child care center in the Carolinas can get you up to a year or more in prison.
Come on stricking a child to get them to take a nap?! Children are not always tired, I let my kids who can't sleep play quietly on their mats or look through books, this woman doesn't need to e around children in any way,Comment
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All of the above and.................
Out of courtesy to the owner of the childcare my first conversation would be with her. Allow the owner to be the one to call CPS but make certain that it is done.Comment
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That is the #1 rule, you can't hit someone elses child! If I were you I would approach the director again,and tell her you belive this to be true, and you can't stand by and let it go on. Either she fire the girl, or you are prepared to call CPS, and if that happens it will look really bad for the director as the school would get bad publicity.Originally posted by mustangsally View PostComment
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Mandated Reporter
Most people who work with children are designated as "mandated reporters" of suspected child abuse or neglect. If you fail to report what you see and/or hear, you are subject to criminal prosecution. You do not have a choice except to make the report to your state agency, not the center director. Additionally, since you reported to the director, she is also mandated by law to report to the state agency. You can see South Carolina requirements at: http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwi....processSearch
Along with your legal requirements, you also have a moral requirement to the children in your care to protect them. Call now, if you haven't already.Comment
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omg people! ya'll overreact sometimes
When my youngest was 2 she would NOT go to sleep without a "spanking". LOL It wasn't a real spanking! I tapped her on her bottom *GENTLY* and said, "Now you go meme". When I brought her to my mom's home in KY (we lived in AZ), and my mom saw Danielle's "spanking" each night she thought I was horrid. I told her to put her to bed herself.
The following night, mom put Danielle to bed. Less than 3 minutes later Danielle was out of bed and dancing down the hallway. After about the 8th time of my mom putting her to bed mom said, "Well now bull...if that were my daughter I'd bust her little butt."
I cracked up. Really all that was needed was a PAT on her bottom....no need to really SPANK her.
Later she spent the night at my sisters. She was around 3. Time for bed and all tucked in Danielle told my sister, "Aren't you gonna spank me"! We STILL laugh about it to this day!
That child may just be used to a TAP on her bottom! Lord knows Danielle was NEVER abused, and she's a responsible, creative, independent 25 year old who never gets spanked to go to bed now.
ROFL
Lighten UP, people.
At least KNOW what you're talking about before you go reporting people to child protective services. You can DAMAGE a family and a child, if you're wrong!Comment
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Were not talking about a mother dicplining her child! And as a daycare provider who has been falsley reported before to CPS, this is not a subject i take lightly! I also have children myself and would never allow a provider to "Pat, spank, swat whatever you like to call it" my child!!! Period! Nor would i ever hit a child that was entrused to my care!Originally posted by Unregistered View PostComment
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Spanking....
Why don't you try to sit beside them on the floor and try rubbing their back or reading a story... or singing to them.... Pay attention to them... what a concept that would be.....???
If you believe in spanking someone elses child... I don't think child care is for you.Comment
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My former daycare provider....
I took my daughter to a provider for years. From the time she was 6 months old to when she was in the first grade. My oldest daughter also occassionally went there on long breaks, etc. This woman became like family even though she was a stranger when I started taking my daughter to her licensed home daycare. It has been over five years since the younger daughter was there.
Recently, and I mean just within the past few months, my younger daughter who is now 11 told me that this lady used to spank HARD. For her to remember that, it must have been regularly, and severely. My older daughter confirmed that she witnessed it, too. I was absolutely floored. I had no idea. And I do not know what caused them not to tell me about it when they were little.
What makes it worse is that I got really sick and my parents were keeping my daughters for me (I was a single mom). The younger one was two years old then and she stood up in her high chair at mom and dad's and fell out, breaking her arm. They called me and I met them at the hospital. When they did the x ray, an angry doctor came out and confronted me (I was laying down on a couch in the waiting room) and said that her arm had been broken before. I knew NOTHING about it. I was so upset. I felt like a terrible mom because I did not know. It was a hairline fracture, but still.
He was going to call CPS right then and there because he thought I was abusing my child and did not believe the high chair incident, either. I was very, very sick with mononucleosis which is why my girls had been staying with my parents, and I mustered up every bit of strength that I had to yell back at him and tell him that I was not even THERE when she fell out of her highchair, and had no knowledge of her breaking her arm prior to that, which I felt bad enough about in the first place.
The doctor calmed down then, but questioned where she was during the day, and it never dawned on me that this lady could have been abusing her at daycare. I did ask the provider if she ever remembered my daughter crying or falling or anything, and of course she said "no". Now that my kids told me that she had spanked them so much, I wonder if she did not in fact break her arm in the process of hitting her. There's nothing I can do about it now, but I just feel like a failure as a parent because I did not know.
The lady does not do daycare anymore. I think she quit doing it about a year or two after we left the area. She went back to her old job. Thank goodness she does not still do daycare otherwise more kids would be in the hands of an abuser. And I'm convinced based on what my daughters said that it was more than a swat, which I would NOT have been okay with in the first place. There is a difference in a parent swatting their children (if they do that) and someone else entrusted to their care breaking the law where those things are concerned.Comment
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In some states it is not against the law for a provider to spank the children that are in his/her care. For example: Indiana State law.....Indiana
Law does not limit right of parent/guardian/custodian to use reasonable corporal punishment when disciplining a child.
§ 31-34-1-15. [Civil Code]
[Indiana Revised Code]
I'm really sorry your child had to go through that!Comment
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